^same here. He loves two schools and is having a hard time letting go of the second one. We have made tomorrow our deadline.
@Cameron121 We aren’t sure what parameters we gave her. We told her she could go anywhere in-state, or OOS if it was the same price. We also thought that she understood she had to take the large merit award if she thought the school was at least OK.
I found out D has not only decided, we’re not even remotely the first ones to find out. She told a classmate her choice close to two weeks ago!
@TV4caster whatever you may have told her, are the choices all affordable? It sounds like you are making her take the least expensive option just because it’s the least expensive option.
We were also concerned that D would opt for the most expensive choice. We let her alone but we did discuss what the costs meant to us as a family and to her personally. She’s very much like your daughter. If we flat out said, “we want X”, she would immediately reject X. I saw that when she eliminated schools; the first two to go were my favorites.
This whole college process requires parents to be tactical geniuses, never mind the students.
@SlackerMomMD The difference between the 2 choices is approximately $60K. The money is certainly a factor but it really isn’t the main factor. We think the cheaper school would be a better academic fit (major, rigor, etc), and as good a fit socially.
That’s tough TV4. My son got frustrated when I kept asking him if he was sure about his choice. I thought the other similar school might be better on rigor, similar on other aspects. But really the final decision was his. I just asked him to explain his reasons for the decision. In our case, he agreed that his first choice, very expensive school, was not worth the extra money. He didn’t get into the reach I thought might be worth the extra. However, his choice is still more than our in-state, but we are willing to pay for a smaller school.
@mom2and Yesterday she texted us and said she thinks she has changed her mind and wants to go to the scholarship school. When I asked her last night what her reasons were she said “I don’t know”. She isn’t much of a talker so it is hard to tell where she is coming from. I think we will just let her make the decision and then explain that she needs to own it and make the best of it whatever what happens.
So, @TV4caster, she’s picked the less expensive school? It sounds like your daughter really knows which school is a better fit (and cost). I think it’s so hard for these kids - they really need to own their decision so it’s tough to hear their parents voice the same opinion (go figure - agreeing is bad).
$60,000 is a LOT of money. That would have sent a school out of our cost range. I thought you were talking a cost difference between the two schools of $20,000-$30,000 over four years.
@SlackerMomMD Well, as of yesterday she thinks the less expensive school is where she will go. I’m not convinced that won’t change (maybe several times) in the next few days.
I don’t think she cares too much about the money as it relates to us since she knows we can afford it. I also still think that she thinks the more expensive option is a better social fit. What I think might be making the difference is that at the less expensive option she could almost definitely get a masters and a BS at no cost to her, whereas at the other school she would have to pay for her own masters.
No, my son has not decided. This is really hard. I think I know what he’ll decide, but no school is the “best” fit. They all have some negatives.
ok, add me to the list of moms of fence sitters. 
My son has acceptances to three schools and has flip flopped since last summer between his top two. He “said” he had made up his mind about a month ago and we were ready to move into planning mode. But when I reminded him that he had to decline the other two, he admitted to having second thoughts. We have given him a “deadline” of Tuesday and a research project to make an informed decision. They are both great schools and there is no wrong answer. I just keep telling myself that. :-/
D deposited last Thursday. She is greatly relieved to have made the decision. I am concerned it’s a writing intensive school and she’s severely dyslexic. We have been very pleased the last several weeks as we attended Admitted Day, dealt with transfer credits, disabilities, financial aid, etc. It was difficult to turn down a full tuition offer and a reach acceptance to a top engineering school. Good luck to those still deciding this week!
No decisions here either for my S. @sbjdorlo, same situation here as there is no stand out among the 2 he has it narrowed down to. Both have great features, but there are negatives about them as well. And a 3rd reared its head again this weekend…
We have at least gotten our son to agree to making the college choice by April 30, because on May 1 the housing paperwork is also due, and with all the choices, that is another tome that will take some time to wade through!