<p>Artic16, LOL That's funny. :)</p>
<p>Again - choosing not to date someone you're attracted to because they're of a different race is RACIST. You're all trying to put it under a different label, saying it's cultural, it's family values, but it's racist, plain and simple. You are treating someone of one race differently than someone of another - being racist. Just accept that you're a little racist (we all are) and move on.</p>
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Again - choosing not to date someone you're attracted to because they're of a different race is RACIST. You're all trying to put it under a different label, saying it's cultural, it's family values, but it's racist, plain and simple. You are treating someone of one race differently than someone of another - being racist. Just accept that you're a little racist (we all are) and move on.
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<p>In that case, yes, I am racist.</p>
<p>To answer the original question, I'm a white girl and one of my best friends is black. HOWEVER, other than my close friend, I pretty much have never met another black girl I would want to be friends with. This has to do with two things- one, the area that I live in does not have many minorities at all (my town is literally .25% black) so I haven't had the chance to meet many people of other races, and two, the approx dozen black girls I've actually had the opportunity to talk to have been your stereotypical loud, outspoken black girls. Most white guys I know are not attracted to people with those types of personalities no matter what race.
I don't know whether to think this is representative of most black girls' personalities or not but that has been my experience. Sure, there are loud, outspoken white, asian, and hispanic girls, but in my experience it's a more balanced ratio between normal, friendly and outspoken, overly self-confident</p>
<p>I agree with you luckycharmed that refusing to date someone you're attracted to just because of their race is (under most circumstances) racist. </p>
<p>But how about someone who just isn't attracted to people of a certain race or people outside of their own race... are they racist too? And if yes, then what about people who say "I prefer guys/girls of X race" when it's not their own race? Does this make them racist against their own race because they're not attracted to members of it?</p>
<p>In response to those questions, I'd maintain that not being sexually attracted to a certain race isn't racist. After all, one can't help their sexual preferences and turn-ons.</p>
<p>Choosing not to date a Black girl as hot and smart as Yaya DaCosta (Brown graduate who starred in "Take the Lead", as well as "America's Next Top Model") because of her race makes you a stupid racist.</p>
<p>There are beautiful and pleasant girls in every race, and there are handsome gentlemen in every race too. Choosing to believe otherwise DOES make you racially prejudiced.</p>
<p>Just to chime in:</p>
<p>Some people that are opposed to dating black girls aren't that way because they are racist, they are that way because of their religion. I'm a Christian, and based on that, it's against my belief to date outside of my own race even though some of my best friends are black females.</p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>
<p>Please take the time to go out of your comfort zone and meet some other Black people. I could easily say that all white girls are catty, mean, back-stabbing, prejudiced, snobby, liars, insecure, and slutty, just from the ones I have been in contact with. But I know, of course, that I can not judge a whole group of people just from a few I know. Plus those characteristics can be exhibited by anyone of any ethnicity.</p>
<p>And what is wrong with being outspoken, given the history of Black people in America especially the plight of the Black woman, the only way she can survive is to speak up for herself.</p>
<p>And to AlexGFX, I am Christian too, does that mean I can't date my fellow Black people? Where in the Bible does it state that? Please tell me you're joking...</p>
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<p>Since when is dating outside of your race non-chrisitian? I really find that hard to believe, especially since mixed couples are very common at my church. What kind of Christian are you?</p>
<p>Wow, really? My parents have been lying to me for the past 18 years, then. </p>
<p><em>Gets giant salami and whams dad in the head</em></p>
<p>My bad, I seriously thought it was one of the sins O_o. Guess I need to goto church and read the bible more...</p>
<p>LMAO....(10 char)</p>
<p>Not finding certain features common in certain races attractive is NOT racist. You can't help what you're attracted to. However, there are many people within each race that don't have "typical" features. I know several black girls who are mistaken for white CONSTANTLY. The question is, if this preference extends beyond the feature and is merely based on the race. If that is so, then yes, it's racist.</p>
<p>Haha, I love when racism is played down. Yeah, a lot of you guys are racist. Just admit it. (I especially love the guy who said going outside their race is non-Christian. Way to go man. Preach god's word!)</p>
<p>But anyway, I'm white and I'm attracted to women of every color. My girlfriend right now is Indian.</p>
<p>Hey Huey have fun with the Indian girl's parents.</p>
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It could be the result of the "pure exposure effect" (or "pure disclosure effect"?) i learned in AP psychology last year. Basically it says that you tend to like something you see more often than others. This explains why most people are attracted more to their own race, and also why white people seem to be at an advantage over others (more whites on TV and ads).
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<p>I was going to say essentially the same thing this poster said, and then I discovered that it's a documented effect.</p>
<p>A white male, I dated two black girls seriously, and had a few other non-serious flings. The first girlfriend I had who was black was actually half black and she had gone to a HYPS school. For awhile, I thought I might marry her, but that turned out to be undoable for the normal reason unrelated to skin color (at least her skin color; actually her brother, whose mother was white, hated me because he thought I was too white and lobbied against me). </p>
<p>Anyway, the main reason I don't date black girls anymore: I simply don't meet any that would be a good fit. I now live in an area with a lot more whites and Asians than blacks. I did go to a couple of night clubs a couple of years ago and met a couple African American women I thought I'd be attracted to enough to go out with, but when we talked it wasn't happening -- too big a cultural divide, so it would've been just a fling if it turned into anything.</p>
<p>On the other hand, I lived in places where there were black women in enough numbers that I felt cultural affinity with that it became a lot more of an option. And it's one I pursued as a result. There were actually a few years I didn't go out with white women.</p>
<p>When the pool's big enough, the stock of the individuals in that pool goes up for some reason. </p>
<p>If the OP is looking to go out with a non-Black guy, it would be easier if you find guys who've already broken that "barrier." On the other hand, don't be some guys jungle fantasy.</p>
<p>Ive dated black girls, white girls, indian girls, chinese girls and a Japanese girl. the white girl i dated definitely wanted more of my attention than any other, the black girl made me go thru a lot of 'tests' to prove myself, the chinese girl was clingy and the Japanese girl was more an angel. i cnt talk for evryone about everything but i can talk about myself about things like dating and i would date of the above mentioned girls if given a choice so to me race is nothin but a cover.
Im black by the way</p>
<p>Personally, I feel that preferences about race are exactly the same as preferences about height, eye color, hair color, build, etc. Some people find beauty in all races, but there are others who just aren't attracted to some of the predominate features within a certain race (or of any race other than their own, even).</p>
<p>And yeah, there are also sometimes big cultural differences that some people may be turned off by or feel that they just couldn't work through. It's just plain stupid to claim that there aren't.</p>
<p>But one cannot say that there is one culture with Black people, or one with white people, or Asians, or Hispanics, etc. I'm Nigerian and my family's way of doing things will not only be misunderstood by some white people, but by some black people and other "races" as well</p>
<p>And what predominate features other than skin color, and not even that very much, do Black people possess? Or any other race for that matter?</p>
<p>MightyNick,</p>
<p>Her parents already know...no need to take your frustration out on me man, look for your local klan meeting(ok ok, that's too harsh).</p>
<p>Huey, wow! It was obviously a misconception I've had since childhood. It has nothing to do with being racist. I admitted the fact I was wrong, yet you still put me down for it. Shameful.</p>
<p>Back to the subject. I don't date cats. Does that make me racist toward cats? Lock me up. My bad. I actually thought I had a choice over who I could date. But I guess unless I open a booth and give everyone a date, I'm racist.</p>
<p>Oh, and I have a name and it's not "the guy"</p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>