I am currently half way through the second semester of my freshman year. I love my school and my classes but I don’t have any friends which makes me want to consider transferring. My roommate hates me because I don’t go out a lot and her 3 friends dislike me as well. Up until now those girls were pretty much all I had for social interaction but they’ve made it clear they don’t want me around. I’ve tried going out with other girls on my floor but they’re all pretty much set in their friend groups and I end up feeling like a lost dog trailing them around at parties and being a burden. I’ve never had this problem before and it’s made me extremely depressed, I feel like wasted space. Are my chances at having friends in college destroyed because I couldn’t make any this year or do I give it one more year? I want to play sports and rush my sophomore year but there’s a chance that won’t work out. It’s hard for me to make friends because I automatically assume I’m bothering someone if I ask to go out with them. Can it get better after freshman year or should I not bother coming back?
Get out of your comfort zone and find ways to go out an meet people. Have you gotten involved in clubs and activities? Looked for organized groups on campus that share your interests?
It can always get better! I’d check out your school’s counseling options, not because I think you need counseling, but because that’s a person on your campus who will likely know where you might meet people, how you might go about it, and on top of it all is used to hearing much more personal information and is sworn to confidentiality. They might be able to give you a good school-specific answer! Best of luck.
The semester’s probably almost over, right? Next fall there will be an entire new class on campus to make friends with, plus all of the people who are already there but whom you haven’t met yet. Stick it out until then. Each new semester is a new chance.
Does your school rush sophomore year or did you just not rush this year? If the former, you will have an automatic group of girls to have as friends-- the girls in your sorority OR the girls that didn’t make a sorority. If your grade already rushed, then I agree it may be trickier if you haven’t made connections with any of the girls that are in the sororities. You will really have to put yourself out there which is not always easy but you have to believe in yourself and what you can offer. Over the summer, I would try to talk to someone other than your parents to see why you think you are having a hard time socially. You need to understand why you feel like wasted space. That’s not a healthy way of looking at your social life at school and needs to be addressed. You say that you never had social problems before so something is holding you back. Do you have a boyfriend at another school that is preventing you from enjoying and engaging in social activities. Maybe you are physically there but not mentally present. If that is the case, you need to decide whether having the boyfriend outweighs your social life at school. Regarding next year, new classes mean new people to meet and the classes should be getting smaller which will help getting to know other students. Definitely join some new clubs next year. I would also open yourself up to the possibility of making friends with kids that you may not have socialized with in the past. Maybe you thought you were too different from them and there would not be a connection. You may have more in common than you think. Going for the same type of person over and over again may just not be working for you. Obviously, I don’t know if that is what you are doing but if it is, you need to give other people a chance. Good luck.
JOin a club that’s charity-based - all hands on deck, everyone’s needed. Habitat for HUmanity for example. You get to know people when you work with them, plan with them, travel with them, get tired with them. 
This: “I love my school and my classes”
Freshman year is just about out of the way. Your classes next year and later will be populated by increasingly greater proportions of people who share your academic interests. Invite a classmate or lab partner to coffee to discuss a problem or project. Take the lead in your favorite class form a study group. Make lots and lots of little connections like this. Most of them will stay pleasant and useful little connections, but you’ve created the environment for some of the connections to naturally grow into significant friendships.
You don’t even have to wait for next year to start. Move away from the connections that aren’t working for you and start building ones that do.
To make new friends, you need to put yourself into a new environement of people.
e.g.,
Service group/club/fraternity
On-campus job
Religious group
Club of any sort that interests you
Form a study group
Research opportunities…others in the lab
Make friends with the incoming freshmen class. Look for someone who looks lost. They will bond with you faster.
I doubt everyone you meet sees you as 3rd wheel, but some might. You could try to make things interesting for them. Right now just do well on your finals. There are plenty of activities on campus to get involved in to meet people. The dorm is just a start.
I met my friends by sharing food with them. I had made some kind of French bread and passed it down to them through the balcony. They invited me down, and that was that. It is random, but you have to put yourself out there. Don’t always just stand next to them. Give them a small gift that is special you made.
Show some personality just once, so they can have an idea who you are. Talk about anything.
I didn’t like my freshman roommate either. She didn’t like me. She wasn’t a bad person and neither was I. Just very different approaches to life. I used to think everyone around me had other friends (I also thought everyone was older than they were, because they seemed more confident, but that is for another thread). But the truth was, a lot of people - especially freshman year - were not so entrenched in their friendships. Sophomore year was a much better year. A much, much better year.
What’s your major? What are your hobbies and interests? Can you pitch in at a soup kitchen? Are there any interesting speakers or events coming up? You might see others at some of these things and can strike up conversation where appropriate. If you’re someplace warm (or will get warm), can you study outside? (We had a large lawn area where everyone pulled out a blanket and sunned themselves or studied or whatever.) That can put you where lots of several others are and you see what is going on outside of the dorm. If you have a large enough blanket, someone may ask to sit with you. You never know.
@traveller2013 : That just about hits the nail on the head.
I don’t advocate drinking, but I know hat if I wanted to get into any party in my complex, all I’d have to do is bring a gift, such as a six pack or especially 12 pack. Food or some kind of game would be much better, if you want them to remember you the next day and not just black out.
My first roommate made (part of) himself known to my folks and I by smoking marijuana in our room on move-in day.
My mom, approaching the door, said quietly to my father, “Oh, Glenny, it’s the sweet smell of the '60s.” My dad looked like he was going to puke. It was downhill from there.
I was not much of a weed-smoker, so that first relationship didn’t go too well.
My second roommate, across the hall, was the bisexual son of a Tennessee minister. We got along just fine.
That was at UW-Madison, obviously a large and diverse school. I met two lifelong friends on my dorm floor, we joined a fraternity together, and that was the end of my (and our) social difficulty.
Have you looked into clubs or the Greek system? Shared interests can be a good place to start.
“Oh, Glenny, it’s the sweet smell of the '60s.”
The best thing I’ve read on CC today. 
I don’t think this because if the school you are attending, and you should not transfer. Sounds like you put most of your eggs in one basket in the fall with your roommate & her friends. Take the suggestions above to branch out and meet more people at your current school.
join clubs, organizations
the best one to make friends in my opinion is religious/cultural groups
join the one that pertains to your religion/culture
you will have a lot in common with those people
become a TA for a class
by the way if i may ask, what school do you go to?