Financial aid bitter

<p>Kak123
I feel it is totally wrong that my daughter is paying for 1-3 other people to go to college. She pays full price well many pay nothing or very little That is how FASFA works it takes from people who are successful and give to the less. We reward the people who do nothing or cheat on their claimed income and punish the ones that work hard. The system is completely backwards. mark my words this will change in the near future or else everyone will stop doing anything. </p>

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<p>Since this thread was locked and I thought to start a new one. I'm not new to this site
and as my id indicates I've learned a lot from you, so I wanna say thanks. After reading above I became concerned because so many folks think like this. For those that agree with KaK123, let me say that it's wrong to blame others for your decision. You are not paying for 1-3 others. You are paying what the school felt you could/would pay
regardless of the actual cost. You also had other options..........</p>

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<li>Your state school where you daughter would get in-state tuition instead of full pay. </li>
<li>Merit schools within your daughter's reach.<br></li>
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<p>This is what many of us did and I haven't read many folks feeling bitter about those
decisions. </p>

<p>FYI about the American Economy...........If EVERY poor/low income/broke person
suddenly pulled themselves up, increased their income beyond need............what
do you think would happen?
1. The (economy) bar would be raised
2. Tuition rates and fees would increase until it hurts
And now we are back to the same problem......Some that can pay and most who could not. </p>

<p>Btw, FASFA does not give or take any money from anyone. So don't be bitter or teach
your daughter bitterness against others you perceive is getting a better shake.</p>

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This person is incorrect. The FAFSA is the Free Application for Federal Student Aid. This money comes from the federal government, not full-pay tuition dollars (though it can be traced to taxes). As far as the school-specific aid… Some of that may come from tuition, but it’s my understanding that most comes from alumni donations. Also, this Ayn Rand-esque idea of “everyone will stop doing anything” is na</p>

<p>I pay an enormous amount of money in property tax which goes to the district schools and I don’t use them. Neither do my childless neighbors. We all pay a lot in taxes for stuff we don’t use and sometimes we might get more than we pay on some corner. Some times we are grateful to pay and not use, like for medical premiums. </p>

<p>When you pick a place to make your home and you have kids, you think about where they will be going to school. School doesn’t end for those of us with college aspirations for our kids, at 12th grade. So if you want to a good, affordable public school choice for your kid for college, live near one. I point fingers at states that do not have good public college options in highly populated areas–shame on them. That is something that I strongly feel needs to be fixed and quickly. But don’t blame the fact that you can’t pay for a sleep away private college on anyone. That is a luxury. </p>

<p>I have felt for years, however, that these cost increases are getting into the ridiculous range and if I had the clout, I would change the system, but not the way many people want. I’d take the state and federal money from the privates and start rebuilding the the state schools so that they can offer more residents college at more affordable prices. Let Harvard raise their price to $200K a year per kid. They’ll have to just cut back and go in their endowment for even more kids to go there. Too bad. Many folks willing to sell the house to send their kid their, hell, sell a kidney or lung for that. Let them. Why are we so heavily subsidizing the private colleges. Double PELL and loan subsidies and increase the income thresh holds for those going to the state schools and forget the privates for that. Also with money the states have that they are giving private schools, they can lower their tuitions. Some states have ridiculous amounts for 4 year state colleges.</p>

<p>Think about this: one reason many kids don’t want to go to their state school (and I don’t mean the really great ones) is that a large proportion of the other students just aren’t top college material. In some states, including mine, the threshhold is set low- you can have a C average, have taken easy classes, have an easy major in mind and apply as late as May or June, after all other schools have rejected you. And, take years to graduate, if ever. So, in my kid’s major, the classes are dumbed down- we know a number of profs there who complain about this necessity. </p>

<p>It’s different if a lesser state school has one or two premier majors. It’s often different for kids majoring in math-sci, where the bar is, in general, set higher. Yes, most state U’s have honor tracks, but the campus community is affected by the whole student body.</p>

<p>Can we demand these problem state U’s increase their competitiveness? Not as things now stand. In states where the flagship is superior (say, UNC, UVA, Berkeley,) there are numerous lesser state school choices available. Not true in all states and the mandate is to offer state kids an option. </p>

<p>It’s not true that ALL kids who get a college degree somehow benefit from the experience. Not when it’s just glorified high school. For many kids who want strenuous and want to be pushed by highly qualified peers, their staties won’t do it. This is also applicable to those third and fourth tier schools that take high percentages of applicants and keep a slower pace. So, its natural these kids look at competitive LACs. No?</p>

<p>I know all this sounds awful, but isn’t it a real factor?</p>

<p>Lookingforward, if a kid is far above the state flagship and would feel uncomfortable then surely they have another option and will qualify for merit aid somewhere else.<br>
There is a CC thread where the parent looked at all merit aid schools and considered
those within their kid’s reach/stats that would ensure merit aid. Instead of KAK123
taking this option, they probably went the “dream school” route and now is bitter. My concern is, that bitterness is being directed toward students who have real need.</p>

<p>The flagship state U’s can provide plenty of academic rigor and advanced material. I was looking at a third tier (I think) state u’s offering, both DH and I and their books and materials were way up there. The school has a graduate program in that discipline and there are students from HPY studying for PHDs and teaching there. No dearth of excellence there. </p>

<p>I am a huge LAC proponent, yet I could see how at some of the smaller LACs a kid who gets a niche interest in a discipline would not have the opportunities to get as far as the kid at such a university simply because of the lack of a graduate program.</p>

<p>A friend of our’s son graduated top of his class at a top school and is now pursuing his PHD and doing research. He’s at a major state university that is absolutely leading edge with some of the finest minds in that discipline. </p>

<p>The problem with the state universities is not for kids who are way up there in ability and knowledge. I cringe when I hear people give that as a reason for wanting their kids at HPY. It simply does not hold water.</p>

<p>Lookingfoward- Even though what you have posted sounds elitist, I have to agree with you! My d did not apply to any of our state schools for many reasons, but one being that of the mediocre education to be gotten there (even though our state system is huge and has a “good” reputation). </p>

<p>I have taken classes at some of our state colleges (recently) and from my first hand experience–yes–the education is dumbed down and in many cases worse than high school.</p>

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<p>Fail. What do you think has happened in the US over the last century?</p>

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You’re totally right. Poverty is eliminated. Yay!</p>

<p>What I meant is pretty clear. But if you didn’t get it, I’ll add on “within the context of the system.”</p>

<p>And be sure not to just look at one of the wealthiest countries. The whole group is humanity. Look at Africa, parts of Asia, parts of Latin America. Over the last several hundred years, they grew poorer, exploited, so the West could grow richer.</p>

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I agree. Large state universities have the resources necessary for these students to succeed, and to go as far as they wish.</p>

<p>“one reason many kids don’t want to go to their state school (and I don’t mean the really great ones) is that a large proportion of the other students just aren’t top college material.”</p>

<p>Couldn’t agree more. How horrible it would be for our tippy-top, super-smart offspring to have to be in the same classroom as a C student in a (gasp, horror) state school. And that C-student probably isn’t even paying! What is going on in this country, opening up higher education to the masses! It’s much smarter to keep first-generation college students and minorities and (gasp) C students in minimum-wage jobs or unemployed, rather than trying to give them a leg up through higher education. I wouldn’t want my gorgeous, smart, hard-working D to waste her time in the dumbed-down curriculum of a state school with students who are not top college material. She is genetically and intellectually superior, and deserves the best, but with merit aid. Never mind that these state school students might actually be good people.</p>

<p>Those kids who are way up there academically will not be in the same classes long with those who are not up to par in the state schools. In a major state university with graduate departments in a discipline, the sky is the limit in academic opportunites. Kids are not going to be coddled and there are fewer amenities, but if you are looking for pure academic challenge, you will find it.</p>

<p>BillyMc - If you don’t think it’s possible for human beings to create value, what brings you to a web site discussing higher education? Is education just to fill our idle minds while we lament our inherent inability to accomplish something?</p>

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Wow, you’re really distorting my post. I said that in the current US capitalist system, the entire lower class cannot rise and become middle/upper class without pushing others down, as the system relies upon a sizable lower/working-class. To eliminate “need” as the previous poster suggested, the system has to change. Never did I say anything about the value of higher education.</p>

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The parody is a little more extreme than what people actually say, but I agree with your point; a student isn’t “too good” for a state flagship university.</p>

<p>Usually full pay students are not paying for others. Many colleges full tuition real cost is higher than whai is charged.</p>

<p>mom2collegekids is right. The only ones outside of the Federal government actually subsidizing the education of others are the donors. Many schools charge 20k/year less than the actual cost per student.</p>

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Your whole world view - here and in many other threads - is based on this notion that value cannot be created, that it can only be taken from others. I believe that history completely refutes that.</p>

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My world view is based on class struggle, actually. Zero-sum economics is a small and unnecessary part of that. With or without it, my world view is the same.</p>

<p>However, your apparent need to attack me on every thread possible is somewhat disturbing. You didn’t even offer one sentence in regard to the original poster. What’s the point of you being in this thread? You’re just mucking it up with unnecessary and unhelpful posts, while the rest of us are on topic.</p>

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Oh really? Let’s look at the very first response in the thread (yours):

You see everything through the same distorted lens. The OP isn’t asking about your strange views on economics and class struggle.</p>

<p>You forgot to quote the first, larger part of the post.</p>

<p>Who am I kidding, you didn’t “forget.”</p>

<p>Well, whether it sounds elitist or not, there is quite a bit of truth in what lookingforward said and not only for those tippy-top students but for a fair number of students w/just above average stats. Please note the poster specifically said they were not talking about the state flagships or top state schools but the 3rd and 4th tier schools. I have seen this firsthand, sadly in my own daughter’s case. My daughter graduated from a college prep school with a solid mid B average, SATs in the mid 500’s all 3 sections, ACT score of 26, so certainly not a top CC student. That said, in high school she was surrounded by students who constantly pushed themselves to excel, as a result, she also pushed herself (her talents were never academic, the fact that her academic best was not at the level of the majority of her classmates is besides the point, the point is she pushed herself to do her personal best, because she was surrounded by classmates who also did the same).</p>

<p>Due to a family crisis her senior year and the fact that she just wasn’t ready to head really far from home, she started at a private 2-year undergraduate college (the school intends for all its students to graduate with their associates and transfer to a 4-year school and they do fairly well) where she made the honor roll every semester, joined the junior college honor society, served as president of a club, chief editor of the literary magazine, and received recognition in all areas of the CAAP test and in general performed at the same level she did in high school. (Not to brag, but to set the back-story)This was certainly not true of all the students there, she was shocked by the number of students in her college algebra class who met the SAT/ACT test requirement and yet could not change a fraction into a mixed number (this was a child who was dragged kicking and screaming through 4 years of math and who swore she couldn’t do math), the teacher administered her own test that you had to pass to stay in and even among those who could pass, about half failed, mostly because they just didn’t come to class and do the work, which she couldn’t believe at the time. She was also appalled at the lack of respect toward the teachers by some of the students, which was something that was not tolerated at her school. Yes, she didn’t care for some of her teachers, both there and in high school, but she still respected their position. So she graduates with honors and</p>

<p>Against my misgivings, she transferred to a 3rd tier state school. Yes there was a boy involved, yes; I still berate myself on a near daily basis for agreeing to this. The boy wasn’t there, was at a top private school close, she didn’t care for the big state school in the same town and wouldn’t consider the religious private school in that town, but didn’t want to be too far away. Her state school has a reasonable reputation in her field and in her sub-specialty, a few instructors who actually worked in the field (most of which are not longer there) so I agreed. She’s in the honor’s program, has done one research project which received an award in the research symposium, and still has a very good GPA, but the change in her attitude, efforts and expectations is undeniable. The schools mid ACT range runs 18-23 and it has a graduation rate of just barely over 50%. There are minimum requirements to enter her field, which she met with a THEA test she took spring of her sophomore year in high school, yet she had classmates in her junior year in college who still hadn’t meet the requirements in one area or another. She’s enrolled in one honor’s class this semester in which she has constantly complained about the work load, which while heavy is no more than she was expected to do in high school. She knows she can do a bare minimum of work to score the A and that’s what she does. The quality of her work has declined as well. She showed me a research paper she had written for one class (the only research paper for the whole semester). She’s not copying and pasting, she is still actually doing the research and writing the paper, but apart from a very basic works cited page, no documentation, no formatting, done in outline form (as requested by the teacher, answer these questions in this order), a short, no more than one page summary of how you will personally use this information and that is what is considered a research paper. She tells me she has not had a single class where anything more than that has been required. She literally did the paper in a few hours the night before it was due and received an 87, a grade with which she is satisfied. The documentation issue alone would have given her a failing grade in high school. </p>

<p>I am aware that many public high schools in our state do not teach students how to research, document and write a paper anymore. At her two year college, in her freshman year she was assigned a research paper, which she wrote giving it her best effort. There was a young man in her class who turned in a copy and pasted paper. Because this college sees their role as preparing those students who aren’t quite ready for a 4 year school, he was allowed to redo the paper and the professor asked my daughter to help him. She called me later that night and told me the young man told her he had never written a research paper in his whole high school career, she had to walk him through step by step. They didn’t have a lot of time, so in her eyes it wasn’t a great paper, but at least it was done right (A question for another post, how in heck does a kid get through high school never writing a research paper?)</p>

<p>But now, she’s perfectly content to perform to the lowest common denominator, and sadly when I go down for various events, several of her professors’ comment on how much they enjoy having her in their classes, she’s a breath of fresh air, great writing skills and I’m thinking, Heavens, what kind of students do they normally have in their classes? </p>

<p>Yes, I’m well aware that some of this is a character issue, and obviously the child I thought I had is not the one I do have, and that’s my failing, but some of it is being surrounded by a whole campus of students who are not capable of anything more, or have no interest in striving for anything more or don’t see a reason to strive for more. So folks can post on this board all they want about how you can get a great education at a state school, how it’s not important to go to a school where you are surrounded by other students like yourself, or even a little above so that you have that challenge to push yourself, and yes that’s true for possibly a very small minority, but this school has thousands of students and it does not hold true for the vast majority of them. As my mother used to say; when you mix cream and water, you don’t get stronger water, you get weaker cream. </p>

<p>So is a 3rd or 4th tier school better than nothing? Possibly yes, if that’s the only choice you have and you’re interested in attempting to strive for me, but the vast majority of these students would have been better served by some vocational training and a job than by racking up student loans, staying there 5 or 6 years and then still no diploma, or worse getting the diploma, going out into the real world and finding you are no more prepared than if you had gone straight to work. The college experience in and of itself at one of the lower tier schools, is not worth anywhere near the cost and to pretend otherwise is doing everyone a big disservice.</p>