<p>I was just wondering how ppl actually find their group in college. I've gone to a couple of orientation things at my college and although everyone was extremely nice it seems like those friendships will just end up being the "hello - how are you" type. Also a couple of college kids that I've talked to said that although at first they became friends with their dorm mates after a while they realized that they had nothing in common and found other friends. but it seems kinda hard to do since most freshman intro classes are huge lecture classes. so maybe some ppl could share some info on how they met their friends got adjusted, etc...</p>
<p>Well for the first few days you'll probably travel around with your roommate. Then you'll meet other people in your dorm, then you'll join clubs and sports teams. Maybe someone in your dorm will have a friend over, and you'll start taling and become friends too. There are a million ways to meet people at college, and most people want to make friends.</p>
<p>Yeah, it seems more complicated than it is. When you get there and nobody knows anybody yet, it will pretty much just happen... relax :)</p>
<p>Everybody is in the same boat. No one knows anyone else except their roommate and maybe some people on their floor. You'll meet people through orientation activities, classes, clubs, parties, and through friends.</p>
<p>Since everyone is new, you can easily go up to a random person and just say "hi" and introduce yourself. It's actually a good way of making friends believe it or not.</p>
<p>yeah most people end up being closest friends with the people on their floor. but if some people don't end up friends with enough people then they go join a fraternity or sorority. try to make sure your friends on your floor aren't your only friends.</p>
<p>Haha, this is a summer program experience, but it probably still holds. First day, I just went up to someone in the dining hall and said "I'm lost, and you look lost too... wanna be lost together?" So then we got food and sat together down near some other people, and then other people sat down near us, and then we all introduced ourselves and chatted... When we sat down in classes, we'd say hi to whoever was next to us, make small-talk, whatever... Friendships get born out of small contacts like that more naturally than you'd expect, or I can believe looking back on it. Everyone else is looking for friends too, so it really works out fine.</p>
<p>you should maybe lock yourself up in your room all day</p>
<p>I wouldn't say that people ONLY join a greek letter organization because they are lacking friends. Sororities and fraterities are much more then just making friends, and if you plan on joining a sorority or a fraternity just to make friends then you are going to be disappointed because there is a lot more to these organizations than just friends.</p>
<p>Just try to talk to people a lot in your first two or three weeks on campus. I was (and still am, to a lesser extent) a very shy person, but having the same anxieties you have after going to some local college-based events and not hitting it off with my roomies, I just tried to greet and get into conversation with a lot of people in the first several weeks. Everyone is very receptive, and will mostly welcome social advances. In the first couple days I met a group of three other guys who turned out to be my best on-campus friends and my suitemates for this upcoming year. It's different at every college, but really pushing yourself to meet new people is the key to finding a compatible group.</p>
<p>I just met people in my halls and got to know them...then I got to know their friends. It'll get easy eventually.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone!</p>