<p>Oh come on. Wah. Just wah. By 17/18 you should be able to handle it. If not, don’t use Facebook. </p>
<p>I’ve posted some of my more prestigious acceptances for grad school and when I got my full ride and more. Why shouldn’t I? I’ve worked my petunia off for many many years and I’m darn proud. Keep scrolling or don’t go on during your senior year if you can’t handle it.</p>
<p>I post things about my kids, do not get me wrong, but not SAT scores and certainly not on a daily basis…but I do have fb friends who are like SteveMA’s fb friend and it is obnoxious. I am much more apt to notice ones like jsmathwiz than someone who posts every single thing their amazing child has done.</p>
<p>I am friends with a lot of my kid’s friends and I love reading where they are accepted and where they are going to end up going…they have worked hard and deserve to enjoy their success.</p>
<p>I get really tired of having to worry about everybody’s feelings. If your child has worked hard and has accomplished a goal (whatever that may be), then by all means, SHARE it! Life isn’t fair, period. That is no reason we have to stop celebrating the good because someone can’t have their feelings hurt. Ugh…</p>
<p>As a student there’s definitely a difference between being excited and posting on Facebook (even if it is a bit annoying after one person posts 15 acceptances because they applied so many places) and just being obnoxious. I had a friend brag on Facebook that she got into UCLA and about how she was so excited to reject them, even though on the same day there were many statuses from our mutual friends about how they didn’t get into their number one pick UCLA. I didn’t apply there but I just found it rude that she was only excited to be able to reject them when so many people wanted in that didn’t get in</p>
<p>Charlie–I agree–that was rude and insensitive----and possibly not even true that she got in??</p>
<p>I read an interesting article recently that talked about how we have changed from a society where people understand the behavioral expectations to one where the rules need to be spelled out specifically. This sounds like another good example of that.</p>
<p>At my daughter’s high school, they got to ditch the uniform top for the college sweatshirt for any school where they were accepted. The beauty of that policy was that the girls had to bring in their acceptance letter before they were allowed to wear the college shirt. Nobody could brag that they got in some place they had not, and it was a great way for the school to track acceptances.</p>
<p>At my son’s school the college counselor had a board where she posted the acceptances. My son suggested another board where kids could **voluntarily **post their own rejection letters, in an effort to make other kids feel better about any of their bad news. He got into some great schools but didn’t mind sharing his high profile rejections. 
I thought it was a nice gesture, but the college counselor nixed it for some reason.</p>
<p>I wonder if this school keeps athletic achievements as quiet as academic ones? Are athletic recruits told to sign their letters of intent in private?</p>
<p>If your child has that much difficulty seeing others posting their college admission successes, you should probably pull their computer access. My D was rejected from half the schools where she applied. I posted her acceptances. Facebook is largely how I communicate with family and friends these days. Relatives want to see the links to the newspaper articles. My dad prints them all out…lol. When she got her acceptance to Michigan, I posted “She could follow her uncle’s foot steps and be a Wolverine!” and when she got into Barnard, I posted “If she can make it there, she’ll make it anywhere! Yes from Barnard!” </p>
<p>If people don’t want to read that stuff, they can unfriend me. If peers don’t want to see it, they can unfriend those kids. They know who the “top school” kids are anyway. They’ve known since grade school who gets all As and who doesn’t. </p>
<p>I love seeing stuff like that about my friends’ kids. My FIRST friend, who I met in kindergarten, has a daughter the same age as mine. They live across the state now. It was fun going through all that together, just like we went through our pregnancies together… and our own college admissions together. We did a lot of reminiscing last year while cheering on our daughters.</p>
<p>Charlie, that UCLA friend sounds like a jerk. What poor judgment.</p>
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<p>jsmathwiz, you have every reason to be proud–congratulations. I just hope parents whose kids have more modest ambitions or accomplishments feel equally comfortable reporting their kids’ news. </p>
<p>What I’ve noticed is that the majority of people who comment on a parent’s “brag” have NO IDEA what the parent is posting about unless they have kids of similar ages, and even then not always. “Joey just got NMSF!” or “Ashley is going to be a (insert mascot name) next year!!” usually doesn’t get much more feedback than a general “congratulations!”</p>
<p>How about this: If our friends onFB were true friends, they would be happy to hear good news. BUT that is the problem. I have a pie chart about The People Who Friend You on Facebook I use for a class I teach and the chart has four pieces. Three of them are nearly equal: people you hated in high school, people you hated in college, people you hate at work. Then it has a tiny little sliver of actual friends. FB friends are not really friends or they are happy for you.</p>
<p>SteveMA I think she may have posted a picture of the acceptance, she really loved another school and by the time decisions came out knew that she 100% wanted to go there so everything else was just bragging rights to her</p>
<p>I guess that’s true for a lot of people. I don’t have any FB friends that I don’t genuinely like. I did NOT go through my old HS year book and friend everyone. Only close friends and relatives and a few acquaintances that I truly respect.</p>
<p>I definitely didn’t friend any of the people I hated in high school. I definitely only friend people from work who I genuinely like. And I definitely only friend people from college that I really like. The others are all sorority sisters who I genuinely like. Why would I friend people I don’t like?</p>
<p>Why the heck would you add someone you dislike??</p>
<p>I GOT friended from a lot of people I didn’t care for in high school and wouldn’t like now. I went to a very small school so it would have seemed rude not to accept.</p>
<p>As my Facebook universe has expanded, I have had some weird IRL experiences. The other day I saw a woman at a store who I had never met in person, but who had friended me on FB. I wasn’t sure she would even know who I was, so I didn’t go up and say hi to her. What a strange world we live in…</p>
<p>Have you looked at the number of friends most young people have accumulated? They do not know many of the people they are linked to through FB.</p>
<p>I know. I guess my point was that at least for some of us, if we post good news about our kids, there is a fairly large percentage of the audience that cares on some level. My FB is how all of my cousins, aunts, uncles, siblings, etc. stay in touch.</p>