<p>So I dated the first girl I loved for 8 months. We broke up, and we hated each other for about 6 months. I found out she was moving away, so I knew I had to make things right. I apologized, and we spent 3 days together before she left. We decided to try a long distance relationship.</p>
<p>Tonight we had the first fight like our old ones. I told her I want to be married in a church and raise my children Christian, she said she would never be married in a church and wants to rasie her children atheist.</p>
<p>We ended up breaking down together and saying we could work through it... but can we? I just felt like I might be saying that because I love being with her. I love her. But these aren't just tiny things we can overlook.</p>
<p>I mean I'm the kind of guy that wants to wear suits have a fancy house, a good wine collection and sit on my boat while listening to bossa nova... she's the kind of girl that wants to go kayaking and fall into the water. Can we compromise?</p>
<p>I don't know. I'm going off to college soon and I just don't know if I'm going to be able to keep on perpetuating this when I start meeting girls that are more similar to me and what I want. </p>
<p>But I can't stop loving her...</p>
<p>And I know all of you are going to say you can't just change her, even if she says you can work through it. You are going to say I have to try and move on... but I just can't see myself doing that. We've broken each other's heart too many times before. I can't do it again...</p>
<p>If you already know you should be moving on, then why are you asking us....I knwo that sounds harsh, and trust me, I know how hard it is to move on, but either tell her waht you want ...and if she doesnt like it...then there are many girls out there that envision the same things you do...and its' a bit early to be thinking of kids/marriage with a gf you know?</p>
<p>I can do school with nuclear bombs going off around me... I've never had a problem with focus. Well I've always had a problem, I'm always day-dreaming, but it's worked out really well thus far. </p>
<p>Maybe I'm not a typical CC kid but I get more of a rush from things outside of school...</p>
<p>well my first love was during the end of 7th grade year, and we went out for a few months.and maybe a few years later, i still love and miss her =(</p>
<p>I'm sorry for you, Visirale, but I think high schoolers shouldn't even date, b/c it distracts from academics, unless you have a 3.8 GPA and an SAT score of above 2100, then maybe you can handle it. lol</p>
<p>4.3 2200... but I don't think scores determine one's ability to date. I know a lot of kids with scores much lower than mine that can handle it much better than me... not that it's a distraction or anything.</p>
<p>The part of the brain that handles academics and the part of the brain that understands relationships don't always overlap... and I'd even say that more often than not a sharp academic mind can't understand the abstract principles of love and the heart as well as some other people.</p>
<p>This is one of those things that people tend to try to forget they ever wondered about 6 months down the road. To me, it sounds like infatuation rather than love, but perhaps I'm utterly off. Eh, I just think you sound like too sweet a guy to not be filled with hopeless romantic notions.</p>
<p>Also, why shouldn't high schoolers think about dating or love or marriage? Might as well start early and mature faster as you go through these (stupid, but that's speaking for my own experiences) things.</p>
<p>I think that hs students should think about dating, love, and marriage, but not in terms of expecting it out of their current bf/gf. That's unrealistic. In college, it is very much a real thing for some people. Some go to college with the intention of getting married. It is important to know and have thought through these issues, but not to apply them right now. KNow where you stand....while you're sitting!</p>