<p>Well I had one strike up to monday at the college I attend. It was for alcohol and I'm under 21. They made me pay a $50 fine and was on probation for alcohol. I got a strike on monday for being drunk. Now I have to meet with someone in student life. I will more than likely get a second strike. I would be more than fine with that but the only thing about the second strike i don't like letter sent home. With a second strike they make you take 2 one on one sessions that are like 30 minutes. I don't really care about that as ill just show up no big deal. However besides giving you a second strike and probably a $100 fine they notify your parents through a letter about the incident. When I meet with one of the people they will tell me the consequences and allow me to justify/ explain myself. Im obviously not going to deny the incident but was wondering if there is anything I could possibly say in order for them not to inform my parents. At the meeting they allow you to explain yourself why you think you deserve only certain consequences as long as you justify them. How would I justify to them that they do not have to inform my parents. Any help would be greatly appreciated as I have a meeting tomorrow. Thanks in advance guys </p>
<p>2 strikes so far? Not a good look. However, what has been done has been done, you can only work hard to hope that it does not happen again.
On meeting with the disciplinary team, you just have to own the situation, acknowledge your mistake, and make your request that you do not want a letter sent home, and promise to work hard to not EVER allow such incident again.
If you want to look all formal, type out your speech, and read to them - but in all, you have to show remorse, and an action plan to that will prevent you from being an offender again.
Best of luck to you.</p>
<p>If your action plan is just to tell them “it will never happen again” then don’t bother since you probably already said that after your first strike. An action plan (and following it) will be very important if you wish for them not to send a letter. I would think something indicating the root cause of your underage drinking would be a good start and follow that with what you will be changing so that won’t happen again. Remember that if you don’t follow your action plan and there is a third strike they may throw the book at you, so don’t just go through the motion but really follow it.</p>
<p>The reason that informing your parents is standard procedure for the second strike is supposed to be a deterrent so that you won’t make the same choice again after you get caught the first time. I think it’s highly unlikely that you’ll be able to convince them not to do that, unless you can provide documentation that you would be in actual danger if they found out.</p>
<p>Come clean to your parents. Take your licks. Learn from your mistakes. </p>
<p>Actions have consequences. Here, one consequence is that your parents find out. It sounds like you do not want to suffer the consequences for your actions. It is hard to feel sympathetic.</p>
<p>My guess is that they inform parents with strike two because the consequences should there be a strike three are probably quite severe-- such as being suspended from campus for a semester or similar–something you might want to think about. They don’t want your parents to be surprised in such an event–rather, they want to get you and your parents to have a conversation about your behavior on campus before you get to a position where you may not be welcome on campus.</p>
<p>Some campuses are much stricter than others. Where do you go to school?</p>