Going crazy, need advice

Transfer Students
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<p>I am not unhappy at my current university, but I do not like the university itself. I cannot take it seriously. I think the school spirit there is silly. I do not like that I'm doing the same thing so many of my peers from high school are doing (over 100 are at my university) and I hate the reputation and the kinds of people that go to the school most of all. They are generally white party people. The environment is a rural college town. I have been rejected from 6 clubs and applied for 4 jobs which I have never heard back from. I have met people but I do not think these people are in anyway interesting or my types of people. I tell people I attend this university and they are surprised, and they say they cannot see me there. My best friend is also at this university, and we have the same friends. I am starting to realize our relationship is toxic and I do not wish to continue to be friends with her, however we have the same friends and while I have tried to create opportunities to make new ones, I am rejected! </p>

<p>I could transfer to a university within the city I grew up. This university is less prestigious, but I like the environment so much better. And there is such a large arts community there and I thrive in arts communities. I would not feel embarrassed about this university when I tell people, and I actually appreciate the people. I feel like this university fits me better than others. </p>

<p>The problems with transferring are as follows: I remain in the city where I grew up for quite a while. Meaning many years. I did not grow up in the CITY aspect however, I grew up about 20 minutes away. Making new friends, transferring credits, etc. If I stay at my current university, I have the opportunity to study abroad sophomore year, rather than junior year. </p>

<p>I NEED ADVICE. So many people are telling me different things. In my heart, I want to transfer, but I am scared of finding new people to live with and regrets.</p>

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<p>I have the EXACT same issue as you, try make new friends in clubs. Can’t seem to fit in even though I have friends, I don’t feel like myself at all. I want to also transfer but I don’t know if I should stay or go. But my advice to you would to transfer because if you do stay, you will still wonder what would been like to transfer and possibly regret not transferring. If you don’t like the atmosphere now, you won’t like it for the next 2 or 3 years. And if you don’t like the people in your college, there would be a hard chance to find your people that you’ll like. Plus, if you like the city university environment better then it’s totally worth it, also if you had friends back home in that area. That’s means it could be easier to make new friends that are like you! Hopes this helps</p>

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<p>I have a son and a daughter who attended a college in the city by where we live. They both really wanted to be IN the city and they enjoyed the opportunities available to them. neither of them spent much time at home and that suited them just fine. A large city has a lot to offer even if you live there for a long time.</p>

<p>The decision to transfer really is a personal one. No one can give you advice about this which means anything because you have determine for yourself whether your unhappiness will follow you to the new school or if you can leave it behind by transferring. This calls for a bit of introspection and being honest with yourself.</p>

<p>Finally, while studying abroad is important, is it worth being miserable to be able to go abroad one year earlier?</p>