Have you ever been in love?

<p>Is it possible to fall in love while in high school? What are the chances of that happening?
Feel free to share your experiences.</p>

<p>I think it's possible.</p>

<p>i hate it when people at my school say the "love" eachother when they first start going out. It's so annoying. Not like I love Alison or whatever but like seirously tell them that they love you... ugh...</p>

<p>I honestly don't think high schoolers are wise enough to experience true love and everthing it entails.</p>

<p>Ah, this is an interesting topic. High school students these days seem to love to think "Oh, I'm in love!" or "This must be love!" or whatever other foolish thoughts along those lines. I'm not saying high school love doesn't exist, I'm just saying it's infinitesimally rare. And considering the amount of couples who break up after dating for like a week or even less, that further pushes the proclivity of my pessimistic views towards the negative end. Limerance and lust greatly outnumber love in high school, rendering love to be almost a common myth. I could rant on and on about this, but I'm just not quite in the mood (excuses, excuses). I thought I was in "love" before but now that I look back, it was no more than the common naive dreams about Prince Charming and the childish yearnings to love and be loved. It was deception. I don't believe in fairy tales and all of that anymore, where Cinderella finds her Prince Charming and all of that nonsense. I think it's misleading the poor children of today. Those poor, poor girls who think they'll grow up to be glorious princesses and find their ultimate and ideal Prince Charmings. So sad. So misleading and deceiving. And yes, I'm rather misanthropic and cynical. It seems we can't really forget our past experiences and erase the dents, can we?</p>

<p>I'm in love with CC.</p>

<p>I went out with a boy for a year and a half. We saw eachother several times a week and shared all of our thoughts with eachother. I truly think that I was in love, even now that we have been broken up for months.</p>

<p>Just an interesting add to my previous post--strangely, I don't have a crush whatsoever. I'm not trying to sound arrogant or anything, but I don't find any guy "worth" it so far. I'm not saying they're all worthless, I'm just saying that I can't seem to trust any guy anymore anyhow. Besides, it's always ME who supports others; no one really supports me. I'm the source and not the indulger. And I'm sick of it. So I'm stepping out for now. Besides, I'm only in high school. Education is my love. =D</p>

<p>lol vicissitudes I agree I'm in love with CC. I think its more obsession then actual love. What can I say, I get clingy.</p>

<p>I don't think that most high schoolers would have the life experience to discern the difference between obsession and true love. The two are often confused.</p>

<p>Am I sadistic or what? I start cracking up with humor and hysteria inside when I hear high school couples telling each other that they love each other or when I hear that this couple and that couple broke up after like, 3 days. I think love is the ultimate loophole to nowhere, alternating between periods of depression, false ecstasy, and hopeless chasing.</p>

<p>see, the problem with discussing a topic like this... is that even the people who claim they know the true definiition of love, DON'T KNOW WHAT IT MEANS.</p>

<p>Love is too abstract. It's stupid to try to put a definition on it. It means something different for every person. Blasting things like "crushes" or "limerances" as not true love is stupid. Because what love means for one person may not be the same as for someone else. Love is just a word to describe an emotional state, and since you are not that perosn, you have no right to claim that he/she is not in love. </p>

<p>Also, there's no way anyone should claim that someone else is not in love, because you are NOT that person. Even if it was the person's first crush, you have no right to say that it can't be his first love. Love is just too abstract.</p>

<p>My aunt meant the man she eventually married when she was 13.</p>

<p>At an all girl's Catholic school, too.</p>

<p>Marriage and love don't always go hand-in-hand, though. Just because you're married to someone doesn't mean you love him/her.</p>

<p>Well...I like to believe I am in love, considering I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years (March 31st, oh yah). I do agree, I laugh when people say "I'm in love with..." and you ask them how long they've dated and they say a week or something - then you talk to them a week later and the guy they "loved" is gone or they've already cheated on them. </p>

<p>I don't think it's impossible to feel love in high school because everyone is different and has different experiences. See...my relationship was a little weird. My boyfriend said he loved me after about only a month - I was skeptical of the idea of love and kept telling him that he wasn't and didn't know what it meant. Somewhere along the way, I fell in love with him. So...do I believe one can't feel a deep attraction to someone immediately? Personally, I don't, but it happened with my boyfriend. Of course, he's kind of crazy, but that's another story.</p>

<p>My definition of love - A deep devotion to another being. Loyalty to the end. Ability to feel 100% comfortable with the other person, no matter how bad you believe you look or are naked or sopping wet or anything. Ability to tell the other person what is on your mind, even if it's a negative thought toward them. The ability to accept criticism from another person without feeling defensive because you know they aren't being mean, but genuinely trying to help make you a better person or help. Being able to fight with someone and yell, yet still love with - to fight with the possibility of not speaking for an hour or so, yet still knowing that in a few hours the fight will be resolved with a compromise. Knowing that no matter how bad a fight is, the idea of breaking up is never in your mind because you knowing fighting doesn't equal breaking up - it means working through things. The person that can make you cry one minute can also kiss away the tears and make you laugh the next minute. Off the top of my head, that is my idea of love.</p>

<p>If you need an example where marriage ≠love, take a look at Shandong Province in China, or a lot of rural India, where marriages are arranged and many times end up in some form of abuse.</p>

<p>Sometimes I think that love when you're young (not neccessarily in the romantic sense...i don't really believe in labeling different types of love) is in a sense the purest of all because your intentions and beliefs about the world are unadulterated, so to speak. i think it's a time when two people can really bare their souls to one another.</p>

<p>but of course, i feel like i sound like someone who's high on life with her head in the clouds, and it's not true! i swear! psh. teenagers these days are so blase, so very jaded.</p>

<p>"handong Province in China, or a lot of rural India"</p>

<p>Not only that, it's everywhere in Southeast Asia.</p>

<p>i know ppl who have been in love in HS, but i myself have not.</p>

<p>i'm a high school senior and have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and i'd say i am in love.</p>

<p>yeah, i do think the word is used excessively, but does that really mean it doesn't exist for everyone? it's not like anyone here knows me or my boyfriend, so how can you tell me that we're not in love? it's a personal thing, and not for anyone else to decide but you.</p>

<p>Yeah, you want to know something funny? My hindu boyfriend who was born in Bombay doesn't do arranged marriages - no one in my boyfriend's family has had an arranged marriage. Yet, my family, christian from New Dehli does do the arranged marriage thing. I'm not having one (thank God my dad moved out of India and from the brainwashed arranged marriage idea), but my cousin just had one - had to quit her job and everything to move back to New Dehli to marry some guy she'd only talked to once in her life. The sad thing? She's happy about the whole thing. Hmph.</p>