I just got back from a six-week break and I’m feeling super depressed.
I go to a small LAC in the Northeast with about 2,000 people and I’m really struggling right now. Since getting to the school in August I’ve been feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied. I attributed the way I was feeling to the emotions college freshman typically go through and thought they’d pass with time, however, I just started up my second term and they still haven’t gone away. Greek life is humungous (I’m not looking to join a sorority), the school definitely leans a little more conservative, a lot of people at this school come from money/have trust funds, and the surrounding area is riddled with crime and poverty, meaning I feel trapped on campus and that is an absolutely suffocating feeling. When I was touring the school last year, they downplayed their Greek system and surrounding area, which made me feel better about applying to and attending the school, however, I now realize they intentionally downplayed the more negative aspects of their school.
I’ve been doing very well in school and managed to maintain good grades in my first term but I’m feeling super depressed at this point and feel like my grades will dip this term as a result of my disillusionment with the school. I also haven’t really struggled to make friends but I feel like a lot of the friendships I’ve made are superficial. I took the advice of columnists, other struggling college students, and articles online by joining a bunch of clubs and attempting to put myself out there. I currently play club rugby, I’m in my school’s pride club, and I also work with my Minvera Council as the email coordinator (a Minerva at my school is an alternative to a sorority/fraternity), yet the friendships I’ve made through them aren’t substantial and fulfilling for me. Just yesterday my boyfriend and I broke up, which definitely needed to happen as I’m gay, yet still haven’t fully accepted that part of myself and haven’t come out to anyone yet.
I’m setting up a meeting with my school’s psychologist today as a last-ditch effort to see if I can make this situation work. Transferring would be a huge hassle for my parents (I have a twin currently enrolled at another university and a brother who’s just 2 years younger than me and just starting to look at schools). My family isn’t hurting for money but we’re not extremely wealthy either. I also feel like I’ll be disappointing them if I tell them how miserable I am at the school and that’s the last thing I wanna do.
So, all in all, I had a pretty dismal first term and it’s been a pretty crappy start to my second term and my feelings about the school haven’t changed. What should I do?