@bsmom2004 I would not read much into the going home thing as long as she said it casually. When I was in a class building I would say to the teacher “Hey, can I run home real quick? I left my computer there on accident”, even though my dorm was just a few seconds away. It’s just words.
@M0hammad Sorry, I had not seen that you said you were a student, my bad!
No worries 
thanks for the help!
I would hesitate to say anything about how separating twins or other siblings would affect relationships; it’s too dependent on the individuals involved and the individual circumstances. Overall, I don’t think it’s a good thing, but the positives for one or both children may outweigh the negatives, as they did for us.
My situation is a little different, but my sister attends college and I do not live with my brother, so I can pitch in a little bit–separation has not negatively affected our relationships; in fact, I would say we’re closer when we aren’t in close enough proximity to get angry with each other.
So glad you asked this question, MO. The responses answered questions I didn’t even know I had, LOL. I’m a little worried that my child won’t stay in contact enough, smh.
That’s a good point, @CavsFan2003 regarding siblings. I think that just as the parent/teen relationship can improve when you eliminate the day-to-day stress and aggravation, I think it’s similar for some siblings. My guys’ love for each other often gets swallowed by the constant bickering, competition, and one-upsmanship, but I think they are closer now. When DS1 comes home they usually disappear giggling together for a few hours, and DS1 has become a very mature and supportive older bro. Obviously there are other siblings for whom the separation is very hard, but I think there can be an upside too.
Hearing several years ago from a parent at my kids’ middle school talk about the improved relations with her teens after they went to BS was one of the earliest things that led me to think that BS could have benefits and wasn’t a banishment.
@MariFeigh It may very well be that your child will not stay in as close contact with you as you would like when away at boarding school–that was the case early on with us–but I don’t think that’s at all indicative of the strength of the family relationship but rather a by-product of them being busy, making new friends, and trying to soak in the boarding school experience. You will love them no less when they’re gone. Nor will they love you any less.
If you child is anything like ours, they will appreciate how difficult it is for parents to allow their children to attend school away from home, appreciate that you’re willing to make the sacrifice for them, and appreciate the faith in them that you’ve shown by allowing them the independence, and they’ll love you the more for it.
Well said @CaliPops !!
Thanks for the encouragement, @CaliPops!
Speaking from the perspective of a student here. I’ve been going to boarding school for 3 years and my family lives on the other side of the country. They come out for the first parents weekend of the year, and I see them over breaks (on average 1x every 4-5 weeks), but I don’t get to see them every weekend or at special schools events. I have a specific day that I call my family every week that works best for us. Both my family and I figured out quickly that it was less stressful to have to try and coordinate when a good time to talk would be if we just knew that it was the same day and general time every week.
I distance myself from my family for the first few weeks after I get to school and the first couple days after a break, meaning I have minimal to no communication with them. Homesickness is really easily triggered by hearing your family members voice or being told about what’s going on at home. If your kid doesn’t want to talk for a few weeks while they get adjusted or distance themselves, please try to not take it personally! It is a method of coping with being away from home.