<p>so she broke up with me a month and a half ago, due to her parents (other issue too, but those issues were a lot more resolvable). her parents forced her to let them read her email and got extremely angry, and told her never to talk to me again.</p>
<p>of course there were other things too. i said some hurtful things to her (which i have profusely apologized for by now), and i also acted unnecessarily negatively+neurotically about my own life. i'm definitely showing that i'm changing those things on my blog though. </p>
<p>okay so the next few weeks were extremely painful for me (since she wouldn't let me talk to her). eventually she did start to talk a little to me again. but that was when she was still in the dorm and not with her parents. now that she's with her parents, she doesn't talk to me anymore and barely even reads my blog anymore.</p>
<p>so i'm very stuck at this point. i don't have any friends in real life (nor do i have any realistic chance of making them; I don't have very much time and don't want to spend too much time searching for people who are going to reject me anyways), but i do have a few friends from CC. </p>
<p>ugh so help? her parents were always very suspicious of me, accusing me of being a liberal who brainwashed her (they're conservative republicans, which is probably the minority among Indian parents, but when you combine conservative republicanism with how many indian parents treat their children in general, it doesn't get very pretty at all). i don't know if i can ever talk to her again. but she was one of the only people IRL that I could remotely be compatible with. plus she told them i was an autistic 100-pound kid at one point... so they accused me of being a "retard" since "autistic" apparently translates to "retard".</p>
<p>plus she has often felt like she wants to be very close to her parents+family anyways. not that i can fault her for it, but it still hurts like hell.</p>
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ps: i'm sorry for that thread i posted last month - i was severely depressed due to that incident and had to exit out of it since i was too depressed to listen.</p>
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<li>Never should have said those hurtful things.</li>
<li>If you truly love her, you would talk to her regardless of risks of her parents.</li>
<li>Autistic = ■■■■■■■. I thought the world was smarter than this.</li>
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<p>She wouldn’t let me talk to her - that was the thing. We talked for a short while but only when she approached me since she generally didn’t reply to my emails.</p>
<p>Autistics are not ■■■■■■■, a lot of them are creative geniuses. </p>
<p>And sorry man. Let this just be an experience and move on. There are a lot of other girls out there, one that i’m sure you’ll be even more compatible with. Plus you definitely do not want to stay around with the type of parents she has.</p>
<p>^^^ Don’t say that…youshouldnt ever tell anyone to kill himself…that’s just wrong/mean (and they could also end up doing it–just in general).</p>
<p>^^ I don’t think he’s a ■■■■■.</p>
<p>@InquisitiveOne: awww. I’m sorry to hear that :(</p>
<p>I thought you had asperger’s??! (oops it’s still autism but a milder form, right?)…</p>
<p>Okay the very first mistake you made was engaging in an online relationship. Try building relationships in REAL life. You know that the internet /=/ reality. You could perhaps use a dose of some reality.</p>
<p>I think you should let this relationship slide by and just forget about it.</p>
<p>You should also at least * try* to make an effort to be social. As difficult as it sounds…I’m sure you’re very interesting and many people will like you for who you are… :)</p>
<p>Realize that you can’t live in the past. It’s wasting emotional energy. The strongest people don’t think about their mistakes as failures, but rather as a chance to learn. Your experience will shape you into a better person.</p>
<p>Walk tall, smile, be friendly, and you’ll be on your way.</p>
<p>okay thanks for all the replies everyone. they help somewhat. the relationship was actually one in real life (although we mostly talked on the internet). yeah I know I <em>should</em> move on in principle and that I’m wasting emotional energy; it’s just that it’s hard to do it.</p>
<p>as for how indian parents have to do with it: I’ve seen a lot of threads on CC complaining of how indian parents are often overprotective of their children.</p>