<p>is ur dad really like that?
im pretty sure ur exagerrating, no parent is that dumb
my parents are asian, and they used to get on my case too, but they just told me to work hard and get good grades so that i would be successful
they never told me that i had to go to harvard
few parents are like urs, dont generalize for all asian parents</p>
<p>My dad had a strange obsession with UPenn. It was something like because his favourite professor at college went there. It took me a while to convince him to let me apply to Cornell ED.</p>
<p>My parents (Indian) are pretty lax about the whole college thing... they let me pick where I wanted to apply and know that I have decent chances at upper schools like the Ivies, but will be happy as long as I get accepted somewhere. I want to be a doctor (which worked out for them... my dad's a doctor and both parents like that I want to do the same), but for how relaxed they are about the college process, they're extremely strict about my grades and stuff...</p>
<p>Haha... I get a kick out of reading all of these.</p>
<p>My dad seriously wants me to go to Harvard because Princeton isn't good enough (WTH?!)</p>
<p>Still, I did Princeton ED... and it rocks because my dad didn't completely know about the binding policy until AFTER I submitted everything!!!!!</p>
<p>all parents can be like that...</p>
<p>i wish i hadn't told them how i first learned of Stanford, Harvard etc., though. now, they have put this nerve-wrecking pressure on me that it MUST be a top college. i don't think they know how stressful and balding the admission process is....</p>
<p>HAHA! Asian parents! Awesome. </p>
<p>My parents are over that now. After watching me toil over my apps and tests, they just go: "dont push yourself Sam."</p>
<p>but in the end i wonder if they REALLY mean: "you better get in, or else you're an asian failure." </p>
<p>haha. Asian failures...some boy toldme that anybody with an average under 90 is an asian failure. that's horribe. but hilarious, coz it's true. </p>
<p>WOOOOT. Go Yellows!</p>
<p>asian failure. (winces).</p>
<p>wow. the word makes me regret i'm part of a race that half the world expects to have killer grades. yikes.</p>
<p>So when we are all 50 and your kids are writting about thier annoying parents will the stereotypes be the same? </p>
<p>It will be interesting to see what happens when we become the evil parents! (i am not asian but im sure i will be a evil parent in some form or another) Will you pressure your kids to go to a top college?</p>
<p>It must be tough to have so much pressure. My dad complains that i stay home to study for exams instead of going out to dinner with them. He has a PhD and everything ... its not like he does not value education. He just is not use to me studying as in high school i just did as little as possible and my parents never nagged me about it as they did the same. Funny thing is it did not hurt me one bit. I may have actually helped myself by learning how to talk my way out of trouble heh.</p>
<p>It is true that when your older sibling(s) dont meet your parents expectation, they tend to be more lenient on you. My sister worked very hard when she was in hs. She would study til 4-5 am in the morning for tests and projects. During summer break, she took this SAT boot camp which was very stressful and wasn't very helpful i woud say. We both were expected to go to a prestigious college like UCB or the ivies. However, my sister got into Cal State Northridge.</p>
<p>Before my sister went to Northridge, my dad used to tell me that I have to get into UCLA/UCB or the ivies. I didn't really care where they expected me to go for college, because it's about me and not about them.</p>
<p>This is very funny, but after my sister got in to northrdige, my mom and my dad suddenly =) want me to go to the same college........ I got accepted into CSUN, but it is not where I want to go to. I want to go to SDSU, but my parents still want me to go to CSUN because they think it's cheaper if we coud live in same apartment. I have no choice, I "HAVE" to go to CSUN</p>
<p>It's funny how they think of which college I should go to and I am sure they did not have any idea how expensive the ivies could cost them. =) It's funny how they change their mind after my sister ends up in CSUN</p>
<p>Now, I am not saying CSUN is a bad college, That's not what I want to point out to you guys. I want to point out how my parents change their mind after my sister failed to go to those prestigious college </p>
<p>Btw, i'm azn and I did not study as hard as my sister. I ignore when my parents lecture me and even when they compare me with my sister. After I got accepted to the same college as she did, they didnt lecture me about colleges anymore =)</p>
<p>I promise I wont be like those typical asian parents >.<</p>
<p>for the glove of od.</p>
<p>You asian kids are all complaining about your asian parents telling you that you have to go to HYPS.</p>
<p>So what?</p>
<p>Maybe parents are looking out for their kids. Maybe they're trying to make you work hard. Maybe it's not just narrowmindedness. Maybe they KNOW that those colleges give you the extra edge when applying for a job.</p>
<p>Sure, they'll exaggerate a little bit. All parents do that. It's not a strictly asian thing. If you end up somewhere besides an ivy league school, they will not hate you. They love you. Regardless of where you go to college, they'll love you. Don't forget it.</p>
<p>So all you asian kids out there who are willing to stereotype your parents and paint them broadly as narrowminded individuals who drive y'all to hard... take a chill pill. Listen to them. They're your parents. They want what's best for you, yknow.</p>
<p>At least you get good tofu rice and wok noodles.
mm noodles</p>
<p>Arti: first of all, I'm sorry, I have to laugh. That's funny. I know it's a lot of pressure so that's not nice, but still. At any rate, maybe you should do some research on the types of places out there that you might like to go, and present it to him. Give it some careful thought though. And, maybe it wouldn't hurt to throw in an Ivy you might, possibly, perhaps with a strech, see yourself at. lol.</p>
<p>asian failure :eek:</p>
<p>hahahaha, HOLLA!</p>
<p>hey not all asian parents are like that. take my parents they're korean so some might say that they are the epitome of asian parents. they support me whatever i do. My dad was a little concerned when i applied to BU b/c he knew that the degree wouldn't have much benefit to me externally than say a harvard degree but i told him it's not my first choice. i applied to harvard, yale and stanford not because of my parents but because i wanted to. i think my parents would have most likely opposed my decision if i wanted to go to let's say UT-austin(no offense) initially but after some quiet talks i think they would have let me do what i want. in my life they are the voice that speaks out for society. They do consider me as an individual and didn't oppose me applying to columbia ED but they still provide a good perspective when i sometimes become a little too individualistic and perhaps idealistic.</p>
<p>OH I know. It's either the top or community college, even if that comparison is completely unreasonable.</p>
<p>I'm Chinese and a sophmore in high school right now. My dad bought me 5 SAT books when I was a freshman and tells me to read them everynight. I read them a few hours each week now, but he doesn't get mad at me if I don't read them everynight. Asian parents do exaggerate, but they will not do anything to you if you do not do what they say. I wanted to go to MIT when I was younger, but now I think Georgia Tech will be a good enough school for me or Emory depending on which major I want.</p>
<p>look. just don't tell them what you do... i went out with a girl during high school <em>gasp!</em>, which in my family, would've mean spreading rumours until even my distant distant distant Aunt from china knows about it. but u know what? i don't tell them. so what? i'll probably take this girl to prom too. sure they'll know then, but i don't care cause i'm 18 and i'm gonna be leaving the country by the end of this August. </p>
<p>besides, when you grow old enough, i'm sure your parents won't even care what you do in terms of school grades. My parents don't. I don't even tell them any of my grades AT ALL until like report card day. No, its not cause my grade sucks. I'm ranked 2nd out of 650. Its about privacy, and no matter what you and your parents' backgrounds are, you are entitled to privacy.</p>
<p>harvard or mcdonalds
yale or hotel maid
MIT or toilet-washing jobs</p>
<p>talking about extremism..</p>