Hey parents of College Confidential,
I was wondering if you could give me some advice on how I should approach this situation.
For those of you who don’t know, I’m applying for the Caroline D. Bradley Scholarship. Up until now, everything has been going smoothly- I’ve uploaded my documents, my teachers have written their recommendations, and my essays are done. However, yesterday my dad got really upset at me and now says that I’m not mature enough to go to boarding school.
A couple of days ago, I was working in my dad’s room. His Ipad was not charging, and I ignored it. When he got home, upon seeing that his Ipad was not charged, he got pretty mad at me, saying that if I lacked compassion for other human beings, then I wouldn’t get anywhere. Of course, I don’t really have a problem with this- I was wrong.
Yesterday, my dad called me from work saying that he was going to self isolate when he gets home because of COVID-19 (he is a doctor). He told me to heat some water up so that he could use it to take a bath (I don’t understand why, but…?). When he got home, I forgot to heat the water, so I quickly put it on the heat hoping he wouldn’t notice. He found out I didn’t heat the water, and he got so upset that he told me that I won’t be applying to the CDB scholarship because I was not mature. I told him that I would be wrong to make my teachers write detailed recommendations and then tell them I wan’t applying, but he still said not.
I waited the rest of the day hoping that he would calm down and take his words back, but he never did. When I was about to go to sleep, my dad, again, said that I needed to be more mature before going to boarding school.
Before this, my dad never really cared about me applying to boarding school. He never was excited about it as me, but he understood being able to go to a boarding school has been my dream since forever. My mom, on the other hand, really doesn’t want me to go, and she will NOT write my parent statement or help me send my SAT scores.
I’m sorry if my story was kind of confusing. I’m in panic mode, and I really don’t know what to do right now. My dad telling me to stop all of this is against his own morals- he always tells us that when we start something, we have to finish it.
I was hoping you guys would be able to give me some advice on what I should do, as parents. I honestly feel so sick right now, and I really really want to apply for this scholarship.
Sorry for the long post.
Thanks,
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