<p>hi guys. so anyways, theres a rumor going around that dating a girl will screw you over in school, make you drop for A's to F's in weeks and then you'll flip burgers for the rest of your life..</p>
<p>anyone here a High Achiever and yet with a girl at the same time?
or anyone here who can verify the rumor with their own experience?</p>
<p>I am a high achiever and have maintained the same girlfriend for two years. I am graduating this week. I won't lie, there are great implications when involved in a relationship and going to school. I learned how to balance these out and perform better and sustain my romance. Some people can get really screwed with the wrong girl so make sure to find the right one.</p>
<p>I have had a girlfriend for most of high school -- we've been together since the middle of my sophomore year, and her freshmen year. So I've been with her during the two hardest years of high school, Junior and Senior--in my opinion at least. I took the hardest course loads, 3 AP's Junior year, 6 Senior year, that my school offers, and I ended up 10th in my class. I don't think she affected my grades at all, and, if anything, improved them because she makes me so happy (yes, 'aww' if you must). The only time it really affected me was Sophomore year. We used to talk til 4 in the morning on the phone because we...well there wasn't much of a reason. Anyway, I slept through a lot of classes. I think I probably would have gotten A's and B's in my chem class instead of all B's and a C. Not much of an effect, and worth it in my opinion. Went on to AP chem anyway and got into all my schools, what does it matter. It would be an understatement to say she's worth it.</p>
<p>I was a studying machine all throughout high school. My senior year I started dating someone for the first time, and I still managed to remain number 1 and get straight A's in 7 AP/rigorous classes.</p>
<p>It can be done.</p>
<p>However, it did take a bit of a toll on me this year (my freshman year in college). I spent more time with him than I should have and therefore got one letter grade lower than I should have.</p>
<p>Nevertheless, that was just me. </p>
<p>It can certainly be done, but it's not exactly easy either.</p>
<p>And adding more, I think the only thing that really has affected my friends' grades has been getting a job. One of my best friends was working almost 40 hours a week (he was only at school for 2 classes) and his grades just bombed bc he was too exhausted when he got home to do homework. So he quit his job (his grades stayed the same but that was due to senioritis more than exhaustion....or one in the same, whatever). Anyway, yeah...that's all I have to say.</p>
<p>Its all about time management. Some people will perform just as well, if not better, when they are in a relationship because they know they need to allocate time for the relationship and spend their other time more productively. Basically, some of the things tagran86 said in his first post. Others won't, and they may suffer a performance drop in academics. </p>
<p>Then again, maybe you shouldn't be listening to advice about time management from someone who is writing a paper at 2:30 AM.</p>
<p>yeah. I'd have to say it hurts more when you break up, esp. if it was a strong/long/etc. relationship...THEN it might hurt your grades (or so has been my experience) because you aren't as 'happy'. LOL.</p>
<p>My mom interviewed a kid for Harvard last year I knew a little, who had a 4.0, 1600/800/800/800 and the same girlfriend since 7th grade. He got in.</p>
<p>Our valedictorian last year had a girlfriend for three years of high school. He was incredible, won many state- and nation-wide awards for writing, went to Yale, and gave one of the best speeches I have ever heard at graduation. She went to a great school as well, and did exceptionally well in high school. They were adorable together, and were even voted Cutest Couple in the yearbook. So obviously, having a girlfriend/boyfriend can be a great thing if you can balance it with everything else.</p>
<p>See, my boyfriend and I started dating mid (my) sophmore year, mid (his) junior year. I had severe depression when we started dating, and he's really helped to pull me out of it just by always being there and listening. My grades are now back up to where they were freshman year, before my depression got out of control. His grades have, if anything, been better because if he gets bad grades then he can't go on the internet/phone/or come see me (he lives 45 minutes away, so this stuff is vital for us).
Now, there were some downfalls for those first few months (we started going out in march and did it until the end of that school year) where we would stay up until 5am talking - he has to get up at 5:30am for school (he took the bus and his school started at 7:15). We both definitely would fall asleep during class then. I think we both got over that "new" relationship thing though so we don't do that. Occasionally we will stay up late talking, but that's more if we're in an argument or we have no school the next day.
Regardless, he's gotten into the schools he wanted to get into and is more than happy for the coming fall. It's nice because we try to talk on the phone everynight, that when one of us is up late finishing homework, the other one will stay up for encouragement/help. Or there are nights where we both have to work late and it's just nice to know, if you get frustrated, there's someone you can talk to. He's gotten worried/scared about college next year and I've been there for him. I kow when I go through the college process this fall, he'll be there for me. We both agreed long ago that we wouldn't base college decisions off where the other goes.
So, if you're mature about it, having a boyfriend/girlfriend won't hurt you. The person who I think is this years senior class valedictorian has had the same girlfriend for about a year now. If he's not valedictorian, then he's in the top 5, along with his girlfriend (our school doesn't rank, but I know they're at the top), and were also cutest couple in the yearbook too.
It can be done, unless the two involved act stupid over it and forget everything else.</p>
<p>It can be done. I've had more problems keeping relationships alive (longest one has been 3 months) than keeping my grades up.</p>
<p>haha I have trouble getting in a relationship in the first place...</p>
<p>i strongly oppose starting a relationship during high school...sorry guys..(this is just my opinion...no offense..)</p>
<p>if i start a relationship, i know that i am going to bomb all my classes....</p>
<p>I never have had a "relationship" but I've had some really good friends of the opposite sex (and definitely just friends) and often I talk to them a lot, and it sometimes results in really late nights but in the end I think it's worth it since I've done pretty well this year, and you come out of the school year/high school with at least one really good friend.</p>
<p>i've had 3 in highschool, and my grades went up (percentage).. so i thought it was a stupid myth, but one of my best friends' sister was sophomore rank#1, and dropped to a 3.0 in 1 junior year, after getting a boyfriend.
i suppose it all depends on the person.</p>