Making friends in college

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<p>I know there's a lot of topics about this but i figured I'd just start one about my own situation. </p>

<p>I'm a freshman in college, and I don't have any friends yet. I've met people that I say hi to in passing but I never hang out with them, plus they are all friends my boyfriend has made. He's in the music program so he has the same classes with everyone so it's easier to make friends with them, as opposed to my major (engineering).</p>

<p>Also, to make matters worse, I'm in an overflow floor and so it's full of all majors and mainly apartment style dorms with upperclassmen. No one keeps their door open and no one knows anyone else on the floor. There is a freshman engineering floor where everyone is good friends, and I've tried hanging out there but I don't know anyone so it never works.</p>

<p>My boyfriend is my only friend, sadly. We didn't meet here either;weve been together for a few years. I only ever eat meals with him or do anything with him, and most Friday or Saturday nights we just sit in his room watching tv. He doesn't really have friends that he hangs out with either.</p>

<p>I've tried going to clubs and events but for one thing I'm too busy to go very often, and also I rarely meet
People but if I do I never see them again.</p>

<p>I'm not a particularly shy person, just at first, although I'm not the type of person to get along with everyone. But when I thought about college I thought about having a big group of friends and hanging out all the time and stuff. And it hasn't been like that and I'm very lonely.</p>

<p>Any advice would be much appreciated.</p>

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<p>I had the same dream of meeting all these new people and having a blast, but I’m sort of in the same boat as you.</p>

<p>What I learned in just a few months was that you won’t meet everyone you want to meet in your first year. Sometimes the best people you meet are the ones later in college. So don’t worry about not having so many friends yet. </p>

<p>In college, not everyone is going to be completely open. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there and ask people “Do you want to hang out” or “Do you want to join a study group”. It might be awkward at first, but believe me, the other person probably wants to say the same thing, but are just as nervous as you. Now I’m not saying you should tell everyone person you meet that you want to hang out, but when you meet a person who is open or someone who you want to know more about, try and aim big. Like they say, go big or go home.</p>

<p>Also, you can always look to see if you can possibly switch dorm locations? I’m sure there’s ways where you can get to be around more people you want to be with. If not, try to get a better dorm location next semester or next year.</p>

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<p>Why don’t you spend a lot of time on campus? Like, if you need to study, study on campus. If you need to eat, eat on campus. I’m afraid that if you do want to maintain relationships with people, you have to set aside time to spend with them. Being successful in school takes work, and the same goes for friendship.</p>

<p>Regards,
BettyfromCA</p>