<p>ah yes, I do love this technique. I use it all the time, and always wonder if they know what I'm doing. Do you think the guys have cought on or are still as clueless as we want to think they are??</p>
<p>You don't want him to think he's special? Isn't the whole point to make him think he's special?</p>
<p>Not if you don't want him to know you like him. . .</p>
<p>If he doesn't know, there's less of a chance he'll come over</p>
<p>This is usually used in the preliminary stages of a crush, when one is still calculating the intensity of said crush and him "coming over" isn't an option--it may just be a window shopping thing. Later on, you can vary this so that you look a bit longer at him than other people, which makes him start thinking "what if". If he starts to flirt, you follow the now not-so-subtle GTSEATRBTWHDTHASBYLAEET with a smile. Of course, oftentimes girls still in the preliminary stages either look for too long of a time (making the "glance" into a "stare") or smile unnecessarily, potentially causing embarassment and awkwardness.</p>
<p>you are so full of wisdom martha</p>
<p>you knows it</p>
<p>I am quite confused.</p>
<p>girls and the subtle GTSEATRBTWHDTHASBYLAEET is a result of guys and the staring thing. They bring it upon themselves.</p>
<p>Sometimes I blatantly stare, then the second I see him start to look at me, I turn it into a sweeping glance. . . That's because I'm just not brave enough to tell him I like him.</p>
<p>You know if girls were more direct the world would be a more peaceful place. I bet if that girl who glanced at bin Laden when he was 16 just came over and told him she liked him, we wouldnt be in this mess now.</p>
<p>A girl who isn't brave, what a huge turn on...</p>
<p>If you could not tell I was joking, you have bigger problems</p>
<p>Hey, we're not all wusses. I made the first move last time.</p>
<p>But I do have to say that I prefer boys who are more traditional with things like that (but not the whole paying for everything business).</p>
<p>well. . . what if it's a friend for whom you do not have similar feelings?? Would you rather that friend tell you and make it akward, or not tell you and still be friends??? How is she supposed to know if you have or don't have similar feelings?</p>
<p>The particular person whom I realllly like, is a friend of mine right now. Not a fabulous friend, but we'll eat lunch together and hang out with other friends and stuff. And he's such a nice/awesome guy that I'd rather just be his friend than nothing, so I don't want to ruin and make akward a friendship just for the chance that he'll like me back.</p>
<p>ask the great all-knowing martha</p>
<p>only she is qualified to answer such a question</p>
<p>Equine, this is where you get some balls and flirt your butt off.</p>
<p>yeah but I'm a fat girl :( Plus, one of our mutual friends, who was a really good friend of his told him she liked him, and when he didn't reciprocate she basically stopped being his friend, so I don't want him to think I'm doing the same thing, and thus akward.</p>
<p>If he really likes you, you'll automatically become absolutely beautiful. Don't worry about weight.</p>
<p>If he doesn't like you, it'll give you cause to hurry up and get over him so that you can find a better boy. And don't just stop being his friend. That's childish. Still talk to him, don't stammer, act natural.</p>
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I have a whole army of hired assassins, led by kchen.
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I knew I would be dragged into this. Haha. Aye, Captain Martha.</p>
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And don't just stop being his friend. That's childish.
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Oh I would never do that. That was the other girl. I just don't want him to anticipate me doing that because she did it, and get weird.</p>