@compmom HaHa! Well I’m glad we are of the same opinion about the “B” and similar schools! And I did take time to look at the list of schools you gave me and there ARE a lot of great and surprising schools on it! That eases my mind a lot to know that she will have those options. Thanks for the help!
Awhile back I asked for examples here on CC of kids who did mediocre on the PSATs and then went on to do well on the SAT and ACT. What I learned was that if ones preps a lot they can improve. They will also have had more schooling by the time they take the SAT/ACT. Get her the best test prep or have her self study. Look at the testing forum here at CC. Good advice there.
As for her fangirling, I have a D the same grade as yours and what I noticed is that they are under so much pressure in school and have so much work that in their downtime they often like mindless activities. My D and all of her peers bingewatch lowbrow series on Netflix. My D will occasionally sit in her room with a pile of Archie comics or watch makeup tutorials on Youttube. So, it’s not at all unusal for your D to want to escape into a fantasy world, especiallly considering how hard she works. She will be fine:)
One other thing, I personally think it’s ok to push your kid a little if it’s good for them. Volunteering is important, so look into opportunities in your area and give her some options, but tell her she has to do something or she’s shooting herself in the foot. Also, after she chooses something, it’s up to her to reach out to the organization. Not everyone has a kid who is highly self-motivated. A push here and there is fine.
@compmom, where does the OP say anything about ADHD and meds? I must have missed it. OP, have you considered not allowing her to have her phone during homework hours? 5 or 7 hours is extremely excessive, the extra sleep IMO would be more valuable. Sounds like a good, hard working girl, but some time management skills might do her well now so she takes those skills to college.
Eta, I see the post re ADHD.
A couple more things, lol (I keep adding to this thread). My D was taking forever doing hw until we asked her to put her phone in another room while working. It’s amazing how much less time she spends on HW now. Hmmm… Between instagram, dm’ing, snap chatting, texting, looking at videos on the phone…
I know of two crappy books that can make a teen girl excited about reading. The content may be mature and the writing not great, but both books are pure fun for the relucant reader and were huge hits when I was a teen. Forever by Judy Blume and Flowers in the Attic by VC Andrews. If she’s like most teen girls she won’t be able to put them down. My philosophy is that it’s better to read crap than to be scrolling through instagram:) Also, reading junk can get the joy of reading into gear and can lead to wanting to read better quality books.