<p>I really like Vassar but I have been hearing bad things about the amount of gays. Don't get me wrong but I am a straight guy and I would not feel comfortable with a large gay population. I would imagine a population with 1 out of 10 people being gay but I have being hearing that gay people are the majority at Vassar.</p>
<p>Please can I have some truth because I can't imagine that it is as bad as NYC and even NYC is overstated. Please some help!</p>
<p>isn't that better for you though if Vassar is 60% girls and theres a lot of gay men? I mean, its more girls for us straight guys!</p>
<p>If that is a major concern for you, Vassar probably would not be the place for you. You may want to check out Union.</p>
<p>It is not a major concern but I would like to know "how gay" the school is. Some people tell me that there are gay rallies and dances every week and other people tell me that it is not a big deal and not as often.</p>
<p>All I am looking for is the truth so I can make an informed choice.</p>
<p>Well to answer your question yes there is a lot of gay people at Vassar. both women and men.
But my question to you is why does that matter? They are not going to bite you. Dude, I agree with the above post. If you are seriously are basing something like your college decision on the amount of gay people at the college, then you seriously do not need to be at Vassar with its VERY liberal and VERY gay campus.</p>
<p>Peace</p>
<p>well im applying ED and I understand Ztrash's concern. Id be interested in really seeing just how obvious the community and whether there are very many straight girls...</p>
<p>i dont care if there are a lot of gay people around me, i dont care, but i want some women from which to date or something...</p>
<p>Do you all really think that there will only be 1 or 2 straight girls????
NO!!!! There will of course be enough straight girls.
I think you should worry more about the girls liking you. At a college like Vassar the girls will undoubtedly be smart and they may not WANT to date someone that bases their education on the amount of available girls at said college</p>
<p>if anything you straight guys would have it fairly easy lets assume that for every 70 girls there are 30 guys, now outta the 70 girls you have 30 odd lesbians and out of the 30 guys you have about 13 gay guys that leaves you with 40 straight girls for ever 17 straight guys......if anything the straight guys have a lot of women</p>
<p>i suppose lol yea, i guess its silly to worry.....and im not basing my education on the amount of available girls, if that were the case, Id go to lesley college which is going coed next year so that would be the place to go if i were that interested. </p>
<p>im just concerned...</p>
<p>"Id go to lesley college which is going coed"</p>
<p>Another women's college down, geez, as if Wells wasn't enough.</p>
<p>Look if you are that worried about the gay population at Vassar then you need to look at ur own sexuality. I on the other hand am very secure about my sexuality and have had many sexual experiences with men and yet im still straight and love the ladies. Just because your around gay people doesnt mean that you have to be one. Take into account the existentialist view of Albert Camus don't let society define you define yourself.</p>
<p>Maybe I am misunderstanding you, but you say that you have had "many sexual experiences with men," but you are still straight? Now, I don't have anything against gays or anything like that, otherwise I certainly wouldn't be applying to Vassar, but that comment doesn't make much sense to me...</p>
<p>Other than that, I agree with you x 9.</p>
<p>One's sexuality doesn't depend on who one sleeps with, but who one is attracted to both physically and romantically. I can't make any statements as to stopcrying's experiences, but it perfectly understandable for a curious straight man to experiment with gay sexuality if for no other reason than to see what it's like. There are those also who would identify themselves as straight, being attracted physically and romantically to members of the opposite sex, yet still have such an affinity for gay sex that they seek it out as an alternative form of relief (I believe the term coined for such people is "flexual"). What one likes to do on a Saturday night and one's sexuality do not always have to go hand in hand.</p>
<p>True. I didn't think of it like that.</p>
<p>According to the sex researcher Alfred Kinsey (there is a great movie out right now about his life that everyone should see), a surprisingly high number of straight men (a majority, actually), have had some sort of homosexual sexual experience. He had a theory about "degrees of sexuality:" that some people are fully gay, and others are fully straight, but most lie somewhere on a spectrum between the two.</p>
<p>"What one likes to do on a Saturday night and one's sexuality do not always have to go hand in hand."</p>
<p>Halrandir- now really...... :)</p>
<p>Ztrash - to try to actually answer your question.... To my understanding
There is a significant gay population at Vassar, but it is not the majority. The gay male population is especially large; the heterosexual female population is also excessively large (there are a lot of girls at Vassar). If you want to have a lot of straight men around, there might not be as many as at some schools. And gay culture is definately a major influence at Vassar. But if you're looking for straight girls to date, there are a lot of those. Now whether they'd date you is another matter altogether...</p>
<p>Im looking forward to a school where not every guy is macho and homophobic like the ones I go to school with at the small private, mostly Irish Catholic school I go to.</p>
<p>That there is a large gay male population is something that appeals to me for the influence it likely has on the scene at the school</p>
<p>I would definitely have to agree with Silverstonett. The fact that there is a sizable gay population just proves how accepting of an atmosphere Vassar must have. With me personally, this is the type of school I want(even though I myself am straight), as opposed to a school with a huge jock population.</p>
<p>I personally don't have a preference for either a "considerable" gay or "considerable" straight population. But it's sort of comforting to attend a school where people of all different backgrounds, races, and orientations are accepted and embraced by the rest of the college community. Honestly every top liberal arts school has great professors (and bad ones), small classes (and large ones, the amount of which depending on the school), and decent (if not amazing) departments in the liberal arts. What distinguishes a particular college (like Vassar, in my opinion), is the student population. And I'm not talking about overall intelligence or intellect... Notre Dame and Boston College are known for having smart kids, but they're also sometimes known to have homogeneity and inteolerance on campus because the general ideologies of the student body do not leave room for certain societal groups (e.g. gay, lesbian, transgendered people).</p>
<p>I sometimes get upset, though, when people who say they are "tolerant" or "accepting" give this forewarning... "I'm not anti-gay or anything, but I don't know how comfortable I'd be surrounded by gays." To be honest, I wouldn't want to be in an atmosphere with all gay people, nor would I want to be in an environment with all straight people. But I think if gay people make you uncomfortable, you're not really "accepting;" you might just be "tolerant" - and there is a difference.</p>
<p>And I think often times, in college, the lines between different sexual orientations are blurred. Freud once said that all humans are bisexuals. Now I'm not sure if this holds true in the contemporary sense of the word. But I do think everyone has homoerotic tendencies. For instance, as a straight male, I am still able to point out which guys I would find more attractive (and all you straight guys out there know you can too, so don't bother denying it). However, someone said earlier that even guys who engage in male sexual intercourse on a regular basis because they might have a preference for it are not necessarily "gay" or "bisexual" - this might be a stretch. I think homosexuality can take varying degrees. I think if I had a strong attraction to males, it'd be safe to assume I'm homosexual (or bisexual, if my attraction to females were equal or just about). But either way, I'm not sure most college kids necessarily categorize themselves in this way. You know how your older friends are when they've come back from college for the first time; they are different people most of the time. I prefer to think that they are the same people they've always been... they have just changed phenotype.</p>
<p>If you're that concerned about your dating life, it's a waste of time. Guys at tech schools where the odds are very against them (somtimes 80:20 M:F) still get girlfriends. And if you're a straight guy, the odds at Vassar are IN your favor. However, if you're intolerant or not really accepting of gays, don't go to Vassar.</p>
<p>[Pardon my longwinded response. It's a topic I could write a book about...]</p>