<p>Hey everyone, this may sound really stupid but i'll give it a shot. So I know this girl that i kind of like. I talk to her quite often and she starts like 90% of the conversations that i have with her. I saw here after school today and she was walking in the same direction as me, so i went and started talking to her. I said hi and she said hi back to me and we started talking. I kind of stuttered for some reason when i was trying to say something and after a minute or so, we stopped talking but we were still walking next to each otehr. Suddenly, she started calling to her friend(who is also a girl) and she went and started talking to her. She didn't say anything at all to me before leaving and i felt really akward afterwards. Do you think the fact that i stuttered randomly would have caused her to go away?</p>
<p>It's probably because you ignored her. If I was walking with someone, having a good time, and then sudenly the conversation came to a hault....i would go somewhere else to have fun. I would be extremely shocked if anyone cared about someone stuttering. I would find it quite hilarious and just move on.</p>
<p>Thanks for the reply. I wasnt really ignoring her though. We just both stopped talking for like 10 seconds and then she went off with her other friend. Maybe i'm just feeling weird because i like her. I probably wouldn't care at all if the same thing happened between me and a girl that i didnt like.</p>
<p>Keep having conversations with her. Just relax and talk about school or anything that applies to both of you. Ask her questions like "What did you think about math class?" or "Do you have a lot of homework?" Just don't give up, man!</p>
<p>Maybe i should start more conversations with her. I often wait for her to start talking to me. She might think i'm trying to avoid her or something. For example, she waited for me after school the other day thinking that i was going to be walking in the same direction as her, but i ended up saying "hi" and then "i have to go the other way, bye" to her and then walking in the other direction kind of abruptly(because i parked my car on the opposite side of the school).</p>
<p>You should. I like those guys who start conversations- they show confidence and interest in us.</p>
<p>She sounds a bit tactless and incosiderate. If I were in her position, I would excuse myself before running off to start a new conversation. That said, it probably has nothing to do with your stuttering.</p>
<p>I dunno, she has done things like that before though. Like one time she did the exact same thing, but then she came back and continued the conversation i was having with her a few hours later and i ended up talking to her for a while. She's a bit strange i guess. The only reason i felt so bad when it happened today was because i felt like she was trying to get away from me or something. </p>
<p>One more thing: Whenever i try to start conversations with her, i get a bit nervous and i end up doing stupid things. For example, i often say the wrong thing or stutter(this only happens when i talk to her, i never have this problem when i talk to my other friends).</p>
<p>Did you ever see the movie "Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle"? Your situation sounds like when Harold wanted to meet Maria, but was always too tongue-tied to talk to her. It's a funny movie if you need a rental some time.</p>
<p>If she starts a conversation with you 90% of the time, she is certainly interested in talking with you. She probably left you because she felt awkward with the silence. Just relax! The next time, why don't you ask her to get a cup of coffee or lunch with you?</p>
<p>I haven't seen and "Harold and Kumar", but i think i'm gonna rent it this weekend. I think asking her out for lunch/coffee is a bit too far for me at this point lol. </p>
<p>One thing i just realized is that when i first met her, i used to start 90% of the conversations with her. After a while, we didn't talk for like two weeks until one day, when she started talking to me again. Now, she starts like 90% of the conversations with me. I don't know what exactly to make of that though.</p>
<p>I'm not sure if you are in high school or college, but how about getting her im name and talk to her online for awhile. Maybe that would be an easy way to break the ice?</p>
<p>One thing that almost always works with anybody is to ask them questions about themselves. (What's up with you? What did you do last weekend? Did you see that movie? Are you planning to watch the Olympics? Who did you root for in the Super Bowl -- did you go to any good Super Bowl parties? What do you think of that teacher? I hate my cell phone carrier - who do you have? I wonder what I should do about this problem, etc....) Once she starts talking, look attentive and hang on her every word, and interject a few comments now and then. If the conversation lags, ask another question! People love to talk about themselves, and it makes them think you are a great conversationalist even if they do most of the talking.</p>
<p>PS - I know I'm old and my conversational topics might be lame, but you get the idea! ;)</p>
<p>that she's re-interested perhaps.
go 4 it before it's too late.
as our football coach says .. "DONT SCREW UP"
beat the machine that works in your head, break out instead ;)
I mean you have something to work on here, she wouldn't talk to you if she didnt like you. lk has some good ideas, and when the conversation is flowing, see if you can casually invite her, if you don't want it to be just a "date", go with some other friends to the movies or something.</p>
<p>haha, i'm in high school by the way. I talk to her online quite often actually and i usually have long conversations with her. Unfortunately, I screw up whenever i talk to her in person. Thanks for the advice though!</p>
<p>find something both of you like to do, i'm sure you know quite a bit about her if you talk to her online a lot</p>
<p>Actually, going to a movie or a sporting event is really safe because you have something to watch (passive event!) and an automatic conversation topic.</p>
<p>I know several things that she and I share a common interest in and those things usually make good conversation starters. I don't know why, but I always get extremly nervous/shy when i'm in the same room as her. Like, i'll try to start a conversation with her by calling her name to get her attention, but i'll end up not saying it loud enough, so she doenst actually hear me and i just end up feeling strange. Do you guys have any tips on how to start conversations without getting nervous? I can usually handle situations where i am nervous, but when the situations involve her, i loose the ability to talk...</p>
<p>By the way, thanks for all the advice you have given me so far, it has really helped a lot and i really appreciate it.</p>
<p>I can see how it would be hard to approach a girl. My daughter always seems to be in a crowd of people where ever she goes. You know what it's like when a gaggle of girls are all talking at the same time! Maybe you can try to approach her "close up" at a quieter time so you won't have to compete with other general chaos.</p>
<p>My daughter's friends often plan an activity online via IM. You could see if she want to see a new movie (or w/e) that way. Another option is to go out in a group. Like have a friend of yours ask her and a couple of mutual friends to go to a movie. Just like a small group of friends to make things more comfortable. Then the next time it might be easier for you to do as a one on one.</p>
<p>Do you plan to give her a valentine card next week?</p>
<p>Do you plan to give her a Valentine card next week?</p>
<p>BTW, does she ever initiate a conversation with you? When you see each other on campus or elsewhere, does she ever walk up to you first, wave first, smile first, etc.?</p>
<p>The next time you see her or speak to her on the phone, casually ask if she has any plans for Valetine's Day and Winter Break, assuming that your hs will be on break Feb. 20-24!</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice lkf725.</p>
<p>gsp<em>silicon</em>valley, she often inititates conversations with me and she waves, smiles at me first sometimes. Now that I think about it, there have been many instances where she waved or smiled at me and i didn't respond because I thought she was waving to someone else even though she was actually waving to me. I don't plan to give her a valentines card, we're just friends right now.</p>