<p>I went with a date... and it ruined my prom experience. The boy I went with is a socially awkward mess. He literally would not let me simply talk or dance with my friends. He followed me around everywhere... but was scared to talk to me. So, he would simply stand behind me and laugh whenever I said ANYTHING. Then, during slow dances, he would hunt me down and just stand and stare at me. I would finally say, "Okay, let's dance, then." He would mumble something... and do nothing. I would just stand there, extremely irritated, and I finally would snap, "Are you just going to stand there, or are we going to dance?!?" And then, he would walk up to me and put his hands in the air because he didn't know where to put them.</p>
<p>Even worse, while I was dancing with my friends (during fast songs), he would sneak up behind me and try to grab my... er, behind, and grind with me. I would then have to skillfully maneuver away from him (my best friend and I perfected a special twirl in which we would switch places). Actually, in some cases, I just left the dance floor. One would think that he would recognize these social cues... but NO. And then, during slow dances, he kept trying to pull me VERY close to him. It was absolutely terrible. Seriously. Imagine the most socially awkward, immature, creepy, stalkerish boy that you can... that was my date.</p>
<p>Dinner and the bus (yeah, we had to take buses into the city) ride there were incredibly awkward as well. Despite my many attempts to make conversation, he was too nervous/socially-inept to reply to my questions or comments. The bus ride was, almost literally, 45 minutes of silences (both ways!!!)</p>
<p>The only good parts of prom where the moments that I got to spend with my friends. I spent all of prom trying to AVOID my date. Trust me- you're lucky that you don't have one.</p>
<p>i went alone to my prom saturday night, it was a blast! All my friends brought their "dates" [who were really just their guy friends] and it was really awkward. Because there was only one serious couple. I started [unknowingly and accidentally] flirting with a guy.. who now i have a crush on. And going to an all girls school, everyone noticed. Lol.. but they actually played a few rock and techno songs so i was happy.</p>
<p>omg les0s that is like the prom date from hell. i feel so bad for you! like prom is supposed to be one of the best times of your life. well at least you have an interesting story to tell</p>
<p>ugh your date makes me feel so disturbed and kind of scared</p>
<p>God this thread is depressing. I was exactly like LesOs's date at my junior prom last week. Just realize, he was probably not a bad guy, just intimidated. Had you spoken to him a little (just normal conversation directly), he would have been a lot more comfortable with you instead of being so awkward. Guys have needs too, believe it or not, and you have to work to make them feel comfortable in the situation. I was afraid the whole time of ruining her night by being too forward or loose to the point of not being gentlemanly enough that the effects ran opposite the intention.</p>
<p>I did, eventually, loosen up and dance at that junior prom, but it may have been too little too late.</p>
<p>^^ I'm sorry. But I don't think you were in the same situation as LesOs's date.
He wasn't too formal--he tried to grab her ass and get her to grind w/ him when she obviously didn't want to. He obviously felt very comfortable.</p>
<p>Well, I was sort of like that at the after party at someone's house. </p>
<p>What you said is exactly the problem. To the outside observer, it looks like he was comfortable with the situation and was being stalker-ish. But through the eyes of somebody who has been in the same boat, it sounds like he was just uncomfortable and possibly a little confused.</p>
<p>Or, of course, he could be a legitimately creepy stalker dude.</p>
<p>I didn't actually try to grab her ass or anything like that lol. But the way she was acting, she thought I was trying to make a move. She was like "I don't want to grind." when I had no intention of anything like that.</p>
<p>So yea, I guess that guy's worse. I was just trying to get you into the mindset of the shy, awkward guy.</p>
<p>d4r7h3v1l, I don't want to give the impression that I'm a terribly cold person. Trust me, I know that some guys are just really shy... and it's not their fault. However, my date was just... eeeuurgghhh.</p>
<p>I could understand if he tried to grind with me ONCE (many of the people I was dancing with were, anyway). But, then, I clearly told him I didn't want to do that. Despite this fact, my friends had to watch out for me the entire night. Why? Because he kept on coming up behind me. It was BAD. Just.... BAD.</p>
<p>He now stalks me. About a week ago, I was in the library photocopying some flyers. I noticed him when I walked in, because my mind now automatically sends out a little, "Walk in the opposite direction!" warning (once again, not to sound mean... but, after my prom experience, this reaction is warranted!). He was on the OTHER side of the library (our school library is really big). I tried to photocopy my flyer, but the machine had been left on 2x zoom my accident. I turned to the person next to me, and said something about how machines hate me. The Boy saw me recycle this piece of paper from alllllllll the way across the library (he was watching me), and then came allllllll the way over to ask me if I needed help. Okay, maybe this example seems stupid typed out... but it was very creepy when it happened. Oh, and don't say that he was seems nice and was just trying to be helpful... if you were there, you would have been worried by his stalkerish behavior.</p>
<p>I actually went without a date, and just with a group of friends. My date got in a head-on car accident the weekend before prom, and broke her back and foot. The driver that hit her died at the scene. She's actually getting more surgery today, weeks after the incident and the day of our graduation.</p>
<p>Being dateless is not the end of the world. Trust me, you will have less things to worry about and you can go off and party and not be held back. Plus, it gives you more freedom with who to dance with. By all means, don't miss your prom b/c you are dateless...go, it's a lot of fun.</p>
<p>I was asked by a girl to go, I now feel bad for not going with her after this thread(she wasn't ugly or anything, I just don't have the money to go as a junior).</p>
<p>Coot, pregame before the prom, it will make it a lot more entertaining at least.</p>