And you won’t have the money to go out to eat or the time to go to a museum if you go to the more expensive school and have to work 20 hours per week to make extra money to pay your tuition. You won’t be able to pay to eat off campus when you have already paid for a meal plan.
If you’ve been on a scholarship in high school, you probably know what it is like to have much less than your classmates. My kids went to a private catholic school with kids who drove Jags to school, who flew off to spring break in Spain, who went to The Oscars, who had Sweet 16 parties that were on MTv. Sure they all got the same education, but they weren’t really peers.
One of my kids went to college on a full scholarship. She had some very wealthy friends and she couldn’t do the summers in Italy, didn’t have a car, and scrounged around for textbooks, but she had a few extra dollars for pizza or a concert and she didn’t have to work while in school. It wasn’t her dream school but it worked and she’s thrilled to have a very small student loan (most of which she saved and used to buy a car) after graduation. No spring breaks in Mexico or even Daytona Beach (which was 45 minutes from her school).
My other daughter went to a much lower rank public school which she loved. She didn’t have the scholarships and her student loan is bigger. Yes, there was football and tailgating on Saturdays and those weren’t her thing but she did it a few times and did other things too. There was no mall, very little shopping, museums associated with the college (lots of rocks and cowboy things). She’s not a big drinker or partier, but does spend way too much money at Starbucks. She is really more of a Broadway and MOMA person, but she thrived in Laramie, Wyoming for 4 years.
I don’t think your option is the flagship or the Catholic college @$30k per year, I think your option is the full ride flagship or not going to college this year. Your parents don’t have the money and you can’t borrow $30k. Don’t go to the college and be miserable and ‘literally die.’ Don’t do that. But the Catholic school is off the table because you don’t have money for that. You have the choice of going to the full ride public school or putting off college until you can afford what you want. I think you also have the choice of learning to love the public school.
And your GC is free to pay for your school or help you find ways to afford it, but she shouldn’t give an opinion on where you should go unless she’s willing to pay for it.