<p>What would you do if a sibling of yours went to the same college as you, with him/her starting when you were a junior? My brother started college this year, and now I'm (currently a junior in high school) am starting to look at schools. The one he goes to, while not currently my first choice, is one im planning to apply to. Is this disrespectful towards him? Or do you think I should get his approval first to do this?
One of the reasons he picked that school over the local school which has a comparable program for his major is because its farther from home</p>
<p>While I don't know your brother, I wouldn't consider it disrespectful, and I don't think you need his permision.
However, it wouldn't hurt to casually bring it up once you're a senior and into the application process.</p>
<p>Personally, I'd love to have a sibling going ahead of me to the same school... but my sister is much more than 5 years older than me, and did a completely different college route.</p>
<p>You're brave, pal, not for "intruding on his territory"-which I don't think you're doing anyhow-but unless you have a good relationship with your brother, for going to the same school as him.</p>
<p>I think that in most scenarios, when the oldest sibling sets off for college, they want their space. They want to start a new life, and create some distance from the family. </p>
<p>If you and your brother are really close, it might work out. Otherwise, he may end up feeling frustrated with the situation.</p>
<p>Personally, I would never want my younger brother to go to the same school as me. I've felt crowded by his presence and his drama for long enough. I need my own space.</p>
<p>casually mention it to your brother and see how he reacts. I'd be cool with my brother coming to my university if he so wishes.</p>
<p>I would never want my sister to go to the same college that I'm going to. It takes away from what's supposed to be MY experience as a maturing, independent young adult. Besides, one word: Awkward.</p>
<p>what size school is it? For a smaller college or a LAC, it might matter. If its a large U (15,000+ kids) it doesn't matter; you won't run into him unless you actually try.</p>
<p>I don't know about your brother, but I personally wouldn't mind.</p>
<p>My hubby's younger sister went to the same school as him. He was 3 years ahead. It was an LAC. It was not a problem at all. They had very different interests and hardly ever ran into each other unless they chose to. Even at a small college it shouldn't be much of an issue unless you are both into a lot of the same things.</p>
<p>It is your life to live and make decisions. If your choice is the same college as your sibling, so what, he did not check with you to see if you approved of his choice, why ever should you check with him.</p>
<p>I have had two sons attend the same college, one year apart. While the older brother initially was not happy, I told him, he had his choice and so did his brother. </p>
<p>Over time it was fine, as the older brother adjusted to the fact. They were very different and frankly the older brother was happy to hang out at his younger brother's Frat.</p>
<p>Go to the college that suits you best. Enjoy and good luck.</p>
<p>My brother and I both started at the same college last year. He served six years in the military before heading back to school, I came here right after high school. Our school has 20,000+ undergrads and we have very different majors (Engineering and Business) so we rarely see each other on campus unless it's at the library or a cafe.</p>
<p>He lives off campus (w/ our other brother, who doesn't go to school and is the middle sibling), and I share a car w/ the brother who does go to school. We see each other often due to the car sharing, but seeing each other on campus isn't awkward or anything. We go to movies, grab something to eat, talk about school, etc. </p>
<p>I think part of the reason we don't have any awkwardness is because he was away from home for six years and we were pretty close when we were younger, despite him being six years older and me being a girl. It all depends on you and your brother's relationship. And just because you apply doesn't mean you'll attend. Just remember to keep your options open but don't eliminate a school just because your brother doesn't want you to go there.</p>
<p>I agree with Big Brother 1984 and World changer. Unless its a very large college or you have a close relationship, your brother probably wants his space. Family dyanmics are all different, so you should talk it over with him. That doesnt mean, though, that you can't go to that college if he doesnt want you to, ultimately it's your desicion.</p>
<p>My brother went to the same college I’m going and he was ok with it. Sometimes it helps a lot, recently a kid in my residential college had an accident and his sister (year younger) help buying medicines and food. Depends the kind of relationship you and you brother have.</p>
<p>so far in my grade school and high school life, i went to the same schools after my older brother and before my younger brother, and i was/am in school which each of them.
from being the younger brother (your side), it can be very helpful. they can help get you acclimated to college life, help you if need be, and kind of act like a guide for you, depending on your relationship w/ your brother. also, the schools i went to are relatively small, w/ about 50 kids a grade in grade school and ~220 kids a grade in high school, so it was easy to follow in similar tracks. This however, also has its cons, being at time you literally have big brother looking over your shoulder, and college is a time for you to start experiencing the real world, which would be hard if your brother shelters you.
now, from your brother's point of view, i agree w/ everybody here saying that your brother wants to seek independence, because like you said, the college is farther from home. also, at times he might get sick of having to look over you instead of being with his friends. if, however, you have a best-friend relationship w/ your brother, he may not mind it, and even encourage it.
what i think you should do is talk to your brother about it and consider it when selecting colleges. now, don't make it an important factor, but if it comes down to this and another college, take it into consideration. it all depends on your relationship w/ him</p>
<p>The main point is, this is your life, and 'offending' your brother should not be your primary consideration. Even if you're not close, you'd probably be surprised at how easy it can be to maintain your distance from a sibling. If you end up going, and your brother wants to be around you, he'll probably make that indication himself. If he doesn't, just don't try to force yourself on him and I'm sure everything would be just fine.</p>
<p>My S will probably apply to my D's school, though they will miss each other since she is 4 years older. </p>
<p>They are really close and I think she'd love it if they were together.</p>
<p>The fact you ask at all tells me you are a good brother. I agree with the advice to run it by your brother casually.</p>
<p>It mainly depends on your relationship with your sibling. If you two get along very well, going to the same school probably won't be detrimental - it might even be fun.</p>
<p>A more interesting story is when you go to rival schools, like my brother and me =P.</p>
<p>Please...try going to the same college as an identical twin with different majors. LOL.</p>
<p>I'm an identical twin and I had people saying to me, "Hi, John". And I'd look at them funny because I didn't know who the heck they were, and they'd act like I was giving them the cold shoulder. Walking between classes, you don't have time to stop and explain you're an identical twin.</p>
<p>Much easier in high school, since everyone knew we were twins.</p>
<p>^ That's one of the reasons why I transferred.</p>