Gay and nervous about having a roommate. Advice?

I think calling res life and asking these questions is a great start. I do think it’s a good idea to state your sexuality. Really, you shouldn’t have to, but the world isn’t quite in a place yet where it’s a non-issue for some people.

If the college you are attending has a Facebook page or similar for meeting people, join and try looking for a roommate that way. Bets of luck.

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As a parent I would agree with this. I would have no issue with any of my kids rooming with someone that is gay, trans, opposite sex, different race, religion or straight haha. But many are not as open minded and would so why should you have to be anxious about it right from the get go? You are also not the only kid going through this right now. If you don’t match with a roommate beforehand most schools have roommate questionnaires they have you fill out beforehand and you can probably put that out there. The benefit in it is having someone who is not homophobic or intolerant. Also it’s no different than when you put a preference that you don’t want a smoker or early riser. The only issue I see is that you want to make it clear that just because you’re gay it doesn’t mean you’re looking for a gay roommate unless of course you are.

Congrats!

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Hi all! Just spoke to the office of housing… guess what? No preference sheet and no LGBTQ freidnly dorms or floors. Also as a transfer student I’d be given last selection because it goes by terms lived on campus. How is this even a thing in 2021!? According to the person I spoke to I get last choice as a transfer student. Not only that but you’re matched with “whoever” unless I can find someone to match with… They don’t do preference sheets or any kind of selections based on interests. It’s entirely based on years lived.

*Couldn’t post this earlier because I was post restricted.

Can you tell us the school?

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I’m following this post until it reaches a happy ending.

We’ll get there! I hope you find a good roommate!!

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Me too. What school?

You’re too kind! I can’t believe all the support I’ve received on here. You guys have been a big help in terms of calming my nerves. I’m openly gay to friends and family but to come out to people who I may see the next 4 years+ is something I’ve had circling in my head over and over again. I don’t want to be that kid I want to have the college experience my friends and family all talk about. I’m sure I’ll find someone :slight_smile:
A big thank you again to all of you for your posts support and kind words.

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It’s Nova Southeastern University.

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Contact the Faculty Advisor and/or the officers of this club. They should be very interested and willing to help you, and should help the university learn what policies they need to change NOW to make housing more accessible to LGBTQ students. If policies don’t change quickly enough for you - policies that address these issues on the housing interest forms and roommate matching task - some of them may be a good contact for you in locating a roommate or pool of potential roommates.

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So I just googled my kids’ universities and lgbtq and a ton of information popped up, including housing options, clubs, so much stuff. We live in the northeast and it’s just what I’m used to. Definitely get in contact with the school, see if there any contacts,me rn students, you can share your concerns with.

Thank you! I’m still on the fence about NSU but it’s pretty much set that I’m going. 99.99% sure. Just depends on when, given transfer credits.

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Hey guys! I have an official tour scheduled with NSU and am in the process of reaching out to the folks at housing. I’m trying not to be too “loud” about it in case I decide not to attend NSU. Lots to think about…

Just wanted to provide an update :smiley:

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Good luck! Keep an open mind.

You’re right about not making it loud, even in your own head. Acknowledge that this is little nagging issue, but don’t let it have power over you.

Have a great tour! It’ll all work out.

Come back with impressions. Hopefully you’ll be able to find someone who’ll be helpful.

Someone made his decision today :star_struck:
Looks like I’m going to be a shark with a new address in the Fall!

As for the roommate situation, I have confirmed that NSU does not have preference housing or LGBTQ floors, but I will not be rooming with anyone else. Looks as if I’ll be able to select a studio if I can get a spot early enough! What happens from there… well that’s a mystery LOL. Who knows? Maybe I’ll find someone I can room with and then the studio becomes a 2 bedroom LOL.
Thinking positive and want to say thank you all for your support and well wishes. I’ll be sure to update this thread as I move in!

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Awesome! Good luck!

So great to hear! I LOVE happy endings and new beginnings!! Good luck!!

fantastic!
thank you for updating us. :slight_smile:

Hi all!
This isn’t so much housing related, however I felt it relevant (and hope you all don’t mind).

Posting this as a heads up for some of you parents/students that maybe haven’t thought about the COVID vaccine for your son/daughter…
NSU has made it essentially a mandate.

An internal email:

Dear NSU Community of Sharks,

I am pleased to announce that because of your continued efforts to control the spread of COVID-19 and the availability of vaccines generally throughout the state and specifically to NSU by Florida Governor Ron DeSantis, NSU intends to resume full in-person classroom learning for the fall 2021 semester/term.

We reached this decision after careful planning and consultation with our health care and operational professionals to ensure that we can indeed return to healthy campuses with appropriate safety precautions in place while implementing new guidelines.

As such, we will continue to follow CDC guidelines and our existing rules (modified as stated below) which follow these guidelines, and advice from our own medical professionals and public health experts. In addition, the availability of the vaccine will enable us to return to a “partial pre-pandemic” environment if we adopt a stringent requirement that all be vaccinated.

In summary, the following announcement is for all students, faculty, and staff members:

ALL NSU STUDENTS, FACULTY, AND STAFF RETURNING TO ANY NSU CAMPUS OR NSU SITE FOR THE FALL 2021 SEMESTER/TERM ARE REQUIRED TO BE FULLY VACCINATED FOR COVID-19 EFFECTIVE AUGUST 1, 2021 (effective JULY 1, 2021 for some Health Professions Division programs, please check with your program director). In the next few weeks, we will produce a formal policy to provide for limited exemptions as recognized under law for students or employees with underlying medical conditions that prohibit vaccination or who have sincerely held religious beliefs (not personal beliefs). A detailed policy will follow in advance of the effective dates, outlining a process for providing your proof of vaccination, as well as how to request consideration for a limited exemption.

With the extra protection of widespread vaccination, the NSU community will be able to resume more activities and operations sooner, leading to a more engaged educational and professional experience. To help everyone learn more about vaccines and have your questions or concerns addressed by NSU medical and health care experts, we will be offering a series of Zoom-based “Shark Talk” sessions beginning this spring and shared through all of NSU’s communications channels.

To make it even more convenient for the NSU community to receive vaccinations, NSU’s Fort Lauderdale/Davie location is now an official NSU vaccination site, designated and supplied by the Florida Department of Health in Broward County. Any NSU student or employee who is eligible (18+ as of April 5 in Florida) is able to make an appointment online. We continue to cooperate with the State to try to help make vaccinations accessible to NSU students and workers at our regional locations as well, and all NSU students, faculty and staff members are welcome to get their vaccine here at NSU Fort Lauderdale/Davie or through their many local vaccination sites.

NSU will also keep in place the sanitization protocols that we implemented at the start of the pandemic, including the use of ionization filters that have been installed across our campuses in high-traffic areas.

NSU dining, sports, and recreation will also resume more of their pre-pandemic, in-person activities and services this fall, while always following the current CDC guidance for safeguarding public health.

Beginning this fall, BlendFlex capabilities will still exist here at NSU but will no longer be the main “platform” for most classes. Rather, BlendFlex may be an option for some on-ground classes, but only for use under special circumstances or as part of existing hybrid or online program delivery modalities. That said, as was done pre-pandemic, some of our professional undergraduate degrees and many of our graduate programs may continue to offer BlendFlex, hybrid, and/or fully online delivery this fall, while others—particularly those with licensing or clinical requirements—may mandate in-person attendance. Check with your academic adviser if you have questions about your program.

For NSU employees who may currently be working under the university’s remote work provision, your supervisor will reach out in the weeks ahead to discuss the best arrangements for the summer and fall. Remember: NSU students and employees who will spend any time on our campuses or at our sites beginning this fall are required to be vaccinated for COVID-19 as of August 1st.
The pandemic has presented many challenges over the last year, and we came together to adapt—I am truly proud of the NSU community. It is thanks to your vigilance that we have remained free from significant outbreaks this year.

We have been through a lot together, and I personally look forward to welcoming everyone back to classes and activities on our campuses again this fall.

Fins Up!

George L. Hanbury II, Ph.D.

Something just came into my inbox! Behold! It’s a preference sheet! :stuck_out_tongue: While LGBTQ wasn’t listed it’s nice to see that they do have one! I’ll be sure to post one last update after moving in :smiley:

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I don’t really know what’s the best thing to do because I’ve never been in such situations. But I feel like you don’t have to go out of your way to disclose your sexuality. Like there’s no need to “explain yourself” if that makes sense? Anyways do whatever makes you comfortable and good luck!!