<p>Hey to all of you looking at Reed College. I am currently a member of the Reed Community and I want to discuss consent and sexual assault. I have personal experience with both of these areas and would love to open up a discussion to see what you have to say. What does consent mean to you? How do you use it? How should we discuss sexual assault? I'm looking for a variety of sexes to answer this question. I really would love if you would engage in this discussion with me. I love Reed and I want to make it better for those of you coming in and also for current students. Thanks</p>
<p>Consent is when the person is very obvious about wanting anything to happen.Therefore, this usually either involves talking way beforehand or right before any action takes place. I haven’t given consent for anything of that nature, so I’m not a good person to ask. Uhh… Sexual assault, in my opinion, can be a very grey area. If the person in question(victim) is uncomfortable at any time during sex, or anything inbetween, and the… other(predator) lol notices and doesn’t stop that is assault to me. There are different forms of sexual assault as well: Strangers, acquaintances, friends, boyfriends/girlfriends…etc. Contrary to popular belief the majority of sexual assaults are committed by people the victim knows. Also, sometimes when people are drunk it is hard to draw the line, as most people have no ****ing idea what they are doing. However, as a person we still have some control…most of the time. Rape is never acceptable and assault isn’t either.</p>
<p>Isn’t it kind of irresponsible to start a thread entitled “Sexual Assault at Reed” for a general, non-Reed-specific discussion of this topic? My first thought upon seeing this thread was, “Oh, no, Reed must have a problem with sexual assault.”</p>
<p>And I’m not sure this kind of discussion belongs here anyway. If I started a thread entitled “Property Theft at Reed” and then asked, “What does everyone think is the best way to lock up a bicycle?” people would think I was dim bulb.</p>
<p>Well, it’s a necessary discussion anywhere. It may not be good advertising, but it did what it served; you opened it up to read it. I do think, though, this article leads to this conception of Reed having a problem with it; is there really? I hope not. I heard of the fella’ who ODed on Heroine at Reed. Kind of makes me skeptical about this Honor Principle. </p>
<p>Anyhow, consent is the rational affirmation of an act. Meaning, to make sex with someone when they are drunk, is not consent. To have sex with a minor, is not consent. Any time when a partner is unable to properly and efficiently decide for him/herself to indulge in an act, sexual or otherwise, then it is non-consensual.</p>
<p>I heard of the fella’ who ODed on Heroine at Reed</p>
<p>I hadn’t heard of a student who croaked after reading too many Danielle Steele mass-markets, however there was a student who did die from heroin overdose recently.</p>
<p>( and I question how his parents- being aware of the emphasis Reed puts upon personal responsibility and adult behavior thought it was a good idea for a young man who was only 18 and struggling with ongoing addiction to attend any college, without a keeper/being able to stay clean and sober by themselves-I doubt that Reed would have admitted such a student had they been aware of the surrounding circumstances- would you?)</p>
<p>I strongly believe consent should be worded on paper.</p>
<p>Each time.</p>
<p>Hey a new perspective, I have a question since you brought this subject up though: did you know of anyone who has been taken advantage of in the Reed community? </p>
<p>Have anyone used sexual harassment to complain about others (advantageously)? </p>
<p>Seems like that is the topic you want to mention by bringing this subject up.
And by the way, wasn’t this topic discussed also last year in this very forum?</p>
<p>Looks like this topic is dead, eh?</p>