This is a short little video and I would’ve posted it in a previously made thread, but I didn’t want it to get lost. Please show this video to your sons and daughters or at least discuss it with them. It could clarify a lot of misconceptions some people have. So, here it is. This is how you explain consent with tea.
http://magazine.good.is/articles/tea-never-looked-so-good
Disclaimer: There is profanity.
Brilliant!
I started laughing pretty hard about the third time he says
“unconscious people don’t want tea…”
Here is the clean version, so you can show this to kids! http://youtu.be/fGoWLWS4-kU
My son shared that on his FB page a few days ago; I thought it was absolutely brilliant.
Thank you for the “clean” version; I didn’t feel comfortable passing the original around with the profanity!
I shared on FB too.
Thanks, CaliCash. Very funny and hopefully effective, but I am surprised there is no explanation of drunk people not being able to consent to tea.
That was brilliant. For some reason the narrator reminded me of Jerry Seinfeld.
@50025600minutes, that is a very, very crucial gap.
The video is funny and good as far as it goes, but it fails to address the very point that seems to cause most of the problems.
Probably because it is incredibly hard to do, IRL and in a cute video.
Well, if the person is inebriated and legally incapable of deciding whether or not they want tea, then don’t make them tea. Make sure they are safe.
If you are inebriated you probably should not offer to make tea either.You could scald yourself.
There are disputable cases and gray areas. But I do not agree that “most of the problems” are in the gray area, and I’m surprised that you would say this. “Most of the problems” are guys raping, indisputably raping, committing acts that you and I would be in full agreement in describing as rape. Those rapes probably won’t be reported, but that doesn’t mean they are not problems. There are some high profile cases where a woman accuses a guy of rape when many argue that the facts described do not constitute rape, but those cases are far outnumbered by actual rapes.
Women have sex with drunk men, and men have sex with drunk women, all the time on college campuses. In general, this is not a problem. Unless one of the people is incapacitated, it’s just sex that two people chose to have.
Most of the rape problem is guys raping. It is also a problem, but not as big a problem, that women make false accusations of rape, when the women were not incapacitated and when they consented to the sex. And when I say “not as big a problem,” I mean numerically. There are many more actual rapes than there are false accusations. Many many more. The majority of rape accusations are true, by anyone’s account, and moreover, most rapes are not reported. So, by simple arithmetic, we see that there are many more actual rapes than false accusations.
No, you’re right. That isn’t what I meant. I meant most of the [genuine] problems in determining consent.
I agree that they might have added, “Don’t attempt to make tea when you or the other person is drunk. One or both of you might get scalded.”