<p>so, what do most colleges do with us gay students, any way? i know at colby, where some of my friends go they usually give gay freshmen straight roommates (ones that aren't freaked out by gayness, i hope). is that how it works everywhere? i'm not even sure i'd want to room with another gay kid? it would kind of suck if you ended up being romantically interested- i don't think being roommates first year of college would be a good way to make things work out in a relationship. i hear that it's best to try not to room with people you want to date. how does the roommate situation work out usually in cases like this?</p>
<p>How about you ask to be rommed with the Opposite sex. this way there is 0% chance of this happening.</p>
<p>Is it really necessary for the housing people to know sexual orientation?</p>
<p>I understand your concern about ending up being romantically interested, but does sexual orientation really play that big a factor in having to live with someone?</p>
<p>alot of colleges i've seen dont generally house opposite sexes in the same rooms for dormitories, even if you are attracted to the same sex.</p>
<p>Housing forms do not ask about sexual orientation (or homophobia, for that matter). Also, some people don't really decide they are gay until after they have already started college. It is not feasable for dorms to consider this in housing assignments.</p>
<p>I had a lesbian housemate during grad school. I had a boyfriend, she had a girlfriend. We each knew where the other stood. It was absolutely not a problem. Even if she had been attracted to me, it would not have been a problem. Gay people are just as capable as straight people of being appropriate around others who they find attractive but who are unavailable for one reason or another. If anything, they might be more careful about not making advances that might be unwelcome.</p>
<p>well, yeah, i know that, but do my potential roommates? it would kind of suck to get stuck with someone who thinks i'm "all bad" for being gay, since i think it's really kind of cool and <em>not</em> bad. i'd hate to live the year in the same room with someone who's all <em>you're inferior</em>.</p>
<p>housing forms do not ask people if they would object to a roommate who is gay or black or Muslim or from a rural area or handicapped, or anything like that. If you are lucky, they will try to match people up according to some general questions about things like neatness, smoking, noise, bedtimes. If you get there and can't get along with your roommate, you have the same options as anyone else who can't get along with their roommate for whatever reason.</p>
<p>granted sexual orientation is more potent an issue over hobbies and other lifestyle choices, but do you not think everyone has that same kind of issue?</p>
<p>i would love to have had a room mate whome didnt have a problem with me and i did not have a problem with him, but it didnt work out that way. The guy apparently was not very good at dealing with "people" in general, that's just the way the cookie crumbles sometimes.</p>
<p>of course there's not a very high likelyhood that a younger person this day and age would have an outright irrational discrimination of someones life choices of any kind, and furthermore especially someone going to a university, especially depending on the level and atmosphere of the university.</p>
<p>but in short no, being gay does not warrant special attention over other several life choices that people make that could interfer with a good room mate experience.</p>
<p>the only thing you could do is investigate and see if the particular college your going to offer special residential colleges or floors. I know at my university there is a special floor that promots gay and lesbianism, called the rainbow floor or somesuch, but you dont have to be gay to live there and i'm sure most people prefer to just live wherever.</p>
<p>dude, honestly, i dont wanna have a gay roomate.
a couple of months ago, i read an article about gay guys demanding lesbians as roomates cuz then they wouldnt get romantically involved.
i thought that was a great idea.</p>
<p>As long as you're not flaming, it should be fine. If it isn't, you'll switch roommates.</p>
<p>I agree with aim78...I wouldn't mind a gay roomie as long as he didn't form an attraction for me...I mean...gay ppl are normal you know..lol...it's not like they're so different...as long as he's cool and knows what's up it'd be fine</p>
<p>fyi, i've had several friends with gay room mates and they got along just fine, (both understood the importance of being accepting of the other, even with the ackwardness my friend went through gazing up at a man on man version of the erotic "kiss" poster that's so popular).</p>
<p>they got along much better than i did with my (supposedly) straight room mate.</p>
<p>Hot chicks usually hang around gay guys, so it could be a plus that numerous tens are in your room alot. Plus (well according to the stereotype) gay guys are really clean so you wouldn't have to worry about cleaning up after him. I still couldn't do it though. LOL</p>
<p>i dont want to have a gay roommate. would there be any way to switch dorms if the roommate is gay?</p>
<p>why? do gay ppl intimidate you?</p>
<p>No they might not intimidate him, he just doesn't what a gay roommate. This is a totally acceptable view in my eyes. Just as some females might not be comfortable having an assigned male roommate (they don't do this) why should straight males be forced to live with a gay person against their will? Cultural and religous differences are one thing, sexual orientation is a whole different ball of wax.</p>
<p>it would be uncomfortable for straight guys to live and sleep with the fear of rape or something. there should be a way to switch dorms because it could lead to violence, in the millitary i beleive they kick you out if you say your sexual orientation. is there something like this in dorms?</p>
<p>I would say that your view is pretty discriminatory. Not that I think there is anything wrong with choosing not to be in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, but to say something about fearing rape is something else entirely. Most people know how to deal with rejection graciously, I would doubt your roommate would rape you.</p>
<p>dormitory living is kinda different from barracks :-P</p>
<p>The only reason they banned it in the military is so there wouldn't be discrimination towards homosexuals by fellow cadets, officers, etc...."Don't ask don't tell" policy</p>
<p>and as for fear of rape...that's absurd....a gay guy is as likely to rape you as a straight one...if they're messed up in the dome then they'll probably rape you :-P</p>