in my jr year of high school i was suspended for 3 days for fighting two girls. However it was three against one and they were messing with me. I got suspended because i didn’t say anything to a teacher or something. Now i have to write to my colleges about the reason i got suspended but i dont know what to say
Who says you have to write to the colleges?
Talk to your guidance counselor about it. I got suspended for a week earlier this year and I’m a senior. You don’t have to write in the space that asks why you were suspended. If you do choose to, emphasize your regret and how you’ve evolved and make it brief.
Your guidance counselor will fill out a form asking if you were suspended. They have threw options: yes, no, or school does not disclose this information. If you have a good relationship with your counselor, they may choose the last option. Your guidance counselor could also check yes and write that it was a minor offense and that you have matured since then. Neither of you have to disclose what you were suspended for.
I was already admitted to northeastern with merit despite my suspension 
Explain it with maturity. If you have a good record, no other issues or concerns about your behavior, it will probably have little impact. But you’re a new poster, so we know nothing about your thinking, record and what sorts of colleges. So all we can say is: write with maturity, no lengthy she said this and I said that and then she, so I, and then… Make your point and show you learned from it.
I agree. I would talk to your guidance counselor before doing anything else. He/she can help you through the process and tell you what to include vs. what you can leave out in terms of reason for suspension, etc.
You couldn’t have walked away, or got an adult? So, they were “messing” with you. That is very vague, and it implies that you hit first. You deserved the suspension, clearly, as you didn’t bother to alert anyone in authority before you engaged in an altercation with other people. It doesn’t matter if there were three of them and one of you, you still need to do the right thing, which is not being violent. Violence is never the right thing, nor is verbal abuse. Maybe they provoked you, but you still have to be the better person, because you have to think about your future when you get involved in things like this.
Hopefully, you have a good relationship with your counselor. If he/she discloses what actually happened, you need to be sure your counselor SEES that you are remorseful and you have learned that being mature means learning to walk away, not being violent. I think you have to think hard about how you will respond to such incidents in the future, because it seems that maybe you aren’t ready for college. Colleges do not want violent people on their campus for obvious reasons. IF your counselor does report it on your college app, I would definitely be prepared to write an explanation of how you learned your lesson, and the steps you will take to ensure it doesn’t happen again. There is a supplemental section on the Common App for adding important information such as this. Good luck to you.
Yeah, “messing with me” sounds immature and gang.
@Lindagaf The OP “implied” that she/he was confronted and threatened and had no other choice. This is a very traumatic situation that occurs daily at schools across the country. Administrators, GCs, and other adults who could help ignore them until the fight is caught on video, then punish equally the aggressors and the victims, so you are wrong to conclude without any other support that the suspension was “clearly” deserved.
Oregon2016, the OP is seeking assistance but describing the provocation as “messing with” is not very informative. and like it did not here, using that term probably won’t garner too much support from the GC or the colleges.
I don’t care if OP describes this (to us) as “messing with.”. Many hs have zero tolerance, no matter what. The point is how she relects on this in the app section that asks. No need to guess this is “gang” or that OP is violent.
Oregon2016, the OP states she fought two girls because they were messing with her, and that she was suspended for failure to alert anyone in authority. It seems clear that OP is taking blame, and I guess we can at least commend her for that. Of course, I might be totally wrong, and I don’t doubt it is traumatic. If the OP had no support from the school, that is a sad situation.
In reading again, I think this has already been reported on her application, and she is wondering how to now address it to the colleges she has applied to, who are looking for explanatory letters. My advice still stands. Discuss only the lessons learned and how it will never happen again, and that OP is mature enough to handle college. Do not attempt to blame anyone else, etc… They want to know that you will no longer act violently in a similar situation.
@shasha11233 I was assaulted during lunch at my school many years ago. I did nothing to provoke the two girls who tore out clumps of my hair. I was mortified when the principal said that I would be suspended unless I promised to “stay out of trouble”. It makes me sad to read the advice of others (who have never worked in an admissions office) to accept all the blame so you can get an acceptance but I caved in too. I hope it works out for you.