Going to prom stag -- worth it or should I just not go?

<p>So after a couple of rejections and miscalculations I'm left about a week and a half away from prom with no date.. which leads me to wonder whether I should just go stag with a group of friends (all of whom do have dates, though they aren't necessarily really romantic dates more like just going as friend dates). I haven't really gone to many dances at all in HS and I wanted to go to this one obviously, it's senior prom, and I want to have some fond memories of the occasion. I</p>

<p>My question is.. is it worth it? The ticket will be expensive, and with tux and dinner I'll end up paying like 250 without even a date. Part of me says I'll feel left out and shunned at the dance when the actual dancing takes place, but the other part of me says.. who cares.. there won't be that much slow dancing anyway and it'll be fun doing other things and talking to friends and everything..</p>

<p>yeah i'm rambling but this is pretty upsetting to me and i have very little time to figure things out. ~_~</p>

<p>any input would be much appreciated.. thank you muchly :/</p>

<p>dude hell yea, prom was fun. I had a date though, but I honestly would not have had a problem dancing like an idiot all alone...I just lucked out and this girl asked me....so I just danced like an idiot with her.</p>

<p>IDK though, if your prom is going to be large, go stag. My prom had like maybe 30-40 people dancing so I bet I really stood out when I was snapping my fingers to every rap beat</p>

<p>i demand that you go</p>

<p>it's gonna be pretty big yeah
thanks : )</p>

<p>I was pretty much in the same position as you up until rather recently. Prom is overly dramatic - I've had a few "miscalculations" as well - but it isn't impossible to find a date, if only because others will probably be in the same position you are. Ask around and see if anyone you're friends with still needs a date - girls are rather meticulous about keeping tabs of this, at least in my school (it's really ridiculous). </p>

<p>But anywho, if by whatever circumstance or chance you don't end up with a date, you should realize that a) Prom <em>is</em> fun and all, and one of those stereotypical high school memories our society teaches us that we should have, but b) that it really isn't as important as it's played out to be. If you don't feel the $250 to be worth it, then don't go - take a few friends and go out for the night instead. I'm lucky my school's Prom is only $15 due to massive fundraising, but I would personally suggest that you try to go since it really is a good time if you want it to be.</p>

<p>yeah i'm going with a large group of friends anyway. so it shouldn't be too bad.. right? i mean how much of the dancing is with the date?</p>

<p>^depends on the couple. When I went last year, my date and I basically danced the entire night. But I had a few friends who didn't mind just "hanging out". And having a group of friends means you can hopefully find someone who shares your particular to dance or not dance - there's really not too much social expectation. It's your night after all.</p>

<p>I had a date for my prom until my boyfriend broke up with me 5 days before.</p>

<p>I think stag experiences largely differ.</p>

<p>1) Depends on the prom culture of your high school.
Will you be one of the only people going to your prom stag? Is this at all common, or is it a complete rarity? If you'll be one of the very very few going by yourself, you may feel uncomfortable (though not necessarily) </p>

<p>2) Your group of friends.
You may be going in a group, but if all your friends will be wrapped up in their dates all night, you will probably feel left out. However, if your friends tend to only be "loosely connected" with dates during the night, it could be completely fine.</p>

<p>3) Your own thoughts about going to prom stag.
If you feel very negatively about going by yourself, you will probably not have a good time. Prom will be what you make of it.</p>

<p>I'm sorry. All the better for you -- you can mingle with the singles! </p>

<p>HAHAHAHAA. I'm a little lame but def go and yes, prom's what you make of it, so mentally prepare yourself to have fUN! :)</p>

<p>Go! Defintely go! Think of all the wonderful conversations you'll have later in life about what a pit high school was-culminating in the 'never to be forgotton' horror of the prom. Worth the bucks for all the material you can mine later-the horrible clothing and hairstyles, the aweful food, the dorky music. Fodder for your art! All my favorite people have GREAT stories about how depressing their prom was. And now that we all have kids facing 'the night of nights,' we can regale them with the horrors of our own prom experience-giving them the courage to face up to and possibly even enjoy the silliest event of your entire high school experience.</p>

<p>^Best response ever, IMO...</p>

<p>I laughed.</p>

<p>I cried. :(</p>

<p>Actually, among the group of friends only like one or two have dates that are like.. their bf/gf. The others are pretty much just friends going as dates. so I think it should he fine? i'm about 90% sure i'm going stag at this point</p>

<p>just go and enjoy yourself. (: i know plenty of people who went stag and still had tons of fun. it all comes down to your mindset though; if you go thinking, oh all of my friends have dates this is such a waste of time why am i even here etc etc, then obviously you won't have a good time. prom really isn't the Big Deal that so many people make it out to be, but since you're a senior and this is your last chance, so to speak. i vote yes.</p>

<p>(although i feel kinda hypocritical b/c i ended up not doing to my junior prom when my boyfriend couldn't go but uhh, i don't regret it much?)</p>

<p>dude who cares? In a month you wont see most of the people ever again. Go wild, make a fool of yourself. Whatever you do, remember to just have fun and don't care what others think about you.</p>

<p>it was lame.</p>

<p>250 bucks? No way I'd go haha. Too cheap.. too jewish :P</p>

<p>I'd be careful with "too Jewish." I assume you are probably Jewish, but that ridiculous stereotype is offensive to many, including myself. If you wanna be cheap, keep it to yourself, don't stick it to an entire religion.</p>

<p>$250....hmmm......</p>

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I'd be careful with "too Jewish." I assume you are probably Jewish, but that ridiculous stereotype is offensive to many, including myself. If you wanna be cheap, keep it to yourself, don't stick it to an entire religion.

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Race, not religion.</p>

<p>Dt, go stag. Chances are that there are tons of girls who are going alone, too. I'm sure they'd be happy if a guy like you asked them to dance (sorry if I'm wrong, I'm assuming you are a guy). And prom is only as awkward or as bad as you make it to be, so I really disagree with M's mom comment. :P</p>

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I'd be careful with "too Jewish." I assume you are probably Jewish, but that ridiculous stereotype is offensive to many, including myself. If you wanna be cheap, keep it to yourself, don't stick it to an entire religion.

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Oh, lighten up. Dave Chappelle can make an entire career out of poking fun at black stereotypes.</p>