having a sibling in the same dorm???

<p>Hey everyone,</p>

<p>So I recently found out that next year my sibling will be the RA in the dorm that I will be living in (and I can't change this because I am required to live in the dorm as part of this living-learning community I signed up for). </p>

<p>This is really bothering me. Like, a lot. I want the relationships that I build during my first year of college to be autonomous, without the aspect of a family member who will know everyone I know. I also just wanted to escape my family to some extent, as bad as that sounds. I love her to death, but I really don't want her there! Am I just being stupid? Has anyone been in a similar situation before?? This is my dream college (and I haven't gotten in yet but I'm expecting to), so to change that just because my sister will be in my dorm is kind of stupid. Can someone convince me this isn't a big deal? It's really bumming me out. :(</p>

<p>anybody??? pleeeaaase?</p>

<p>Just treat her being your sister as a matter of fact. I guarantee you almost no one is going to care that your sister goes to the same school or is even in the same dorm.</p>

<p>How big is the dorm? How unique is your last name? You shouldn’t have her as your RA–seems like the college wouldn’t want that. I think you will be able to have some separation as she will be busy with her job.</p>

<p>The dorm has about 800 students. haha we have a unique last name and we look similar (people used to get us mixed up in high school).</p>

<p>Well you cab certainly choice not to live in the learning community for your residence hall application. Also your sister may not even be the RA on your floor which isn’t too bad. Also I barely see my RA at all this semester and I don’t think I meant him until a month in the semester. It is probably the case that ny RA is super non active and he doesn’t make plans with the floor but you can definitrly avoid them. If this school Is your dream school you should not let something like this affect your decision because having an older sibling there may come in handy for helping adjust and picking classes and professors. I’m sure you sister has her own friends and classes and will have little time to annoy you lol.</p>

<p>It is likely that your sister is going to be busy enough taking care of the students assigned to her to worry about your day-to-day doings. Also, I am sure she doesn’t want you knowing every one of her moves, either. You will be fine…there will be at least 799 other students also claiming her attention.</p>

<p>I’m assuming there will be more than one RA for the 800 students. Not to mention, if there are 800 students, she isn’t going to know everyone that you know. Let’s be logical here.</p>

<p>But, you could also look at it in a different way. Many freshman have trouble adjusting, so if you need someone to talk to or feel homesick, you have your sister right there for you.</p>

<p>thanks for the replies, everyone! now that I’ve thought about it it really doesn’t seem so terrible haha</p>