<p>my litmus test for "was this the right decision" always came at thanksgiving time- after they had been at their "dream school" for a few months, adjusted to the roomate(s), got a taste of the academics, and STILL wanted to go back after coming home to a good Thanksgiving meal!!!</p>
<p>for usna- it happens a bit more often- when each and everytime our Mid comes home, I wait to see if he is packing up to go back to MD the night before! And when he comes down the stairs with his seabag all packed and ready to go, my heart swells all over again and the waterworks start! </p>
<p>It always amazes me how some kids seem to know what they want all along- and others struggle with the decision right down to the wire. For each, however, it is prudent to expose them to all the options available to them- not push, or sway- but "inform." Wether or not it is civilian schools, ROTC, service academies or "other," the more informed they are the better choice they can make. Even if their heart is set on one place, that will only be confirmed when compared/contrasted to the other options available.</p>
<p>Then again, I am a shopper- I have to try on every dress within a 20 mile radius before deciding on "the one." In contrast, hubby goes into Macy's, pulls the first shirt he sees off the nearest rack, does a 5 second check to make sure it is the right size (forget color and cut)- and he's done. Go figure. Our daughter looked at 26 schools- did overnights at 5- then made her decision. Our son looked at 6- did overnights at 5- narrowed his choice down to 2- and then lost a few nights sleep deciding from there..... another last-minute visit back to each one of those helped him to make his decision. </p>
<p>Even with all the planning and consideration, there will be some that, despite arriving at their dream school, wake up to find themselves in a nightmare. It is at that time that we get to mentor and support in ways we never imagined possible. And while I have not expereinced that with my own children, I have seen it happen to many of their friends who have returned home only to start the process all over again.</p>
<p>So IMO, it is wise to hedge one's bet, and to do that, visit, visit, visit, go to information sessions, take the tour, speak to current students, visit and visit again, and if given the opportunity, RUN to accept an overnight stay........ what better way to see things from the "inside", seperate and appart from all the glossy catelogues!!! It's the stuff they "don't" tell you on the tour that often comes back to affect one's level of happiness!!!</p>
<p>Best of luck!</p>