help lol

im a week away from moving in and im so nervous idk why i mean its just so scary to be going through such a big change i guess? im doing sorority recruitment and im really really nervous for that bc im pretty shy (at first) so i hope thats a way to meet a bunch of people. for some reason im just really worried that i won’t make friends during college bc im so awkward and shy and that it’ll get lonely and just go down from there…

I’d guess that most of the other freshmen are shy as well. And nobody else will know anyone either. As a dad, here’s my best advice: be careful at all the parties that may pop up those first weeks. But everybody there is worried about being lonely too. Good luck!

It’s totally okay to be nervous. You’re right, it is a big change and I think it’s important to acknowledge that!

Anyway, I found that the best way to make friends was to join clubs. And I know that’s super-cliche, but I have to clarify that not just any club will work. I met one of my closest friends when I joined Philosophy Club, and we connected because she was so interested in what I had to say. And what I had to say was so interesting because I was so genuinely passionate about it. I managed to impress her just by being myself, and I think in general that’s a good way to go about it. Because "be yourself " is also a bit cheesy, but people say it for a reason. :slight_smile:

It will be fine. But don’t hang your whole social life on sorority recruitment. If it works out and you decide to join, that is fine. But as @Philpsych says, there are other ways to make friends – join clubs or activities, sign up to volunteer, get a part time job on campus, ask other students in class to form a study group together. Get out and be active, and you will meet people.