<p>I am venting here.......... My D's counselor asked that all college apps be completed and sent by Halloween regardless of whether the student was applying ED, EA or RD. The counselor wanted all p's and q's properly noted so to speak. At the time I was glad that she wanted this done as I didn't want to have to continually browbeat my D to get apps done and this way she could then focus efforts on enjoying school and filling out scholarship apps. Sorry long story long as I vent.................. D applied RD to all schools and has heard from 2 of the 3. The 3rd school which is her first choice and a reach for her won't notify her until early April. She has been accepted at the other 2 but this waiting is for the birds! The 2nd school didn't send out decisons until February. This too me isn't enjoying the senior year because this is frustrating for me as the parent and for her as the student. Thanks for letting me vent.......... anyone else find themselves in similar straits?</p>
<p>I remember getting hold of our postal carrier and having her call me when that big envelope came (hopeful, wasn't I?) She called, and I met her on her route. Oh, yes, the stress time is really long - like being pregnant - when is this baby going to come?</p>
<p>Yes, it's frustrating to wait, but don't quite understand the philosophy to enjoy senior year. If acceptance comes early, does the student slack off that final semester? Daughter has a 4.0 unweighted and would hate to see it slide just because she was accepted to her first choice.</p>
<p>That's like me and the whole TCNJ thing. I applied late (dec.) I know but i knew i would be getting a letter sometimes in feb. instead i got an e-mail saying that they would have to look at it again because i am a borderline student and if this is my first choice please write why!! i won't get a response no later than April. Honestly, i am so tired!!! All this stress is making me sick and now i have to wait another MONTH. The thing is that if i knew i would make it in for sure than i wouldn't be worrying but i really don't. it's a constant battle especially because if i get rejected(please god don't let me get rejected) like at the end of march or early april than i'm on a tight schedule with the four other schools i applied to. it makes me feel guilty because if it was any other school i could've cared less but THIS IS THE ONE!!
oooooooooooooooooooh i HOPE i get in</p>
<p>Try so plan enjoyable family things to do together; next year will be very different! If you work at it, you can enjoy spring until about the last week in March. At that point, the tension is almost palpable, and everyone gets a little crazy.</p>
<p>When my son was applying, he had 3 of six replies by this time, and I concentrated on looking at the positives of his one of his top choice acceptances that had come in. That way, if April does not bring happy news, I think it would be easier to transfer affection to the other school.</p>
<p>Good luck and best wishes!</p>
<p>Look at it this way. So many kids are accepted, but until they get their financial package in the 11th hour (April 1) they still don't know if they can attend the school. I told my kid not to focus on any one school, b/c until all packages were in, he could not pick a school. We thew out 5 acceptances, and limited his options to 5 schools based on money. It was really sad to say good-bye to the other 5 schools, but that was just reality.</p>
<p>If it's any consolation, six months from now all this will be very minor and far in the rear-view mirror. Doesn't help now, of course. You're lucky that you have two decisions in. A lot of schools with competitive admissions don't send out before late March/April 1 unless you're applying EA/ED.</p>
<p>Totally agree with TheDad...in a few months this won't even matter. It's like getting rejected from a first-choice/ED school...that school/those dreams will be ancient history when you actually set foot on the campus of your future alma mater!</p>
<p>I also agree with OhioMom and TheDad. If I could change anything about my daughter's senior year, it would be to spend less time worrying about the final outcome, and more time just savoring every possible moment I had with her without constantly talking about or thinking about college what if's. </p>
<p>No amount of worrying on your part will change the outcome at this point -- but if it helps any, things are highly likely to turn out just as they should. This time next year, you'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was about. In the meantime, enjoy this precious time with your daughter!</p>
<p>"No amount of worrying on your part will change the outcome at this point "</p>
<p>Oh, Carolyn - I know - but it SEEMS like it will when you're in the middle of it. </p>
<p>FWIW, Carolyn and TheDad and I survived it - and so you will, too.</p>
<p>I was the last student to get accepted to college in my school since all of my schools had later decision dates. Waiting is definitely not fun, but be happy that your daughter already has a couple acceptances. It's worse having no acceptances; even knowing that I should get into my safeties, it was tough not having the certainty. In the end, I had four acceptances, two waitlists (turned down), and one rejection: it all works out. There's no use in anxious waiting since there's a while left, so encourage your daughter to do well on the APs, spend time with her friends, get a summer job lined up, and all the rest.</p>
<p>Be very glad that she has two acceptances! I know several kids that haven't heard anything from anyone yet. I know kids who joke (sort of) that they don't even know if they're going to college! Lucky for your daughter, she can relax and know she has choices already. Congratulations! Please encourage her to enjoy her senior year. It will be gone in a heartbeat.</p>
<p>We have had two acceptances since October, we have been waiting on three more schools since that same time frame. Not only was the grass growing when we started, it went dormant and now it's getting ready to start growing again. So it a bit like watching grass grow. This site helps to pass the time as you can read the various posts from many other concerned parents and the students themselves.</p>
<p>One thing for sure schools aren't doing the best job in teaching kids about standard testing and GPA. You can read it hundreds of times everyday here.</p>
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I'm in that situation right now. Since I'm not a US citizen (G-4 visa) I had to apply as a foreign student, and since most public schools don't offer financial aid to internationals I could only apply to private schools, which release their decisions around April 1. I can't even relax because I still have to pass the IB Diploma... that's World Literature papers, Group 4 [science] projects, history papers, chemistry and biology labs, Internal Assessments, the Theory of Knowledge essay, French oral presentation (external assessment), and so on... I don't usually complain about schoolwork, especially not to my parents, but last week I spent an hour crying to my dad because I felt so overwhelmed. So much for "enjoying" senior year. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>camelia- try not to stress too much and just do the best you can. It will be ok, really. The schools are aleady making their decisions, so your upcoming tests won't really matter, as long as you do "well enough." Perfection isn't important here. Continue to do your best and you'll be fine.</p>
<p>Thanks for all of the insight. I truly appreciate it and it is comforting to know that others can empathsize.</p>
<p>Slack off ~ no ~ she is taking AP's and Honors classes, working part time, involved in ec's, has a 3.91 uw and a 4.269 wt. GPA. It is not in her nature to slack off. Savor the year as someone said................ that is what I would like to be doing. And as someone else said it is like being pregnant ~ yea the third trimester........... and as someone said it is like watching grass grow. Never been one to watch the grass grow. We mow 10-15 acresa a week in the summer and I mow everyday for a couple of hours :)</p>
<p>It is also hard to wait on financial aid knowing I filed FASFA and CSS on Jan 1st. It is such a relief however to have taxes complete and the IDOC in the mail. Cannot recall a year when taxes have been done so early and we haven't applied for an extension. That is the blessing in the frustration</p>
<p>D may hear beginning the end of March and I will be touring the nations capital with 265 8th graders. Yes, I am an 8th grade social studies teacher. I will have left our 4 girls at home with dad for a crazy kind of fun:) He howeer will be starting a new quarter that week as he is a full time college student. I thank all of you for giving me insight and yes in six months this will be water under the bridge. The water will however rise again shortly after that as we go threw this again with daughter number 2. Please remind me then that I was a basket case with daughter number 1 :)</p>
<p>So, may I ask the parents in this forum whether you are sending in the $200 enrollment deposits to schools that haven't given the financial aid info yet?</p>
<p>I'm having an argument with my parents who say it's a waste of $$ because the deposit is non-refundable. But most of my schools base sending the housing application and assigning you orientation sessions for class registration only after they get their enrollmnent fee. Each school has told me that sending in the fee is non-binding as long as I let them know for sure by May 1.</p>
<p>Advice appreciated.</p>
<p>If May 1st is the deadline for enrollment money then I believe the school won't complete housing asignments until after this date. The same for orientation sessions and class registration. I would expect to send the deposit after all of the financial aid packages have been given sometime ater April 1st. I agree with your parents.</p>
<p>Each school is different, and you have to read the website to find out! One of DS's colleges has you apply for housing before acceptance; both enrollment fee and housing fee are refundable before May 1st. At one, there is no enrollment fee, but housing is $400 - fully refundable before April 1st (I think I'll have to check that date again.) We deposited for housing at all three big U's, and will apply for refund after he makes his final college choice.</p>
<p>girls4mom:</p>
<p>It's not like they won't complete the housing assignments , some OOS schools where I applied won't even let you apply for housing or schdule you for orientation until they get your $200 and a signed paper saying you accept a spot. You can cancel the spot but they have your money. As if the housing isn't bad enough, at orientation, you sign up for class. So a late orientation date means possibly getting shut out.</p>
<p>I may try to talk them into just one- my #1- and pay them back if I can't attend because of the fin aid.</p>