Have I Committed a Major Faux Pas?

Hi, everyone!

I’m a first-time poster, though I’ve lurked for quite some time. A couple days ago, I sent a thank-you email to one of my teachers. I’m starting to have regrets, so I thought I’d ask how bad my letter really is (and what I should do, if anything).

Some background:

I’ve been in (online, composition) classes with this teacher for the past two years. He’s been amazing. While I’ve started to hate school more and more, his lessons have always cheered me up (as in, I couldn’t wait until the next one). Back in December, I ran into several problems, and through it all, he was very supportive and encouraging.

At the end of the year, I decided to say thank-you by writing an email. It seemed nice, considering I’ve really enjoyed his lessons. But now that I’ve sent it, I fear I’ve creeped him out. Yes, I love his lessons, and, yes, we get along well. But I worry that a letter was too forward.

I realize there isn’t much I can do, but if anyone would be willing to look at my note and tell me if it’s that bad, I’d greatly appreciate it. I’ll be taking a class with this teacher next year, and I don’t want to give him the wrong impression …

Thank you!

You’re overthinking it. I’m sure your teacher was very happy to get the note. My dad is a professor and LOVES getting letters from students. He saves all of them. If you would like to send your note to me by PM, I would be happy to look at it. :slight_smile:

Hi, there!

Thank you for your reply! I’ll PM my note to you, if that’s alright. (And, yes, I definitely tend to overthink things … )

Great, I will look forward to receiving it.

I’ve attached my (unfortunately long) letter below, if anyone else would be willing to take a look. I’m hoping it was/will be received well, in spite of the fact that I’m a returning student … I’ve removed some of the class jargon, but otherwise the note’s as-is. (And thanks, again, MaineLonghorn!) :slight_smile:

"Mr. X:

I’d like to thank you for making [class] such an enjoyable class.​ ​I’ve learned so much and consider myself lucky to have you as a teacher.

When​ ​I first joined [class], I was intimidated by the course. I’m constantly realizing how much I have to learn (and, at the time, I thought that was a bad thing​​!). I can’t tell you how many times I felt like admitting defeat, like declaring myself a horrible speaker/writer/communicator.

While I can’t say I don’t still feel that way, you’ve changed my opinion of learning. It’s exciting to take risks, to test the limits of my skills. To a large extent, t​h​is is due to your reminders that writing​ ​is a long-term art. You helped me believe in myself, when I felt I was at my lowest. You​ ​gave me confidence in more ways than one.

Though I​ ​value​ ​your encouragement, I’m also​ ​thankful​ ​for your honest feedback. I remember a comment you​ ​made in September: “[Essay] is really repetitive – so fix it!” Your willingness to​ ​isolate seemingly inconsequential faults and techniques​ ​is much appreciated. “Sassiness” comes to mind – it pains me to say this, but I should definitely consider it. [This is a reference to a class joke, regarding my sometimes “cold, clinical” prose.]

On another note, you​ ​make me feel supported when you say, “Please feel free to let me know if any questions or concerns​ ​ arise” – and​ genuinely mean it.​ ​I’m especially grateful for all your support back in December. That meant and means a lot, and I’m glad I could finish off the school year. [I had run into tuition problems.]

Perhaps most importantly,​ ​the eagerness you express to co-learn with us makes me feel like a partner in my learning experience, when it’s​ s​o​ ​easy to feel like a “receptacle to be filled.”

[Quote from class reading.]
I know you have​ ​a lot​ ​to share, but I love how you articulate how much I have to share, as well​.​

As an educator, your title can ensure a role of heightening my knowledge in academics. But you also help me see my uniqueness and strengths. I admire your efforts to get to know us – however startling it is to be “understood.” (And I’ll never forget the Buster Keaton .giffs. They’re just too good.) [Another class reference.]

All of which is to say: thank you. Thank you for being genuine. Thank you for the inspiration you provide, for the enthusiasm that makes every class enjoyable. Thank you for being one of the few great teachers out there. May you inspire others to achieve the greatness you have.

Sincerely,
[My name.]

P.S. My apologies for emailing so late into the summer. I was waiting for final grades to come out and missed any notifications!"

I’ve posted my letter below, if anyone else is willing to take a look at it. I’m hoping it’ll be received okay, in spite of the fact that I’m a returning student … Edits/explanations are in brackets, but otherwise the note is as-is.

And thanks, again, MaineLonghorn! :slight_smile:

"Mr. X:

I’d like to thank you for making [class] such an enjoyable class.​ ​I’ve learned so much and consider myself lucky to have you as a teacher.

When​ ​I first joined [class], I was intimidated by the course. I’m constantly realizing how much I have to learn (and, at the time, I thought that was a bad thing​​). I can’t tell you how many times I felt like admitting defeat, like declaring myself a horrible speaker/writer/communicator.

While I can’t say I don’t still feel that way, you’ve changed my opinion of learning. It’s exciting to take risks, to test the limits of my skills. To a large extent, t​h​is is due to your reminders that writing​ ​is a long-term art. You helped me believe in myself, when I felt I was at my lowest. You​ ​gave me confidence in more ways than one.

Though I​ ​value​ ​your encouragement, I’m also​ ​thankful​ ​for your honest feedback. I remember a comment you​ ​made in September: “[Essay] is really repetitive – so fix it!” Your willingness to​ ​isolate seemingly inconsequential faults and techniques​ ​is much appreciated. “Sassiness” comes to mind – it pains me to say this, but I should definitely consider it.

On another note, you​ ​make me feel supported when you say, “Please feel free to let me know if any questions or concerns​ ​arise” – and​ genuinely mean it.​ ​I’m especially grateful for all your support back in December. That meant and means a lot, and I’m glad I could finish off the school year.

Perhaps most importantly,​ ​the eagerness you express to co-learn with us makes me feel like a partner in my learning experience, when it’s​ s​o​ ​easy to feel like a “receptacle to be filled.” I know you have​ ​a lot​ ​to share, but I love how you articulate how much I have to share, as well​.​

As an educator, your title can ensure a role of heightening my knowledge in academics. But you also help me see my uniqueness and strengths. I admire your efforts to get to know us – however startling it is to be “understood.” (And I’ll never forget the Buster Keaton .giffs. They’re just too good.)

All of which is to say: thank you. Thank you for being genuine. Thank you for the inspiration you provide, for the enthusiasm that makes every class enjoyable. Thank you for being one of the few great teachers out there. May you inspire others to achieve the greatness you have.

Sincerely,
Y.

P.S. My apologies for emailing so late into the summer. I was waiting for final grades to come out and missed any notifications!"

Apologies in advance for any and all “double-posts!” This is my first time posting here, and I’ve run into a couple difficulties.

This is a GREAT letter, and very thoughtful of you. Great teachers never get enough thanks. I’d bet money you made his day. :slight_smile:

This is a great letter, and crosses no lines. It is completely focused on the teacher’s skills, and not at all personal except in how you benefited from them, and that is totally appropriate. I bet you made this teacher’s summer, and your feedback will reinforce his strengths and make him a better teacher for others. I love that you did this. Fantastic. It also demonstrates some quality writing.

At first, I thought, “How can the OP feel this way?” but then I recalled a time when I wrote a note to a new friend at our church. I was kind of gushy and felt funny about it afterwards. So I understand where you’re coming from, but this letter is a gem. No need to have ANY second thoughts about it. :slight_smile:

As a spouse of a teacher, I can say that this is completely appropriate and I’m sure appreciated by your teacher. It’s not unlike many letters my own husband receives and appreciates.

Thank you very much for your thoughtful feedback, everyone! I appreciate it. I’m relieved to hear I don’t seem to be crossing lines. Fingers crossed everything’s alright, in that case!

What everyone else has said. My wife (AP English) would love to get such a nice (and well-written) note.

I’m a teacher. I’m always thrilled to receive letters like yours, whether they’re on the end of a final exam, sent via email, or on a card at the end of the year.

I think it’s great you took time to do this, and genuine! I’m sure the teacher really appreciated it! Thumbs up!

I have a Thing about generic thank you notes to teachers and sports coaches. I made my kids think of a specific example of what they appreciated from this person.



No “you are such a nice teacher” or “you were a great coach” allowed. Your letter is full of specific examples of how your teacher communicated well, encouraged you, was able to give honest feedback in a respectful way. Your letter was exactly what I think a teacher needs to hear from a student.



And I also think the timing is great. End of year rush and exhaustion is stressful for teachers, and your letter could have been overlooked. Now, there is time for this teacher to leisurely read and absorb the letter. Realize the impact of being a teacher.


No, it’s definitely not a “faux pas” to write your teacher a thank-you note. At my current school, plenty of students do similar things and gift their teachers chocolates, gift cards, etc. I’m sure that your teacher appreciated it. I would also suggest writing more emails next year if you feel genuinely up to the task.

It can be uncomfortable to reveal your true feelings. We mask them a lot, and it feels risky sometimes to show them. I think this letter is great. Your teacher will be really happy to get it. It validates his work – I bet that is especially meaningful when he doesn’t get to meet his students face to face. I say good job!