<p>So its my first week of college, and I tried to introduce myself to people. I started with my hall, since my hall is a suite building its much harder to get to know people. So anyway, as I went around, every floor has a theme. One floor is the music floor, theater, art, and diversity floor. In every floor every person has some amazing talent. Like I meant this really cool band, that makes some awesome music, they even have a recording studio in their room. Then I meant some artists, poets, actors, and other cool artsy type people. I happen to even have a roommate in their own band. I met a girl from Japan, and she makes some really cool clothes (she's majors in fashion). So after doing all this, I went to my side of the room, and thought "there isn't anything special about me". Like I feel inadequate being by these people, the only cool thing about me is that I love to have deep conversations and talk about life. We had meetings, and I was that kid who brought everything into a discussion. But anyway, I happen to love art, music, and poetry, so I made myself friends with them but I don't have any talent or anything special. Has anyone else felt this way? Or is it just me?</p>
<p>Assuming ur telling the truth about those people, I can assure you no matter how “cool” you think they are, they also have occasional thoughts of in adequacy (or at least they view themselves modestly) May I ask how does a college freshman earn the title actor, poet, etc?</p>
<p>So what theme is your floor?</p>
<p>Their not freshmen (well most of them), I live in a mixed dorm hall, so there’s all classes. Most of them were upper clansmen, and I called them that because their in theater so they act, and one write poetry so she’s a poet. I’m not sure, but I thought they refer to people like that in English. . .</p>
<p>uh so assuming you are attending a selective college then that is sort of part of the package, being around smart and talented people. </p>
<p>But I would say that there are other things besides the fact of these people’s talents that are probably influencing you to feel the way you do. Like, if you had already made really great friendships then that’s probably not something you would be concerning yourself with, if you know what I mean. You only tend worry about these things when you are in the process of making new friends, when you feel vulnerable, and so on.</p>
<p>So that’s good news because probably most of your insecurities are really not reflective of reality at all and pretty irrational. That’s awesome that you like deep conversations and to talk about life - to me that’s more special than whatever talents you seem to think you don’t have. </p>
<p>I know its not as obvious a quality, not something you can mention as easily, which is maybe the hard thing. I can see why you feel like maybe you lack a clear identity in comparison to some of the other people. But those identities are pretty meaningless beyond their utility in making yourself sound interesting when you introduce yourself in my opinion</p>
<p>good luck settling in…</p>
<p>You are just young. You will grow into not caring what people think about you.</p>
<p>Haha, I’ve felt that all my life. Everyone around me had their thing, and was better at it than me. I was good at a lot of things, but I was never the best at anything. It made me feel like I had no direction or anything to make me stand out. And it was even worse when everyone else started becoming good at everything, so I couldn’t even be the best generalist. But you have something to bring to the table, even if it seems everyone else is some sort of artistic genius. I agree with enfieldacademy, that this is partly your insecurity and the fact that you don’t know anyone yet. For all you know, they could be looking at you and thinking, “wow…that person’s really thought about this a lot. How come I never have those sorts of ideas? All I can do is paint…” Just be confident, but not arrogant. Acknowledge their talent, but don’t degrade yourself. You’ll probably find that they have more in common with you than you thought.</p>
<p>This is why I just ignore people. If you read half of the “chances” threads on here you’d think that getting a 2300 SAT and a 4.9 W GPA would qualify you for mental retardation status. Do your own thing and eff what everyone else is doing.</p>
<p>If most of them are upperclassmen like you say then I guarantee you that most of them had the same doubts you do when they were freshman. They’ve simply figured out who they want to be and found their niches. You have to find one now.</p>
<p>They are going to college to be a poet?</p>
<p>…geez</p>
<p>^^ shhh you’ll wake up ilovepiano.</p>
<p>Toxic, is there anything you like to do? What drives you? What creates a fire within you?</p>
<p>I’m in the same boat as you toxic.
I just want to feel important.</p>