Fight between college roommates leaves 1 dead

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<p>This happened in my freshman D's dormitory this morning. She woke up to police in and around the dorm, crime tape, news teams. I cannot believe this happened--just horrible. Apparently the two rommates were having trouble. The murdered girl had filed complaints and then moved off campus. She had returned for an unknown reason this morning, an argument ensued and the other girl stabbed her. The girl who died is the first person in her family to attend college. </p>

<p>This comes after a freshman girl committed suicide in another dormitory two weeks ago.</p>

<p>That is really scary. It just seems like nothing is safe anymore.</p>

<p>Aw, man, this is dreadful.</p>

<p>This scares the you-know-what out of me. You read stories about roommate problems on this website and you think they're exaggerating. Looks like universities are going to have to start taking these things way more seriously.</p>

<p>How/why did the girl have a knife?</p>

<p>My daughter tells me that what others are saying is that the suspect had a knife that is a weapon...not an eating utensil or scissors. There is a policy at UA of no guns, knives, weapons, etc., but they don't do any searches.</p>

<p>A more detailed story is at <a href="http://www.tucsoncitizen.com%5B/url%5D"&gt;www.tucsoncitizen.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>The roommate has been charged with first degree murder. If you go to the UA website, they are updating the information regularly.</p>

<p>I forgot to add that both of these girls are Native American and are a part of the Native American First Year Scholars Program and the girl who died was a member of NHS. She was the first in her family to attend college.</p>

<p>Just such a waste, a tragedy.</p>

<p>Speech, how is your daughter doing with this?</p>

<p>So far she says she is doing okay but she has a tendency to keep her emotions in check. I will be checking in with her often. Today was her busiest class day, so that was a blessing to be occupied. </p>

<p>I am very upset about this. I cannot imagine what the families of these two girls are experiencing. It is just unbelievable.</p>

<p>What a dreadful thing. Our thoughts are with you, your D and her fellow students.</p>

<p>I'm sorry your family is going through this, speech. This is really awful for freshman just leaving home to be exposed to something so violent. And of course, horrible for the families of the two girls.</p>

<p>I don't understand...the article says that the problems between the students had been going on "for weeks" and that the one student had moved out 8 days after class started. They are both freshman...did they spend the summer on campus as part of the program? It seems like the Office of Residential Life knew all about the conflict...how could it come to this?</p>

<p>This is very sad, not to mention scary.</p>

<p>Between this and the suicide in my dd's dorm, my dd is feeling like moving back home after this semester.</p>

<p>barbpol, a freshman committed suicide? this early in the year? Poor child and how terribly sad for her family.</p>

<p>I am not telling my daughter about either of these incidents. She was nervous enough about leaving home.</p>

<p>There was a possible suicide on the campus my son attends as well. He told me that they sent everyone on campus an email about it. I believe that it was called "an unattended death".</p>

<p>speech
please be sensitive to a sort of delayed post traumatic reaction from your D. My D attended ASU as a freshman during the 9/11 attack (and we're from NY and her cousin's H was a fireman who persished) the following fall there was a death in her dorm..a young man overdosed and his girlfriend was arrested and charged b/c she left him,didnt call for help and "posed" his body to make it look like a suicide rather than an overdose.
In both cases ,my D had a reaction but not until later on in the year.She took advantage of on campus health and counseling services both times.
This makes me think of another thread a parent started where she stepped in to remove her S from a dorm room situation where the roommate was discovered to have a knife and was making "off kilter" remarks.She thought she might be overreacting but this situation shows what can happen.</p>

<p>Thanks to all for your kind concern. I am expecting some fallout later from my D. She has always been stoic about difficult events in her life, then will tell me all about it weeks later when she has processed it all. It's not the best way to deal with things for some people, but this has been her style since she was skinning her knees as a toddler. No tears--just keep her chin up. This was not taught by either me or my husband--she just did it.</p>

<p>Anyway--students moved on campus at UA as early as Aug 15 (for Rush) and Aug 16 for those not in Rush. Classes started Aug 20. There was a suicide about 10 days into the start of school. A sophomore girl hung herself in her dorm room.</p>

<p>My D told me today that most of the students on the hall where the stabbing occurred have moved out temporarily. She did not know where they went, but it would have to be a hotel as the residence halls are filled.</p>

<p>The university is providing counseling to anyone who requests it.</p>

<p>In addition to these two terrible deaths, a minor event happened the third day she was there, too....a small fire broke out in the dorm next to hers. No damage but it brought out the FD and was a bit unnerving for her.</p>

<p>Since the murder, I call her to chit chat daily but she is on to me. She told me that she is okay and that everyone is "moving on" and noone talks about it. </p>

<p>I am here with open arms--which I could wrap them around her.</p>

<p>Wow, this is so incredibly sad and scary. Speech, I cannot even imagine how you & your D must be feeling right now. =(</p>