<p>Kiddos went to all kinds of schools, large in-state publics, OOS publics, LACs, ivys, and academies.</p>
<p>Of all of these son’s experience at his ivy, smaller, I think 96% live on campus all 4 years…residential colleges…they did hand hold. Not just the RAs but the Masters, the advisors, the mentors, the preceptors, and all his fellow students. When one of his hallmates (all had singles) broke her ankle and was on crutches in a cast with NO elevator to the 4th floor they volunatrily made up a schedule of who was available to carry her up the 4 flights everyday, several times a day. </p>
<p>They had they golf cart to get her around campus and son was designated driver and one of the designated "carriers’. Granted as a football player he had the size to do so but he would get texted in the middle of class or lab, run across campus run with her up 4 flights and run back to class. This lasted for months til she could walk again.</p>
<p>They had each others schedules posted in their rooms so they knew if someone over slept. They joined together to get better rooms for housing lottery. And it was this way during all 4 years. As an alum when he was traveling all over the country for med school interviews he always had an alum waiting for him at the airport and with a place to stay.</p>
<p>Made a huge difference in his med school interview/application process. Saved thousands $$. So now 3 years after graduation he still sees his buddies from there MONTHLY and he lives 5 states away. He has been best man at their wedding, helped each other move into new apts and help locate jobs for each other. They go to the same law schools, i-banking jobs and most are all still roommates in some shape or form. This is at least 25+ people. Unbelievable!!</p>
<p>The only other situation I have seen this level of loyalty and commitment was from other son’s time at the academy. They are truly dedicated to each for those 4 years and then for the rest of their service. The level of dedication and stewardship to each other is something to be treasured.</p>
<p>I think if one is honest about their child and their needs and AWARE of what can trigger a more “toxic” outcome that would be a start. When looking for fit my boys knew better than I would what they would both truly value and how much they “needed” to be a part of something that was bigger than themselves.</p>
<p>Kat</p>