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i disagree. girls don't just do that because they're insecure. what time period are we living in, for God's sake?
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I don't know what kind of girl that's not insecure enough to wear skimpy clothes then get mad when guys look at them. That's just like asking to get slapped in the face. Left or right? Left please.</p>
<p>babybird87: "if a girl slaps you, you probably deserve it"</p>
<p>You implying that their judgment is superior in the sense that they are justified in their slap? Screw that! If a chick hits me out of some sort of immature rage on her part, I'm gonna be slappin' some back to her... maybe get out the boot if things get heavy.</p>
<p>to the girls,</p>
<p>i need some advice. my friend's gf is driving me crazy. I usually talk to her on AIM. She's everything that u guys are describing. She makes herself small, pretty, cute, vulnerable, etc, so be to seductive. And I try not to upset by saying she's hot and cute and whatever, since that seems to make her happy. Now, I'm not flirting with her. Although I tink she's pretty, she already has a BF (my friend...lol). But I still joke around and call her "princess of the universe" and whatever, cuz she seems to like it.</p>
<p>But then, I told her about some other girl that I have a crush on. And then, she started getting upset, saying that she's no longer hot, and trying to convince me that the girl i have a crush on is also not hot. I dunno if she's jealous or what...or just joking with me. it's on AIM so it's hard to tell. But she always makes it a point to try to convince me that the other girl isn't hot. I think she's simply playing with my mind, and doesn't really feel jealous or anything. I mean, she already has a BF right. I think she just says that to get me to tell her even more that she's hot. Sort of like the "poor me, puppy face" attitude. I'm not really sure though. It's really bugging me since we were usually pretty good friends, but now, she makes herself look sad and neglected and unwanted, while saying that the girl i have crush on isn't hot.</p>
<p>Personally, I feel kinda angry at her, since i've always been nice, doing everything to make her happy, etc. and now, she starts saying that the girl i have a crush on isn't pretty. Sorta like backstabbing? She wants me to feel guilty for rejecting her? I don't know. It's frustrating cause she won't tell me her feelings. I think she's just playing with my mind...but I have no clue. </p>
<p>Can any girls please decipher this behavior...lol?</p>
<p>Is she friends with the girl you like?</p>
<p>legend-- that kind of thinking is so backwards, I feel myself slipping into rural Alabama already...</p>
<p>That girl sounds like she's jealous of you liking some other girl. Not that you liked her, but you used to give her more of the attention that she liked so much. Now that you've focused more of your attention elsewhere, she's mad. That's dumb.</p>
<p>she's not really friends with her.</p>
<p>they don't go to the same school. the only time they saw each other was at a party that i did not attend. she said the girl i like is ugly. I don't know if she's serious or not, or just trying to get to me to say even more that she's pretty, sort of like the "poor me" attitude. I dunno. Her BF, me, and the girl I like all go to the same school, BTW.</p>
<p>It's frustrating cuz I don't know if she's serious. I've done everyting to make her happy, and it seems like a bit of the backstab, betrayal, injustice, etc. to go out and say the girl i like isn't pretty. Seems unfair huh? or do girls just like to do that to drive guys insane? to seduce guys even more with their "puppy face" behavior? i dunno.</p>
<p>punkette, i think you're prolly right. I used to give her tons of attention, telling how she was so superior and high and above everyone else...lol...cuz she liked it.</p>
<p>And then I mentioned the other girl (the girl i like) and now she feels neglected. I dunno.</p>
<p>I thought that since she already has a BF (and they are pretty close to each other), then she couldn't care less about how i felt about her, so i thought she was simply joking. But she might also be serious. I dunno. It's AIM and emotions don't really reveal themselves well...lol.</p>
<p>oh...this is important.</p>
<p>I mentioned that the two girls met at a party. Well, her BF, or my friend, was also there. Actually, it was at his house. I wasn't there, but I heard that my friend and his GF got sorta mad at each other cuz she though my friend also liked the other girl (the girl i like). I don't know the full story, but apparently, she was kinda mad that my friend invited the other girl. So that might explain a little of her contention towards the other girl. I dunno.</p>
<p>If this is sounding like a soap opera, i'll stop now...lol.</p>
<p>Sorta off topic, but I wanted to contribute something.
I like guys who are tall and skinny. I really like the clean looking guys, the guys who wear the abercrombie blouses (especially in pink) with the jeans and doc martins and glasses are a nice plus, especially the rectangular ones.
I like guys who talk to me by my name and acknowledge me and are really polite. We had this Germany exchange student who had this crazy-hawt accent and he sat behind me in communications so he would always talk to me. To me, a guy needs to have a good voice-the kind that's deep but airy and really masculine.
For guys-what's even the tiniest hint that you do or say that would show you find a girl attractive? and would you prefer a tall girl or a short one?</p>
<p>"...abercrombie blouses (especially in pink)..."</p>
<p>I hope this is a joke.</p>
<p>But because it is probably not, I will answer your question. I do not give hints to show my affection. The best way to tell if a male likes you is to just look for natural clues (e.g., if he pays attention to you). I find that when I am very attracted to someone, I cannot take my eyes off her while we talk.</p>
<p>A woman of my height (or shorter) is preferable.</p>
<p>tore, what would you do to avoid a crazy person?</p>
<p>What do you mean "avoid"? Only you can decide with whom you have a relationship.</p>
<p>Hm. I didn't read this whole thread. But I don't think men and women are that hard to figure out.</p>
<p>Women drop hints and read hints. They analyse everything and put themselves and other women down.</p>
<p>Men are blunt. If he asks for a beer, it simply means he wants a beer. When he's thirsty, he will drink. When he's hungry he will eat.</p>
<p>Am I right? I'm a girl, too. I don't understand how girls can't understand guys. We girls are the complex ones!</p>
<p>twinkletoes, you're really specific on the type of guys you like. Is it more of your ideal guy? We all have an ideal guy but you can't always have him...life isn't perfect.</p>
<p>All the guys I know seem to like the tall (but shorter than him), blonde, and skinny type. I was wondering is this how it is for all of you?</p>
<p>I don't hit girls in retaliation, but I think it is funny how some girls want to be treated as equals but are unwilling to undergo the same thing. I know many girls who use "equality" conveniently.</p>
<p>I agree with you maja. Music, guys like different things. It seems to be southerners like big booty and northers like big jugs. Doesn't really matter. Someone will find you attractive.</p>
<p>I'm a girl. Ask me something, and I'll answer.</p>
<p>"I think it is funny how some girls want to be treated as equals but are unwilling to undergo the same thing. "....AMEN....one of my friends is all about her "independence," and how "women can make it just like men," but she uses this male inferiority complex....she went as far as to say...."men are irrational, unhelpful, and dumb compared to women."...i mean SERIOUSLY....i treat all the girls i know equally with all the guys i know...cept my GF she gets special treatment :p...but point being...i hate these crazy feminazis that put men down, but then go crazy when you say something of the like towards women....it's SO ANNOYING...</p>
<p>i wanna ask you something...why is it that my girl will freak out about something with me, and then when i freak out over the exact same (or very similar) thing she goes nuts and gets angry at me and then says I'm the one in the wrong?</p>