<p>DiamondT - i am pretty sure thats how i got into dartmouth with a 2160 sats and being 10/230.</p>
<p>a 2160 is not bad....thats gonna be the average for most ivy league schools</p>
<p>???? lol and youre ranked in the top 10 percent in your class</p>
<p>there's nothing that's "low" about your stats</p>
<p>??</p>
<p>Ha! My parents are exactly like yours Arti. It's either Ivy League or McDonalds. He decided that I would go to an Ivy school before I was even born. My father tells me it doesn't take much to get admitted to one. In fact, he says all of his friends' daughters go to Havard, Yale, and other ominously impressive universities like that. He'd be ashamed and truly upset if I didn't get into an Ivy. Maybe even disown me. Ugh. I'm so sick of working my a** off to impress him. He'll never be satisfied. My father refuses to believe my stats fall extremely low compared to other Ivy applicants. My first d*mn language isn't ENGLISH first of all. And asians aren't considered minority where college is concerned. And many may disagree with this, but because so many Asians receive stellar academic stats, an Asian w/ near perfect sats scores isn't impressive any more. I can go on and on about the disadvantages asians have, both socially, culturally, and linguistically...but I have to get back to the monotonous process of finishing homeowrk. That's all I ever do really. I don't know about you all but having asian parents ruined my life.</p>
<p>I guess I'm extremely fortunate to have Asian parents who push me to work my ass off (Yeah it's annoying sometimes) but also support me in whatever I want to do (I have to convince them sometimes but they aren't closed minded).</p>
<p>Yes, UCLA is in the throes of finals week which comes next week... Also, both my parents are graduates of National Taiwan University (NTU/Tai-da) in Civil Engineering and Biology.</p>
<p>My parents drilled the whole ivy league thing in my head since elementary school. I took SAT classes in JHS, what a waste, I didn't even understand anything.</p>
<p>Theres no freaking way Im going to an ivy league , my GPA sucks. But now they know that Im stupid and just tell me "you're not going to get in anyway, you're not even smart enough to get into NYU Stern, you might as well go to a CC"</p>
<p>yes that light of hope is just so bright.</p>
<p>hahahaha harvard or mc donald, my asian parents say its ucla or skidrow hahaha</p>
<p>Oh yeah, I absolutely LOATHE my parents' stupid analogies.</p>
<p>"Now, if you go to Harvard, you might start at $100,000 a year. If you go to North Lake College (some local community college), you'll only make $25,000 a year."</p>
<p>Yeah, because there's nothing in between, right? And it's all about money, right?</p>
<p>According to them, what's "best" for me is the school whose name will attract the most attention. Screw that.</p>
<p>it seems like the profiles of asian applicants now look almost identical to each other.</p>
<p>"Super Elite colleges receive thousands upon thousands of apps from the "stereotypical asian" applicants with the same exact EC's: math, math, classical music, orchestra, violin, piano, math club, no athletics, no "unique" activities."</p>
<p>Ahahaha. I am Chinese-American and my life is journalism, fiction and politics. Most of my friends are Asian, and you described their resumes perfectly. I now feel a lot better about my inability to understand math =)</p>
<p>My mom wants me to apply to Stanford, even though we had all decided that I would try for the east coast. I think she wants me to go there because California has a lot of Asians, and she's afraid that if I go to some rural school in Mass., I'll hook up with some hippie non-Asian girl for a wife. <em>gasp</em> God forbid! I love my mom, but I have to get away from her sometimes.</p>
<p>hippie non-Asian girl... haha.</p>
<p>So many Chinese or Asian kids in general walk the path that their parents planned for them. Most that do suceed are those that can plan their own future. The rest are all doctors/lawyers.</p>
<p>I'm Indian and my parents suprisingly usually do whats in my best interest...but thats also cuz I've explained it all to them and they realize that I've done my research and know whats best for my future. They don't force me to apply to colleges and encourage me to be optimistic about my ED school even though I know I'm not getting in...the only thing I don't like is how they believe I could've done better on the SATs and that its a test of knowledge even though I tell them on and on that it isn't lol. And asian parents are strict...they think I should study math lets say just for general knowledge even though I'm done w/ standarized tests...lol...asian parents can be ignorant at times, but you gotta understand that they want what they didn't have...and education is the top priority in asian households, which I definitely respect, but sometimes its overboard. I say you have a mature 1 on 1 conversation and show them that you want to do waht makes you happy..not what gets you the most prestige and $, because if that doesn't give you a happy life..its really not worth it. Most of my cousins are doctors...why? because their parents are and forced them into it..some are miserable and some enjoy it. My sister initially went into medical and realized it isn't for her and switched to dental and LOVES IT...she's going to be specializing in orthodontistry (a word? lol) and sees so many more benefits..a happy life with time on her hand unlike med where she'd always be on call, etc. I want to go into business and its what I've been doing since I was 12 and my parents have fully supported me with the $ to start up companies...my dad has taught me whatever he knows and they know business is what I want to do and respect it. They are proud and I think its mainly because I've proved to them that there are other fields out there that can bring you money..not only medical...and if its what I enjoy I'll excel in it. GL</p>
<p>ahh, asian parents. indeed, gotta love 'em. i got a scholarship, and the first thing my dad asks is, "how much? how many people got it?" and not "congrats." it's almost funny, but i'm working on them. =)</p>
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<p>Featherz, that sounds so typical. Wonder what kind of asian parents we grow up to be?</p>
<p>ROFL FEATHERZ thats so typical...when I get first honors in school..my mom doesn't say congrats..she says "how many other people got it?..did so and so get it..what about so and so"...and in the end when she sees im not too happy w/ her questions gives me a big hug :)</p>
<p>I know what kind of parent I'll be...my dad is great and I'll probably grow up to be him w/ a touch of my own...but yah I definitely won't be strict like stereotypical asians...I'll raise my children w/ good values and show them how education is important..but I won't force it on them..my parents didnt force it on me...I realized on my own that its important. I'll be very open w/ my children almost like a friend and whatnot.</p>
<p>"Super Elite colleges receive thousands upon thousands of apps from the "stereotypical asian" applicants with the same exact EC's: math, math, classical music, orchestra, violin, piano, math club, no athletics, no "unique" activities."</p>
<p>I'm chinese-american but I suck at badminton, failed my AP Calculus exam, and am terrible at musical instruments. Anyways, it's funny, my parents don't really care about what I do or which school I want to go to. They just want me to get a college education and make enough to support myself. When I don't "achieve", I'm the only one mad at myself.</p>
<p>Arti, stick to your guns, show your dad statistics, give him examples of people who haven't gone to Harvard, but who have succeeded. . . I think you'll be able to get him on your side. </p>
<p>Remind him that the most important thing is that you do well in whatever college you choose.</p>
<p>I know the discussion isn't on this, but what can an undergraduate expect with a degree from HYP, can all of this buzz be worth the constant parental badgering? Are graduates that much more inclined to make more money? How much does the average HYP graduate make? Anyone care to reply?</p>