I’m gay and I’m currently looking for a roommate. I will be a freshman at USM soon and I don’t know what to do. I’ve already had two potential roommates turn their back on me because of my sexuality. I struggle with my sexuality and I have to live on-campus but I’m afraid that if I go for a random roommate things will be even worse.
Why aren’t you going through your housing office? Does your school NOT have an organized housing system?
They do have an organized housing system, I just don’t know what to say.
Contact the housing office at the school. You could also try requesting a single and explain why that would be a better option for you.
What is USM by the way? Southern Maine?
Sorry you experienced some prejudice.
Is there a housing questionnaire? If so, let the college pair you with someone instead of reaching out to people on your own.
Most people are comfortable with having a gay friend when they get to know them as a person. When you are communicating with people via email, they just see a two dimensional version and might fill in with stereotypes. When they meet you in person, you will be YOU, not just “a homosexual.”
Tell your Housing office that you need a single, or if you really want a double, triple or suite, let them know that too. If you give people a heads up, they really don’t care about your preferences. All they care about is making sure you clean up and not trash the place, do your laundry, respect the room boundaries.
I would send an email to the housing office at your school and explain to them your situation. Ask them how you should proceed to find a roommate. Some schools have residence living programs for the LGBT community (I know mine does) that help them meet other people that identify similar to them or who are aware and passionate about the LGBT community. I’m sorry you had to deal with rude people. Keep your head up high!
Google “USM LGBT” and you will find some organization. Ask them for advice.
Also consider going through the regular roommate process.