Gay Roomate!

<p>Wat if roomate is not ok with a gay Roomate?</p>

<p>Why not just be open?</p>

<p>what if he is not okay with it?</p>

<p>If he's not ok with it, then suddenly your double becomes a luxury single.</p>

<p>Oh I see.. well what college are you in? If it's Muir, it is going to be very hard to switch around since we barely have any room.</p>

<p>well, lets make this personal, what would you say if your roomate was gay? How would you react? you know....what would you do?</p>

<p>I personally wouldn't mind. I know a few gay people and I think they are some of the coolest and down to earth people in the world. Of course some are high-strung and high maintenance but so are straight people... But the mere fact that they're "gay" wouldn't bother me. </p>

<p>Gay or straight, if their personality clashes with mine then we might have a problem.</p>

<p>If a roommate is not okay with having a gay roommate, I would hope that he would have put that on their housing application...</p>

<p>Personally, I don't really care what your sexual preference is, just as long as you're not having sex in the room while other people are there, straight, gay, bi, w/e.</p>

<p>So i understand being ok with people being gay, but lets say your roomate wanted to bring someone over his bf, would you still be okay with it? And i don't mean SEX, lol. Would it be uncomtorable to see them together? (hugging or kissing)</p>

<p>Nope not at all. A guy and a guy, a girl and a guy, a girl and a girl.. All humans whatever. </p>

<p>The kissing part.. I don't know I get kind of uncomfortable when I see anyone exchange saliva right next to my face. So as long as I'm not the audience, I guess it's okay.</p>

<p>Don't ask, don't tell.</p>

<p>your right, kissing in front of people for me is not my thing, plus i don't like seeing people doing that since i believe that something personal one should keep to themselves in private, i mean a small peck is okay (is normal) but making out or kissing too much um like wait when ur alone......</p>

<p>I think open dialogue about queer issues amongst roommates is a great thing. The "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is so oppressive, silencing, and downright homophobic. </p>

<p>I'm gay. I lived in a single room this past year, but next year I'm forced to have a roommate in a double in Sixth College, and since no second-year selected the same room as I am in, my roommate is going to be a freshman. </p>

<p>It'll be interesting. I'm planning on coming out to him as soon as we chat for a while, and hopefully he'll be okay with it. </p>

<p>It's important to take into account that acceptance may not happen immediately. It may take time for her/him to accept that their roommate is in fact, queer. Don't be afraid to come out, but at the same time, don't feel that you have to come out. </p>

<p>I created two brochures while I was a part of an undergraduate diversity institute. They're titled "My Roommate is Queer" and "My Roommate is Straight". There's more information in those. </p>

<p>If anyone wants to chat about this further or want to get a hold of the brochures, you can send me a private message. =)</p>

<p>My conception/spin on "don't ask, don't tell" has always been that it marginalized the issue of sexual orientation, that it doesn't matter whether or not you are gay or straight because it doesn't matter to me. For those of us who do make homosexuality a problem (not me, because I really honestly don't care), "don't ask, don't tell" avoids that problem. Of course, I might be under-informed about this issue; if so, please let me know.</p>

<p>I understand your point of view, but I think it's important for someone to be able to share their identity without fear. The "don't tell" part of DADT is the oppresive part, and the "don't ask" only promotes ignorance about lgbt issue. </p>

<p>I agree with you though, it doesn't have to be a big deal. When your roommate is gay, they're not "the gay roommate", they're just a roommate who happens to also be gay. </p>

<p>I hold my grudges on Dont Ask Don't Tell because of the military's upholding of that policy, and the reasons behind it. </p>

<p>I hope that made sense, if not, I'm open for questions.</p>