I would just point out that we don’t really know what the RA is doing or not doing. This is all second-hand or third-hand information.
Edited to add: it may be fourth-hand information, since it isn’t the OP’s child who is involved, but the child of a friend.
^^^ very true
I agree Hunt, the RA’s role is fuzzy. There appears to be another person at the dorm addressing this problem and the the RA is following instructions. There may be people behind the scenes moving heaven and earth to get the girl help.
This has been helpful especially for understanding the need for the young woman to control the next events that happen. Perhaps there is more of a process going on than I am aware of.
This thread is mighty short on facts and l-o-n-g on conjecture.
Just one Dad, the thread was intentionally vague to protect anything that might be identifying. All of the responses were helpful and the young woman is getting the help she needs.
Glad to hear that reddoor. Hope she is OK and your friend’s daughter as well. Thanks for updating.
please do update us.
It may be that the RA’s are told to hand the matter over to someone else within the university, and to direct all of those who have information to that person.
I am so, so very sorry for this young lady, and would be happy to put a bullet through the head of the perpetrator(s). And you know how I feel about guns!
I am glad the young lady is getting help.
Good luck to her.
“The woman is talking about harming herself. Keeping her safe is the most important priority, bar none – it’s more important than filing a police report or anything else. I would contact the rape counselors at the school anonymously”
This. It’s really the ONLY thing that matters as long as the danger continues. The victims’ friend should call the university counseling center or a self-harm/suicide crisis hotline on an emergency basis and then follow their instructions.