<p>Same here… i can’t imagine myself marrying at that age.lol.</p>
<p>I can’t imagine myself marrying…ever.</p>
<p>^^^After reading your posts, neither can anyone else!
Anyway, the first time I saw my husband was on sorority bid day my freshman year. A fraternity invited us to ride on their fire truck and he was tending bar at the party that followed. I saw him around some in college (he dated one of my sorority sisters at one point) Fast-forward to my first year out of college - I was home on vacation from my first job and was at a campus bar with several friends and he walked in. I rememberd him and stuck up a conversation, and he asked me to have lunch the next day and we’ve been together ever since. Even if you don’t marry right out of college, the potential is still there.</p>
<p>yall some hoes 10char</p>
<p>Met my (ex)husband at UGA; he was a freshman in the middle of failing out, I was a sophomore transfer from a women’s college. Married at 20, children at 22 and 25, separated at 29, divorced at 32. </p>
<p>My mother and father met in college as freshmen too, and got married and dropped out as sophomores. So it’s a multigenerational fail! Thankfully, my son is finishing up his junior year – no marriages, no dropping out. Yay!</p>
<p>If the opportunity presents itself in front of me then I might consider. Otherwise, it’s simply not worth the effort. Looking for someone, courtship, marriage (when the real fun begins), and eventually having to divorce. Just contemplating all of this gives me a feeling of angst.</p>
<p>I think most college people will end up marrying other college people.</p>
<p>I tried dating non college girls and it really doesn’t work. People who don’t go to college have totally different priorities in life.</p>
<p>^^^This is so true. The few non-college guys I dated were reallly put off by the fact that I had more education then them.</p>
<p>I really think that depends on the circumstances. My friend, who is a college senior, had a live in boyfriend for two years that didn’t go to college. It can definitely work, but I wonder if depending on the circumstances there is a maturity difference. For example, live in boyfriend didn’t work out because he was a manchild who resented her for being educated and she resented him for being uneducated. (You’d think it would not have taken them two years to figure out this wasn’t going anywhere.) Now she is dating someone that ALSO didn’t go to college-- but he is 26 years old and owns a small business. In terms of maturity and wants and needs, he seems to be a pretty darn good fit for her. I think it’s more that people who have their crap together don’t mix with people who don’t, and there is a correlation in young people between having said crap together and going to college-- but correlation does not prove causation, I think it’s too broad a generalization to say that college people and no-college people don’t work without further examination.</p>
<p>Met my husband in October of my freshman year at college. We were married the summer after my junior year. And I swore up and down in high school I was NOT marrying until after college at least, grad school and tenure at best.</p>
<p>Sure college people can sometimes marry and date non college people and it can work out for the long term (did for my parents who are still married 26+ years and going) but they have a whole lot more in common than in difference
-same country of origin
-immigrant background
-Use to work together
Mind you where my parents come from having a university education is no indicator of how good a job you will really have (which is a large part of the reason why they left). </p>
<p>My dad was far richer than my mom but had only a grade 8 or so education, he later did go on to do a community college course after he immigrated though. He also owned a hotel, gold course, oil fields and multiple real estate holdings but that is not really common of people who don’t graduate from school so i don’t think it is representative of the typical.</p>
<p>There are people who don’t go to college because of cricumstances beyond their control that make it financially impossible for them to go and they end up being just as talented or wealthy or even better off than college people. I think those people will end up in a place where it makes sense they marry a college person. Whereas if it is a person who just doesn’t go to college because they don’t care about life or their lazy, it is going to make HUGE problems.</p>
<p>Eh, this thread’s made me think about this subject more…</p>
<p>I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t think I could even handle dating someone seriously enough to marry him in college with all of the other commitments that I have to deal with :p. Plus, in terms of finding a career and moving around, I’m not sure if it’d be a good idea to be “tied down”. If I met someone really special then I could adjust…but at the moment it’s highly unlikely.</p>
<p>It does make things complicated. I am going to be out of state for four months doing an internship and studying, and my fiance will still be here doing school. It would be nice to be able to go wherever I want without any consideration for anyone else, but it’s a trade off I am happy to make.</p>
<p>You just never know when you’ll meet someone that’ll change everything. I think it’s important to just take things as they come and enjoy the moment, you’ll see where it’ll take you in time.</p>
<p>Ya I feel sorry for the women. You never know when your going to meet mr. right and if you let hhim get away odds are he will be with another lady when your ready in 5-6 years. Not too many guys want to marry older women and older men have lots of baggage (previous relations, wives kids, etc). At least when your a man you get to choose when you want to find someone special and you have all the time because young girls like old guys</p>
<p>Met my husband 2nd semester freshman year and married 2 years after graduating! That was almost 19 years ago and our oldest S will be heading off to college, youngest S into HS this Fall. H & I feel incredibly blessed to have found each other so young. Our kids think we’re adorable and I have to agree! :)</p>
<p>“At least when your a man you get to choose when you want to find someone special and you have all the time because young girls like old guys”</p>
<p>Very true. But as someone who dates old dudes,in most cases they’re being used.</p>
<p>^That statement also holds true because guys’ biological clocks are far less important than women’s. We can only bear children up to a certain point.</p>
<p>LOL, nyuwishabee, its funny because in most cases, if you ask a man he views it the other way around, he thinks he is using young girls, LOL. The differences in the genders is funny to me. Because this old man likely has 5 young girls at the same time.</p>
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<p>From the Wall Street Journal comments. So true. Couldn’t agree more.</p>
<p>32 is an “older adult” now? Good grief. </p>
<p>What it comes down to is that people who have never been married (i.e., just about everyone on the College Life forum) are in no position to make sweeping statements about marriage OR tell each other whether or not marriage is “bad” for them. We can discuss it, sure, but to claim to have insight into married life just makes us look arrogant. At this point in our lives, most of our ideas about the future are based on our hopes, dreams, and uncertainties. There is no point in attacking or defending the validity of the plans of strangers because (among many other reasons) they are just that–plans–and will most likely change and adapt in the years to come.</p>