<p>I just recently moved into the tower suites as SFSU and I can't really seem to get along with my roommates.</p>
<p>Guy A-Is a very outgoing party like person. He's the one sharing the room with me.
Guy B-Is pretty quite. He's usually in the house playing XBOX.
Guy C-General pretty chill. I don't see him too much.</p>
<p>Guy A and B smoke weed almost everyday. They smoke it in the bathroom and when they're done, they shut the door and leave the fan running with a towel next to the bottom of the door. I can tell because everytime I go in, it smells like <strong><em>ing skunkville. Right now Guy A is playing beer pong with 4 other people on the same floor in our dorm, 2 of which I don't know, the other two I've just met not too long ago. One of the guys I don't know talks like he's yelling to someone 100 ft away when he's right next to them, oh, and he sounds like a total *</em></strong> with no sense of decency, why? Because it's my dorm and he knows I'm in my room but he's having too much fun being drunk that he doesn't realize he's a **<strong><em>ing guest, and that if he goes out of control, I got a *</em></strong>ing uzi and I'll spray his ass til he looks like swiss cheese. Okay, not really, but I've killed him a few times in my head..not even sure what he looks like.</p>
<p>All 3 are general pretty cool people. But I just can't fight the feeling that most of them and the people they bring over don't give a flying ***** about their education. It feels like everyone who's dorming just lives for the sake of partying. They're aware they need good grades but for them it's always "Study Hard, Party Harder." </p>
<p>I honestly don't know how I was placed with them when I filled out my housing application stating I was the type of person who needs his own space and silence. All my friends' roomies seem to get along well with each other in their own peaceful environments and I'm just here suffering for something I don't even deserve.</p>
<p>I can turn in an application in about 2 weeks for a room change but I don't want to end up with even worse roommates/quests. Since I've already heard that a handful of people in the towers I live in partake in illegal activities. I'm down for beer pong and casual drinking but I feel like if I can't get along all too well with the people I'm doing it with or if they're just not my type of friends, I shouldn't bother. On the application it tells me to state reasons for changing but I'm not too sure if I should put smoking, beer pong, as excuses since I don't exactly know who these apps go to. I heard the R.A.'s are in charge of them(students community advisors), they're cool for the most part but they will bust people if they have too. And I don't want to rat my roomies out, I just want to the people in charge realize I can't stand my dorm and I want one that's suitable for me. Perhaps a two-person room could heighten the chances of that..</p>
<p>For those of you who have experienced college life, how did you cope with situations like this? And what do you think I should do?</p>
<p>Let them smoke their weed. It won’t affect you. Just get some air sanitizer if you don’t like the smell, but it’s not really a bad smell at all. If the RA or cop ever asks if people were smoking in there, just say no, and say they can’t do a search. (I think the RA’s can do an open air search, but you can deny the police a search without a warrant).</p>
<p>And beer pong in the living room doesn’t sound bad. </p>
<p>It doesn’t really sound like a bad roommate situation to me. Sounds like a situation where there will be lots of people over, so plenty of people to meet, and if there is beer pong and stuff like that, there will probably be girls coming over too, at least eventually. </p>
<p>Sounds like a good place to live for social opportunities. Might not be the best place to study, but they have study lounges and computer labs where you can do that. </p>
<p>Just open up more socially to the people that are coming over.</p>
<p>Actually, it does affect others, if only because they feel uncomfortable or dislike the smell. I should not be forced to use air freshener simply because my roommate insists on leaving dog turds on the floor, for example. The situation you’re describing with the cop should never be forced upon anyone in the first place.</p>
<p>@OP: Then follow standard procedure. Ask to speak with them; if they refuse, go to your RA and explain your concerns.</p>
<p>I would omit the part where you describe shooting him repeatedly with a gun.</p>
<p>Your desire not to have illegal activity in your room is reasonable. Your desire for different roommates, unless they are uncooperative, is not.</p>
<p>His roommates smoking weed in the bathroom isn’t going to harm anyone. They’re breaking a stupid law, so it’s not reall a big deal. It seems like they’re being pretty responsible with it as far as putting towels under the door and turning on the fan. I would get them to use some air-sanitizers to get rid of the smell, but really it’s not too big of a deal.</p>
<p>Buy some earplugs. No, seriously. My roommate was a total jerk last year, and my room was right next to a floor lounge full of the most obnoxious people alive, so earplugs saved my life daily. At the very least they’ll help you get some sleep.</p>
<p>Maybe talk to Guy A sometime about the noise level. Don’t be a jerk about it, just try to work it casually into conversation, let slip that you have a really hard time studying/sleeping/whatever when there are people shouting. It’s best to be really apologetic and let him know that it’s cool that people hang out at your place, and you wouldn’t ask if you didn’t have to, but he seems like a cool person and maybe he could ask his friend to keep it down a little next time. Let him know he can blame it on you if he wants. Obviously this is all up to your delivery, and you could sound like a total a-hole, but I’d think as long as you seem pretty cool, he’ll try and help you out. I have a really quiet friend who got stuck with a drunk fratboy type last year for a roommate and he had a similar talk which actually worked out well. Any time people started screaming in his suite, he’d hear his roommate shush them and say, “Dude, my roommate is a total nerd, and he has a paper due like, Monday. He’s going to freak out on me if you guys make too much noise.” The drunk roommate being able to blame it on my friend made it easier for him to tell people to shut up without looking like a dork, and my friend got relative quiet. It was funny, because second semester my friend had come out of his shell a little and his roommate had decided to cut back on the partying because his grades sucked, and the two actually ended up being really good friends. They’re getting an apartment together this year. Your mileage may vary, obviously.</p>
<p>As far as the weed goes… I don’t know. If it’s a big issue with you, tell them to find somewhere else to smoke, or at least somewhere better ventilated. Just make sure you choose your battles. If the only thing that bothers you is the smell, I would just suck it up and get some air freshener. If you’re worried about getting in legal trouble, that’s when I would talk to them about it. But obviously it’s up to you.</p>
<p>uh call the police. they get kicked out for the drugs. problem solved.</p>
<p>every single roommate i’ve had has been an inconsiderate jerk and usually i just suck it up and deal but when it comes to drugs i am not willing to tolerate that. at all.</p>
<p>That’s not what you said earlier. You said that it wouldn’t affect anyone.</p>
<p>That is wrong. If it bothers the OP, then it already affects him. Furthermore, whether you consider particular laws “stupid” or without basis is irrelevant. They are breaking a law, period.</p>
<p>As far as the weed goes just tell them that you would prefer that they don’t smoke in the bathroom, and if they do at the very least invest in a vaporizers so you don’t have to smell it all day. I’m sure they will be more than understanding.</p>
<p>I’d start by talking to them about it. I don’t think there’s any reason to really do much of anything, especially something that could get them in trouble with police, until you’ve discussed your problems with them. You never know, they may be willing to cut back on the weed/beer pong in your suite. I’d say have a discussion with them, and only take further action if the discussion doesn’t go anywhere or they don’t change.</p>
<p>I’ll ask them about the vaporizers. Just a while ago I think all 7 of them cheefed in the bathroom. Most of them are drunk in addition to that which makes it even worse. Two guys even attempted rap battling; it was pretty funny.
But honestly, I’m likely to just get a room change. Even if they tone it down, it’s just going to escalate back to what it’s like today.</p>
<p>redmangoose, it kind of makes me angry to read what you’re whining (like a teenage girl) about. Honestly I could never have you as my roommates, and have you ever thought what the other 3 roommates think about YOU? It’s probably not good things…</p>
<p>…and I don’t know where you go to college, but If anything you better request to live in substance free housing. Snitches get stitches, and I guess you’ll learn that soon enough.</p>
<p>Eh, he doesn’t sound too bad. It’s not like he’s turning in his roommates or anything like that. I would say that it would be better for him to embrace the social benefits that could come with these roommates, but if he doesn’t want to live in a situation like this, then that’s his freedom. But it’s still very mature of him not to be running to the RA or whatever snitching on his roommates.</p>
<p>Sorry If I’m sounding whiny. I come from a high school full of conservative people. Back then I didn’t hear of anyone throwing parties.not a single one. Moving here, it’s just all too much at once for me.
One dude just barfed all over our living room table. Everyone wants my roommate to clean it up but he wants me to do it because I’m sober… It’s becoming into a give an inch take a mile situation.
I don’t want to rat them out, but I don’t know what’s convincing enough to say that’ll get me out.</p>
<p>"His roommates smoking weed in the bathroom isn’t going to harm anyone. They’re breaking a stupid law, so it’s not reall a big deal. "</p>
<p>It could hurt him. If weed is found in his dorm apartment, everyone in that apartment could be charged, and if convicted, the OP could lose any federal loans that he has, and he will never be able to get federal loans for college. In addition, he could be kicked out of school.</p>
<p>My college student son’s one rule for his freshmen year roommates (who were partying pains) was no drugs or booze (college would kick out students if booze was found in their room) because if that stuff was found, S would permanently lose hi federal loans and college merit aid.</p>
<p>His roommates abided by those rules and S never complained about what they did which included one roommate drunkenly having sex in the room when S was trying to sleep (blech).</p>
<p>“Everyone wants my roommate to clean it up but he wants me to do it because I’m sober.”</p>
<p>Do not clean it up. Let him deal with it and any other drunken messes he makes. I can’t post here what I think of your scumbag roommate.</p>
<p>Call your RA, call the Police, blah, blah, blah…is everyone a wimpering toad?</p>
<p>First, the police have much better things to do than search a dorm room for a dime bag of weed.</p>
<p>Secondly, man-up or man-out. If you have a problem, go handle it. You’re living with 3 other guys, this sort of stuff is going to happen in college. If you don’t like it, confront them about it. If nothing changes, get a room change. If you need so much space and silence, you shouldn’t be living in a dorm setting - that’s what they make apartments for.</p>
<h2>I can’t post here what I think of your scumbag roommate. ~ Northstarmom</h2>
<p>You are an adult and you are calling teenagers, who you only know from a one-sided story scumbags? </p>
<p>Sounds like you are just projecting because your son had a bad experience in the dorms (gosshhh,a college kid had sex in a drom, GASP!)</p>
<p>From what I can tell, there are 4 people living in the OP’s dorm, and he’s the only one who has a problem, so perhaps he needs to find a living situation that is more suitable to him.</p>