Need advice/reassurance to clear my mind

<p>Okay, I promise this forum won't just be a depository for my personal issues. I actually have college concerns and I genuinely like this community from the looks of it. But...</p>

<p>There's girl issues. Of course there's girl issues! I'm not the social failure that I was two years ago, I have dozens of friends now and have settled rather comfortably into the community. As soon as I started getting interested in this girl in my biology class,though, my speech skills go to hell. </p>

<p>So I asked her (with the greatest effort of sounding casual and not completely nervous and dumbstruck) if she wanted to eat lunch with me at our school's cafe-ish joint that serves as an alternative to the crap we eat in the regular cafeteria. She said something along the lines of "Oh, I was actually going to go eat with my friend(s)" So I mercifully let her go to avoid assuming the obsessive/creeper phase.</p>

<p>I'm guessing your first impression is already: "Woah, this guy is trying WAY too hard!"
I know. That's something I'll fix sometime - maybe sometime soon. What I would like to know is: I can't obviously just give up based on that one instance, right? She does talk to me frequently (admittedly, this is more when she needs help with her homework or something, and it's often over facebook). I was interested in talking to her about other things aside from school and actually getting to know her, but my way of going about this was the above plan. What do I need to change, based on what you can glimpse of the situation?</p>

<p>No, you can’t give up after one try. However, do give up once you clearly (No ■■■■■ half-asking out stuff, clear intentions pl0x) are not reciprocated.</p>

<p>Just tell her you like her.</p>

<p>^ That’s cliche</p>

<p>Find out about her interests, and join those clubs or activities, ONLY if you sincerely enjoy them yourself, and maybe even try one activity to see how it rings by, and then you’ll have something to talk about, :)</p>

<p>I agree that you don’t have to give up yet, but keep in mind that the odds are not good. Follow the above advice, but start thinking about other girls. I’ve seen way too many guys get obsessed with one girl, only to end up heartbroken for a few years.</p>

<p>Next time she needs help, offer to help her in person, like in the library or at this food place, so that you have some time afterwards to talk about normal stuff and get to know her and have her get to know you.</p>