<p>Hi I'm a freshman at a large public university in New England and I'm having a few issues adjusting to college. I know that everyone adjusts to college at their own pace, and its really only been a week, but I need some advice. The main problem is that my home life could not have been better, I have a family and (high school senior) girlfriend that love me and I cant stop thinking about them and wanting to be with them all the time. Being a self-described unemotional guy, I practically have to hold back tears when i talk to them on the phone, which is very strange for me. I havent been making many friends because the kids on my floor all smoke and they have that in common but I feel I have little to offer. We havent started classes yet and I'm hoping that I will fall into a routine/meet friends in those classes. Its truly the "down-time" that is making it difficult for me, because when I'm bored I tend to over-think things and convince myself that things aren't well I feel as if I'm relying on the few friends from home who also attend this school while they have found friends. My roommate is a nice kid but we couldnt be more different, and I know that you dont have to be best friends with your roommate but it would have been a nice place to start. Am i just not giving this enough time? Sorry for the length of this post.</p>
<p>Read any other thread about this on CC…there are dozens.</p>
<p>Start joining clubs and get involved. You might have to go to 10 or 20 clubs before you find one with people you like… when you find some (or even just one) ask them to go hang out. Clubs are your social network in college.</p>
<p>boredatcollege, I am a parent so dont think I am another student. I can feel your pain and understand 100% where you are coming from. And you know what? it is perfectly normal. Dont look at your current situation as a bad one, just realize that it is part of life. Everyone at home will continue loving you and you need to remember this all day long. Dont look back look forward your life is just starting so from this day forward find a new attitude.</p>
<p>As the other poster suggested. Find a club or an organiztion that fits you. Whether it be sports, politics, working out, study groups, a frat, a department club anything that can help keep you busy and may open new doors to new relationships. Quit worrying about your family and your girlfriend they will be there when you go home. But for own sake you need to make an overhaul to your attitude.</p>
<p>I know you have heard this before: excercise is an excellent mod lifter and helps you feel good about yourself. You will never be happy no matter how many new friends you have if you dont like yourself.</p>
<p>So get out and get active change your attitude and like yourself. Tell yourself everyday that you have a lot to offer and today is going to be an excellent day. Dont say this in the morning or in the evening say it all day long. Today is a great day.</p>
<p>You should feel very confident knowing that your support system at home is there for you. This should provide enough fuel to carry you forward.</p>
<p>Dont look back, dont allow yourself to think you are bored. </p>
<p>Good luck to you and congratulations: today is the first day of the rest of your life.</p>
<p>If you want to read a great book? “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale is an amazing book and a life changer I urge you to read it asap.</p>