friend issue...

<p>from the beg. of freshman year to sophomore year, i would hang out with a group of friends that were fun to hang out with. most played soccer and most were pretty cool with each other. and let me add that this group is pretty dumb... i was the smartest one of them all by 1.5 point on the GPA scale. that didnt keep me away from them during those year because them being fun and chill to be with compensated with that. then come junior year when everything begins to change. suddenly, the guys all of a sudden started acting like jocks and pushing people around. the girls turned into slutty and dramatic people. and most were ditching classes and failing miserably in school. people from our group began to leave. the group that consisted of about 60 people now turned into one of about 15 people. now, new people are trying to get into our group and are making it worst than it was before. these new guys all of a sudden start pushing people in the group like if they were part of it a long time. i honestly hate my group now. </p>

<p>i feel like hanging out on the other side of the campus where a lot of people know me and where all the asians are situated. i get along with them more and it reminds me of my old group in the freshman and soph. year. but knowing ill prob. be the only mexican there and since i dont know all of them there like i did with my old group, im kinda shy of going up there and hanging out with them. </p>

<p>honestly, i dont know what to do. the people i used to hang out with r the def. of jerk. but i have this feeling like if i dont want to leave them. then i have the feeling to leave them for other people. what should i do? should i just leave them?</p>

<p>If you hate your group, then you should leave. </p>

<p>But make sure that you'd enjoy being with the other kids before you cut all ties. You don't want to ditch your previous friends and fight out that your new set isn't who you'd thought they'd be.</p>

<p>Some people mature slower than others, its unfortunate but it happens all the time. What you should do is slowly integrate yourself into the other group. Make friends with one person then make friends with one of their friends and branch out that way. This way you can taper off from you current group of friends. Or if that isn't fast enough you can stop hanging out with them all together. How fast it happens is up to you.</p>

<p>sure i guess. but the thing is that everyone was chill to be with in the past will be hard to break off with. their maturity went the wrong way i guess. im like a mini consoler for them as well, trying to tell them to not do this and do this instead cuz itll be worthwhile. so far i had to talk to one of them if they were really sure that they want to drop off high school and live life from their. i guess ill just hang out with other people once a week and move it from there... thanks for the reply guys...</p>

<p>It's either be cool or be school. I left my 'cool' back in elementary+middle school.</p>

<p>man I must seriously be missing out on an entire component of high school. this whole "group" dynamic thing is really beyond me. I have like 5-6 friends I hang out with outside of school and then I am friendly with people I see in classes, some more than others.</p>

<p>Where do you meet groups of 60 people? I can't stop picturing you hanging out with Mexicans in some prison yard being afraid to go over to the Asians what with the self-segregation you refer to and all.</p>

<p>^wordtothat.</p>

<p>^ yea i agree with WhartonWannabe...i left the "cool" a few years ago..i know that the "school" part is the only part that's actually gonna lead me to a bright future</p>

<p>60 people in a group...that's a lot.</p>

<p>don't feel obligated to be friends with people just because they're in "your group."</p>

<p>It's not your responsibility to counsel people from dropping out or to stay on the right path. I did that for a while with some fringe friends of mine--tried to stop them from smoking pot and not doing homework and yadda yadda yadda. If they're your friends, good for you for helping them. But now, from what I can tell, they're not returning the favor. Let them lead their own life.</p>