<p>Dad: Prof so and so's kid got into NYU and said he didn't want to go to such a nonprestigious expensive school and is going to some state school in ND.
Mom: Tell Prof So and so that financial analysts make an avg of $800k a year.</p>
<p>What she doesn't know: I'm gonna become a corporate attorney. Doesn't matter, just take out financial analyst and put in corporate attorney. Partners at big firms make three times that anyways.</p>
<p>She thought that being a financial analyst was better than being a lawyer, so if I tell her she'll probably freak. I probably won't tell her until I get into law school (hopefully top5).</p>
<p>Good luck on getting into law school. My mom always wanted me to be a doctor or engineer, but I have successfully convinced her that law school is a good path.</p>
<p>This is just a concerned Mom. Being the mother of a senior, I have always admired "asians and their academics". But when I listen to your stories, my heart breaks! I could not imagine telling my child my love depends on your grades. I wish I could scoop you all up and bring you to my home where you would be loved for "just being you" and hopefully becoming a loving, caring, productive citizen. Good luck to you all.</p>
<p>Dear everyone who is complaining that their parents wants them to go to Ivies or equivalents:</p>
<p>My parents don't want me to go anywhere -except- UT Austin. I mention my reaches like MIT and Stanford, and immediately get shot down and lectured. I am discouraged from applying to any extremely prestigious schools, from taking SAT IIs, from filling out college apps, from participating in science fair, from attending my ECs.</p>
<p>So if you're complaining about strict parents, give a thought to those who have parents who attempt to hold them back from their dreams, and be grateful you can at least fill out an app to a higher-ranked college without suffering a weeklong lecture.</p>
<p>haha. I'm 1/2 asian, and my Taiwanese mom insists that I stay home and commute to the local city college (University of Alaska Anchorage, as if most anyone has heard about this school before). My non-asian (caucasian) dad is like, go wherever you have the best opportunities (which is not going to be home). I don't understand...but then again, my mom is obsessed with saving/hoarding money, and it's cheapest at home. </p>
<p>But I absolutely refuse...I will not, not, not stay home, or even go to college within 2000 miles of home (from Alaska to anywhere else in the lower 48 is 2000+ miles anyway). I've lived in the same city and state all my life, and I'm ready to get out of here...</p>
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<p>I convinced her that if being a financial analyst doesn't work out, I'm going to law school and then becoming a corporate lawyer (and there's actually a market for corporate lawyers that were formerly financial analysts, which there is-a BB ibanking stint on your resume and biglaw's banging down your door to get you to work for them at 6 figures a year). She's okay with it. I'll tell her, at the end of my 2 year ibanking stint, that I don't like finance anymore, so I'm going to law school; would you please pay my tuition (my dad offered to, I'm gonna take him up on it). She's gonna be like, which law school, I'll be like....so far I'm in at Penn and Columbia law, and Penn's offering me more money. Harvard's still pending, but I'm not expecting to get in. </p>
<p>Of course, I'm done trying to impress my parents. I'm gonna do whatever i want whether they like it or not.</p>
<p>Anyways ThisSideUp I'll see you at Harvard Law!</p>
<p>UCLAri...no, not yet. It's still far off into the future. I'm still interested in doing an ibanking/corporate banking/consulting/F500 stint before law school, so it's about 5-6 years into the future.</p>
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She's gonna be like, which law school, I'll be like....so far I'm in at Penn and Columbia law, and Penn's offering me more money. Harvard's still pending, but I'm not expecting to get in.
<p>Come to think of it, parents do not have to be severely strict(characteristics so readly portrayed by asian parents) in order have their child/children become successful. It is one of only 2 ways that would work for most people.</p>
<p>1) Have the parents be extremely strict and always be on the child's case. </p>
<p>2) Surround the child by highly motivated students and let peer pressure take its course. </p>
<p>Of course the latter is definitely more preferable to the former. But what if the latter can't be accomplished(i.e poor educational opportunities, bad high schools etc.)? Then the parents have no other choice than to take the child's educational and intellectual development into their own hands without relying on outside sources.</p>
<p>lmao well my parents aren't so strict but they still pull the whole "i want you to go to an ivy league" bs. So i'm not as smart i guess as other asians are</p>
<p>like my mom the other day was like oh why don't you apply to Columbia blah blah and im like your joking right? I'm STUPID mom I can't go there.</p>
<p>..two days later or so
"Oh my coworker's son went to cornell and his daughter went to NYU. Apply to Cornell."
Me: MOM, again, must I tell you I am s-t-u-p-i-d.</p>
<p>I like to avoid the doctor's office because every time I go with her, she goes on this tirade about doctors and their job security. I told her that if I end up going to med school, I'm never gonna get past organic chem and I'm gonna fail out. And end up unemployed. That shut her up. And that doctors get sued too much and I don't want to be a doctor.</p>
<p>While that's not necessarily untrue, I think that the better reason for not wanting to be a doctor is the opportunity cost and lifestyle. While doctors do get sued, that shouldn't be a primary, or even secondary concern. </p>
<p>BTW, biochem isn't so bad. I think the physics is the rough part.</p>
<p>Student14x, there's also a third, and much more attractive option to be sure your children succeed. Strictness and peer pressure are NOT the only ways.</p>
<p>You simply have to instill in your child a love of learning and let that take its course. It worked for me.</p>