<p>Is it a good idea to room with a good HS friend? I've heard that you start hating each other at the end of the year but idk, im sure thats not the same for everyone, but is it true for the most part?</p>
<p>To sound like an old fogey…times have changed. If you room with a friend, you have a good idea of his/her values and habits. Today’s young people are pretty free thinking and if you are both that way great and if you aren’t that’s great too. You know it. The other thing to think about is that if you are at the same school and not rooming together, you will make more friends, but you will still have each other and can get together whenever you like. Then perhaps you will want to room together the second year.</p>
<p>I’m rooming with one of my friends from high school. It’s working out great! We spent a ton of time together while in high school, in fact, probably more than we do now living together, and it was fine, so we figured why not! </p>
<p>We never have visitors really as we both prefer going to other people’s rooms, we’re both a bit messy, but not overly so. Since we have an almost identical class schedule, we generally go to bed at the same time, but if one wants to go to bed before the other, it’s no biggie. Same with waking up. I have an 8:30 class MWF so my alarm goes off at 5 after on those days and I get up and move around. We have some mutual friends, but some friends that are separate as well. Neither of us really party or go out much. I’m much more outgoing than she. We are two very different people, but it works.</p>
<p>Sometimes we drive each other nuts, but that’s how it goes when you live with someone. I wouldn’t chose to do it differently if I had the choice because I’m happy with my decision.</p>
<p>Also, I feel that I can say this safely because we’ve already been through a semester and a quarter…so most of the year. And the one time I think we had any real problem was during finals week last semester. I was overstressed, overtired, and had been rubbed the wrong way by a guy I hate who my roommate is friends with, and she didn’t help the situation, so I yelled at her and basically didn’t talk to her til the day we left for home.</p>
<p>What you have to do is make sure that the two of you would actually live well together. The problem comes when people just assume that because they’re good friends they will also be good roommates. And that’s not true nearly as often as some people think.</p>
<p>It can definitely work, as long as you both understand that your relationship will completely change, and that you probably should and will both make new and different friends. You will eventually grow apart, whether it’s tomorrow or ten years from now, but as long as both of you understand that going into the arrangement, you should be ok.</p>
<p>I think this completely depends on the type of friendship you have.</p>
<p>Have you all already successfully navigated conflicts or issues within your friendship? If your friendship is strong enough to withstand, or if you’re both mature enough to successfully handle conflict, then things are on the right track.</p>
<p>However, I’ve found that college truly changes people, and you don’t always move in the same direction. This can be hard if you’re both really attached to the friendship–it’s painful to let it go, but more painful to keep it going when you both know it’s not going to work out. </p>
<p>If you have the maturity to acknowledge this and have a game plan for what will happen when/if it goes, then that will make it easier. </p>
<p>One other thing…
if you two are incredibly close, it might not be the best thing socially for you two to room together. This is because you’ll be content to only spend time with each other and hesitant to branch out/meet new people you ordinarily wouldn’t. If you two room separately, you’ll both have friend groups, and then you know 2x as many people. </p>
<p>I experienced a somewhat similar situation this year (my freshman year). I was put with a girl from across the country who was basically my twin–we were best friends for the first few months of college. However, she turned into a much more intense partier, dating a sophomore guy and coming in at 5 AM, etc. I maintained our previous friend group. We’ve had a lot of communication problems and completely different groups of friends. I’ve changed a lot, too, and neither of us could’ve imagined something like this at the beginning of the year. </p>
<p>If you’re going to try and room together, sit down and have a very frank talk beforehand. Acknowledge that issues will come up that never did in high school, and you just have to work through them calmly and maturely to avoid huge drama blowups. Also realize that by the end of the year you two might not be best friends anymore, but that’s ok and normal, as long as you’re still respectful and everything.</p>
<p>Well we’re comfortable with each other but I couldn’t afford losing him as a friend, he’s pretty cool guy. So I think we’re just gonna stay in the same dorms.</p>
<p>I roomed in the dorm with a high school friend, and it worked out well. Sure, it wasn’t perfect, but by doing that, we knew going in that we shared a lot of the same values regarding drug use, smoking, staying up all night partying, etc. It took away a lot of the “roommate anxiety” for me, and I ended up sharing an apartment with her and two others for most of the rest of college.</p>
<p>Also, we could share rides home, etc.</p>
<p>There are no guarantees, but I’d do it again.</p>
<p>is it better to room with someone that is doing the same major as you or does it not matter? i think i’ve made my mind up to not room with a friend, im scared i might find flaws in them that put a strain on the relationship.</p>
<p>I think the ideal might be to room with someone who is majoring in a similar area such as humanities versus social sciences versus physical sciences, but who is not in the same major as you. If you majors are similar, there may be some overlap, and your interests might be similar.</p>
<p>I was a History major who roomed with an English major and it worked out very well. We both had to do a lot of reading and writing and we even took some classes together, but we weren’t directly competing with one another.</p>
<p>I think staying in the same dorm is a good idea. You can’t force these things- I’ve tried to make things work with a hs friend and it just didn’t work and we tried. Sometimes its nice if you’re stressed out to go and hang out with your old friend(s) from hs. And when hs reunion time comes, despite how much you’ve changed- you’ll all just feel exactly the same as you did when you were in hs.</p>